5 Things You Need To Stop Doing Today

Stop doing things that disturb your well being

I realized I was disturbing my mental peace as I was constantly doing things that were hurting in some or another way.

I sat with myself to figure out my thoughts. I ponder over my past and present actions and that gave me a whole picture in front of my eyes. I started doubting myself and my actions as I was trapped in certain things that I want to change for a long time but I didn’t change because of society and my own insecurities.

As we all want to escape from certain things but we get afraid and don’t alter those trajectories of our life.

I am here to say that only you can change your path and it will alter when you stop giving importance to things that disturb your happiness. Here, are 5 things I stop doing to be happy and even you can do it.

1. Stop trying to change people instead work on your own growth

I hated some actions and habits of my fiance and I wanted him to change those.

I started quarreling about things that were disturbing to me of him but it took me almost a year to realize that he is the master of his own actions and if he feels that right then I don’t have any right to change it.

As those things were not interlinked with me and he or anyone else has the right to do what they want even when you have different views on it.

The lesson from it:

Changing others and blaming others for their actions will eventually hurt us. So stop doing it. If you don’t like it. It’s perfectly okay as everyone has different priorities and opinions. Instead, start doing these:

1. Start accepting their actions and be okay with them.
2. Give them your opinion but don’t force it.
3. Most importantly start working on your growth and stop changing other people’s mistakes and actions.
4. Every human is different so let that differences be constant and you be open-minded.

2. Stop pretending to be okay with what you are not okay with

Count how many times you have said — I am okay when you were not.

I bet there may be countless.

I am okay sentence has become a new normal trend to reply without emotions. But I want you to discuss with your loved ones, friends, and family that you are not okay with certain problems of life or their actions.

Discuss your problems to know the solutions. You need to tell people that their actions made you hurt.

I myself had secrets that I have kept inside my heart for a long that were disturbing my mental health badly. From my experience, I could tell — that your vulnerability needs to be discussed openly with your closed ones otherwise it’s said that:

Nothing kills you more than the things left unsaid in your mind.

If your soul needs peace then start doing these:

• Let your parents, siblings, partner, friends, or family know that their certain actions made you hurt.
• I know it’s hard but talk about things which you have kept in one corner of your heart. Please, do it. Your heart and soul need that action.
• Stop running and suppressing your pain instead start expressing it.

You will see smiling faces everywhere but try someday to have a deep conversation with your people to help them heal from their traumas.

3. Stop accepting disrespect just because you have accepted it for so long

I have accepted those disrespect from my friends as I was introverted and was bullied many times.

I used to neglect it at the start because I used to think that I will lose them but later on, I realized that they were not even meant to be my friends so I answered them back for whatever they did and left.

After doing this my heart was filled with happiness and peace that I can’t express in words.

So, stop disrespectful comments from people. Answer them back for their actions and if you don’t do then there will always be another unacceptable remark on the list for you by them.

So, stop letting people be comfortable by disrespecting you.

Notice these things and raise your opinion:

• Don’t just accept your friend's behavior just to fit in their group.
• Speak up for yourself if anyone starts disrespecting you in any manner. It may be your partner, friend, or family.

It is said that — If you don’t correct them when they upset you, they will never learn how to treat you right.

4. Stop saying ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘no’

I had this habit of saying ‘yes’ to everything. Saying ‘yes’ for new opportunities is a boon but saying ‘yes’ for things when your heart whispers ‘no' then it hurts.

My whole day gets occupied with some of the other work. As I work on two side hustle one is writing and the other is making posters for a company and apart from that, I am focusing on my career full-time.

But sometimes people call me to do their work and I do enjoy helping them.

As recently my cousins wanted me to help him with his maths problems as I was helping him whenever he was stuck but this time I was busy with other stuff. So my heart whispers to say ‘no' but I said ‘yes' and then started blaming myself because it was disturbing my other work as well as mental peace.

This made me realized that I need to stop saying ‘yes’ for my happiness and stop pleasing and impressing others for their approval.

So, stop saying yes :

• When you don’t want to hang out with friends or family but just went to fit in the group.
• When your boss wanted you to work even on weekends.
• When your partner wants you to do something but you don’t feel like doing it.

There are many such cases you will encounter but be direct and say — ‘no, I can’t’ or ‘I don’t want to’. Remember, saying no doesn’t mean you are a bad person. It just means you are giving freedom and empowerment to your own thoughts.

5. Stop trying to be someone you are not

We always try to fit in groups and want to be like others.

I have seen people trying to just fit in and not realizing that they are gaining people who don’t really care about them and eventually lose themselves in the process.

Because I have lost myself because of society and people’s approval and opinions.

I know it’s an injustice I did to my own feelings to impress others but I am no longer in those traps which made me hide my true self.

Be yourself. You are unique and one of a kind. You are born not to impress others but to impress yourself.

“Stop trying to fix yourself; you’re not broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.”

-Steve Maraboli

So stop being a slave of people. And love yourself for your every damn journey. Even when people tease you for your failures be your own cheerleader to love yourself.

Final Thoughts

Everyone reading this now wants to stop doing at least one thing from their life that is disturbing them but somehow they are neglecting it.

I know it isn’t easy. So, I want you to all sit with yourself and think of those bad footprints which are left in your heart after doing certain things which you don’t want to.

Start a new network in your brain. You are the only boss who can change it and rewire it. Think of it again to apply.