4 Unlazy and Undisciplined Habits That Can Get You Behind 99% of People
Don’t stop when you’re tired, stop when you’re done.
Our mirrors fool us.
We spend at least 5 hours each week in front of our mirrors. We comb our hair, apply face masks, pluck out some gray hair, and prepare expressions for any time required.
(Did you know that how you see yourself in the mirror is quite the opposite to how you look in real life?)
Every 5 hours you spend looking beautiful/handsome, you might look quite the opposite of it.
Our natural faces are made to cater to our looks, and the mirror deceives us to change how we look. Similarly, the habits you may feel are good for you are certainly not. Look at all those habits you have been fed since you were young.
If you possessed a habit at a young age doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to continue. Bad habits cause decades of distraction. As per Wendy Wood, a bad habit is harder to break than to form a new habit. If you get started today, you’ll be one step closer to achieving a higher self surrounded by good habits.
One day or another, you’ve to leave the bad habits.
Better it be today.
1. The doctor’s submission
My father said to me one day:
“If I were a company’s founder, I would never leave any matter in your hands.”
I asked him why. To which he replied,
“You, Genz need to learn life skills on how to talk to people. There’s a reason why you people can never do a high ticket sales job.”
I pondered on this comment for a while and did my research. I realized that people unintentionally submit to people’s will. Some habits you might follow are:
- Saying “Hmm Hmm” too often
- Tilting your head down while talking
- Nodding or shaking your head
- Not looking into the eyes
We’re all guilty of being submissive to people’s will. I realized that if you believe the opposing party by any means is greater than you, you become submissive to them.
This is a hard habit to break.
How to banish this habit?
Submission comes from a Latin word “Submittere,” formed by sub- “under” + mittere “send, set.”
We often end up listening and agreeing with people. If you have a valid point, you should fight for your rights. As my father believes, cheetahs and lions reside in this market, and we’re ducks in front of them. You’ll likely suffer if you don’t know how to stand in a business meeting, interview, or deal.
To avoid yielding to someone or becoming emotionally submissive, follow these habits:
- Be human: take time to think and respond. Don’t often nod or shake your head.
- Look in the eye: make sure you’re face to face with that person, and while he is talking, stare at something behind his back to think. Avoid looking down.
- Don’t interrupt: don’t say “hmm hmm” too often.
2. Social show off
Sometimes, my fingers and body are in an internal war.
My brain has no control over my fingers. I often use my fun time trying to scroll on Facebook mindlessly. Becoming better and showing off has taken our minds control.
We no longer want to enjoy the moment. We want to tell people where we are. Social show-off stems from low self-esteem. You have to make yourself rigid to unfollow trends and stay classic. It took me decades to end this practice.
Since I hardly post on Facebook, some people think I’ve died. I let them think, honestly. It takes courage and power to end up caring what other people think.
How to banish this habit?
No one who regularly posted on social media gained anything from it. The sense of fulfillment is too big to post on social media.
To end this practice, I did this:
- Find your audience: my audience is on Medium, LinkedIn, Twitter, and Substack. So, there’s no reason why I should post on Facebook.
- Know your competition: find a capable friend. Now see what he does. There’s a 90% chance your talented friend doesn’t post things on Facebook.
- Take time to access: I know you want to tell people you visited Lebanon. But is there a better way to do that? You can always bring sweet gifts/souvenirs to your office and surprise people.
Change your approach. Do things that leave an impact. It’s not the same 2000s when we competed.
The world has changed.
3. Fight your family battles for them
I get you if you’re a middle child, an older child, or the only child.
Family battles never end. The cherry on top is living too close to your family.
Again, talking to them or not is a separate subject. Take sides in a war. It’s okay if your parents are to blame because you don’t want a fighting reflection on your character.
Most family fights happen because people lack communication and don’t want to solve the problems. Tell me, how can you solve something when it doesn’t want to be solved in the first place?
It’s the same as peeling strawberries.
How to banish this habit?
Understand them.
The first step is to understand what’s happening. Take sides in a war. Only try one time to solve it, and if it’s not worth it, end the talk. You don’t need. to invest in a failed war.
If a family war is too overwhelming, tell them openly that you’re no longer interested in their fights.
Stop putting up oil in the fire. If you cannot try to end things, don’t make an effort to grow the fight. Either you’re in there to solve the problem or just quit.
Bonus: Another reason why I love solving family fights is that I get to know what tactics work on them. What better way to test your tactics than your own family?
4. Following every scenic research
A history of crazy scientific discoveries:
- 2001: eat breakfast
- 2023: don’t eat breakfast
- 1920: drink coffee
- 2017: don’t drink coffee
- 2001: go out and enjoy
- 2019: don’t go out and enjoy
- 5th century: don’t eat chicken
- 2015: eat chicken
(Dates may vary)
In other words, scientists oppose their theories. I love looking at my friends who gradually change their lifestyles in light of scientific shift.
I look at them and make a funny smirking face “huh, now what, are you going to stop breathing.?
If you’re a fan of scientific research, you’re likely too available to experiment on social theories.
Don’t be too cautious of your health. Early Koreans lived at least 120 years by following none of these shits. You’re going to die when you’re going to die. No panic research can stop it.
How to banish this habit?
Follow proven strategies.
Scientists change their theories based on current findings. This means you will end up mad if you follow these theories.
Don’t become (too) available for these theories. Instead,
Follow classic:
- Diets such as the Buddha diet or the Sadguru diet.
- Sleeping routines: follow the military method.
Follow proven strategies because life is too short to focus on the latest experiments that oppose themselves after a certain point.
Remember, life is too short.
Final thoughts:
Bad habits look a lot like drug-free addiction.
It’s the same as sugar-free sugar or egg-free egg. Bad habits are addictive as they stick to your repetitive daily cycle.
If you want to make a difference, start with what you can. Replace bad habits with good ones because it takes $0 to change but habit and thousands of dollars in therapy.
You decide!
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