5 Reasons You Should Be Excited To Become a Parent

Quality 4: it will nourish the “purpose” void.

My journey in parenting, to most people, would not be considered ideal — at all. Although everyone has a story, and mine was not the picture-perfect fantasy of starting a family.

You know the fantasy— happily married, in their late 20s, promising careers with nice incomes. And they just bought a new home together!

Awww.

Some refer to it as the American dream or something of that nature.

Which is a nice idea. (at least to most people)

Anyways, let’s get explore some of the qualities you can look forward to gaining when you become a mommy or daddy: enjoy!

1. It will increase your capacity to love

Out of everything on the list, this one struck me rather quickly and immediately when I became a father.

What do I mean by that anyways, by increasing your capacity to love?

Capacity to love as if we have some sort of love tank inside of us?

Well, sort of. Let me explain.

Before you have children, you may know what love is through a romantic relationship, and in a general sense, hopefully your parents loved you in a healthy way and you loved them back.

If you’re like me, you also have siblings, and despite how often my sisters and I tried to kill each other, we still loved each other as family members. (and our relationships have grown and changed in love as well)

But when your first child is born, it opens up an entirely different kind of space in your heart. I mean, not to be dramatic or anything, but it will reinvent the definition of love for you.

This is an incredible feeling.

A feeling that a young man should be excited to embrace and the challenges that come with it. (because it’s totally worth it)

Quality 1: Ability to love someone more deeply and beyond yourself

2. Your priorities will be put in check

For me, despite the romantic relationship not working out, I still knew what I had to do and what was important for me to do in order to be there for my daughter.

I have always been adamant about the importance of my role in my daughter's life. I know who I am, the things I stand for, and the positive influence I know I can bring into her life.

Part of this is natural because I had a strong and positive father figure in my own life.

People with shitty fathers don’t see their own value when they become one.

And then a vicious generational cycle is born that can have a hugely negative impact on the children involved.

I’m also been adamant about financially supporting my child in the form of monthly child support and doing whatever it takes to make that happen.

I’ve separated my emotions with her mom from my financial obligation to my daughter. After all — who wants to give money to those who broke their heart and have maybe treated you terribly, maybe even inhumanely at times?

I know I sure don’t.

But I have my priorities straight. So momma gets her cash money each month. Because I know that having it will increase the quality of her life to whatever extent that it does, assuming it’s used appropriately.

Quality 2: A realignment of your priorities

3. You’ll be inspired to become the best “Future You” possible

Without children, all you have to worry about is yourself. Or maybe that’s how it was for me. People inherently have obligations to other family members, and everyone's situation is different.

But for the most part (and probably you too), before your first child was born — it’s really just yourself that you need to worry about.

No longer, my friend.

For some of you, this sounds like a nightmare.

I know — you can barely take care of yourself. And the world is crazy.

And it will continue to be crazy.

Life is funny, sometimes the things that you don’t think that you’re prepared for God has placed there for you to help propel you to the next level.

Becoming a parent not only motivates you to dream of a bigger and brighter future for yourself but in how you actually treat others, too.

Now that you’re little one is observing all of your interactions with other people, you’ll need to put on role-model behavior for them.

One of which is how to treat other people with respect and dignity, despite anything about them.

This enables you to operate with a higher degree of emotional intelligence and will naturally improve your interactions with adults as well.

I talk a bit more about it here.

Stay strong and embrace all the challenges Fatherhood has to offer, then be inspired to become a better version of yourself.

Not for you, but for your little one.

I promise, becoming a parent will be one of the biggest motivators this universe could possibly give you.

Quality 3: Your child will inspire & motivate you to be better

4. Become a parent fills your purpose void

Don’t get me wrong, though, to a certain extent, becoming a mother or father gives you that desired feeling of purpose many people hope and search for.

For me, it felt like God assured me of a higher meaning for myself.

Like I was actually a part of something bigger than myself.

It gives me a warm and cozy feeling inside. But maybe I’m just weird.

Imagine God saying,

I grant thou a human, if you succeed in the challenge— prosperity lies ahead.

But you have to accept the challenge and embrace it. You can’t run away from the obligations that you owe your child.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t always feel like it. You owe it to your child to be there for them, teach them about life, and be an active and engaging parent that loves and supports them. And even if you do nothing else but that, it will give you a solid purpose and reason to live.

But while becoming a mother or father definitely fills the void in finding a purpose for your life, the void will not be full.

Or at least it wasn’t for me.

More than likely, you will still have a personal career and financial goals that need tending to.

Some women believe that conceiving and ultimately birthing a child will bring them complete happiness when really there are other areas of their life that need attention as well.

You were also made for more than just being a parent, however noble it is to be a full-time mom or dad by choice — you have more to offer the world.

Quality 4: more “purpose” than you had before.

5. Having a child will bring out the inner child in you

The last quality and the first quality on this list are my favorites because they embody what really matters — the abundance of life and love.

There’s nothing pure or heartwarming than witnessing a child in their naturally silly ways.

Adults, including myself, take life WAY too seriously.

Most adults do act like children at times, but it’s usually not in a cute or funny way… if you know what I mean.

Allowing yourself to genuinely play with your child is one of the greatest experiences I’ve ever had yet.

And I’ve had a lot of good experiences.

Losing yourself for just a moment in the game, playing, and being silly with a child makes you realize life isn’t that serious.

It makes you realize how tense you’ve been the last 10 years.

I feel grateful to know how precious those silly and innocent moments are.

It will be those moments with her that I look back on when I’m on my deathbed, whenever that time comes.

Those childlike moments of bliss and innocence are life — cherish the living heck out of them.

Quality 5: It will bring out your inner child (if you allow it to)

And that’s it, my friends.

Those are five amazing qualities that you have to look forward to as a parent. I hope that you enjoyed this read, thanks for taking the time, and I’ll talk to ya soon!