4 Ways to Surround Yourself With Optimism
Musings From the Romantic Heart
We sometimes question whether or not we have the same level of love towards specific people in our life. Whether these feelings are fleeting or permanent, you’re likely not alone.
We’re not robotic, and we’re not perfect. We have our ups and downs, and we just hope that we can enjoy the ride for as long as we can, forever and onwards.
If it isn’t forever and onwards, we can at least strive towards that ideal greatness, trying our best to enjoy the path along the way. I mean, our partners would want what is best for us, and we would want what is best for them.
Plus, as the research has noted, stability and personality play big roles in our relationships as well.
Perhaps, some of the signals you are giving to your partner are being interpreted the wrong way. Perhaps you’re both speaking a different language with your body, but not your words.
Either way, even when our relationships are not always in sync, it doesn’t always have to remain this way. We can feed into our sense of synchronicity through our various acts of kindness, such as:
- Receiving and dispensing gifts
- Providing validation and affirmation
- Spending quality time together
- Getting intimate, such as hugging
1. Receiving and Dispensing Gifts
When we have partners, one of the first things you might do to show a token of appreciation, one that might not necessarily be based on your beautiful prose or wonderful actions, but on your material choices, such as the gifts you buy them.
As you develop more and more rapport with your partner, you might find yourself embarking on acts of service where your actions start to matter. For example, you might prepare a surprise breakfast in bed or donate to a charity that they fervently support.
Overall, these pleasant surprises make us feel important and validated.
2. Providing Validation and Affirmation
When we want to make ourselves better, it’s not always easy. However helping others is a lot of fun, especially when you feel good about yourself afterwards. If you thrive on the happiest of energy reserves, you can hype up your partner regularly, and make them feel so proud of themselves.
Your affirmation and validation towards your partner can be spoken or not spoken. It can be implicit or explicit. The possibilities are endless, and it’s often exciting to come up with unique ways to keep your partner grounded and appreciative.
3. Spending Quality Time Together
There’s nothing like a little undivided attention every now and then. Sure, we sometimes act like we don’t care if we’re not at the centre of the attention, but the reality is that you likely would enjoy the attention, even if it’s for a short while.
Plus, you’re staying true to the present. In a sense, you could argue that spending time together is a lot like engaging in mindfulness. You’re focused on your immediate space, such as the room you are sitting in, the smells adorning the space, and the sights of your partner as they fill your appetite with their humour, wisdom, and charm.
4. Getting Intimate
We all know that undivided attention leads to one thing or another. Depending on what you’re into and what your partner is into, there are a variety of different gestures, movements, and discussions that one could have with their loving partner.
The simplest of touches afford us a sense of security, such as hugs. With more complex movements, more is shared between the two of you, surpassing the barriers of language. As time stretches, the rhythms between you and your partner will align, and with it, a sense of comfort, even during the darkest of days.
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