4 Strong Habits of People With Magnetic Personality & How To Master Them
You are different, and that is your power.
Have you ever observed why some people are the center of attention while you end up as a sidekick?
It hurts. I agree.
Each of us is unique in our ways. Several people possess magnetic charisma, which makes them effective icebreakers.
- Think of Socrates, Martin Luther, and Carl Rogers— the list goes on
- And most of us will likely join the list in upcoming years
As Charles Crawford dips into personality’s core, he concludes:
“With outstanding effort, you can improve your habits and pattern of thinking in no time.”
When we’re born, we come with a set of *default* qualities.
Over time, we can handpick other attributes and add them to our list of qualities. Underneath the strong personality contains an “Ocean” traits that magnetic people hold.
The “Ocean” acronym unfolds: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.
Keeping that in mind, here are 4 characteristics of highly magnetic people that make them likable enough to make you notice them.
Come, let’s get started.
1. Don’t kick the beehive criticize, condemn or insult
In the book “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” Dale Carnegie’s first point is:
“If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive.”
He’s right. In most cases, relations are made deliberately — for a cause. It’s not like you bumped into another person, and a potion is released in the air, making you both bound to friendship.
Friendship arouses with benefits. We don’t realize it until we lose friends and glide into the shame river.
Dale Carnegie guides to sidestep:
- Criticizing
- Condemning, or
- Insulting people
You can never go around correcting people if you don’t even know the correct answers.
Everyone wants to feel important. Nobody likes someone who corrects them, especially in public.
As it’s said, if a relationship brings you to insult, it’s not the right one for you. The same applies to friendship.
If you have an itch for correcting people, better scream in the pillow than leverage your personality.
2. Make yourself presentable
I met the love of my life in 2019.
- The first question I asked him was: “what are your hobbies and interest.”
- To which he replied: “I don’t know.”
- I asked again: “what do you do in your fun time?”
- He replied: “never paid so much attention to it. I can do anything you like.”
I am amazed he didn’t see the funkier faces I was making inside of my mind. That person didn’t even know himself.
Not that it’s a bad thing, he never explored himself.
Now come to a point where you have this dreamy job of a Pilot. How do you explain it to someone in easy words?
That is your task. I am a writer and almost die trying to explain what Medium is.
Most people think it’s a spiritual Medium.
According to Elbert Einstein, “if you can’t explain it to a six-year-old, you don’t understand it yourself.”
Take time to rehearse what your occupation is (in easy words). Maybe, you can skip extraordinary parts and stick with chunky bits.
Easy-peasy
3. Have a great sense of humor
First things first:
The majority of people you’re about to meet are just as uncomfortable as you are.
Think of it like going on a first date. You never know if things will end in bedroom, slap, or tears.
Theodore Roosevelt — the 26th U.S. President, would stay awake all night to read about guests’ interests before meeting them. Eventually, this habit gave Roosevelt an upper hand in finding common ground talks.
Only if you have the correct means of knowledge can you put in a humor platter to serve.
For example:
Suppose you’re meeting someone on a professional cattle call and find the guy’s zeal for wearing neon colors. This means the person loved to stand out “bold.”
Never start the conversation (even in a funny way):
“Pink color reminds me of a kitty’s toe.”
If you have to be more humorous, include the essence of knowledge. Humor and wisdom put together make a person sounds sincere. For suppose, you can say:
“I admire your pink shade. It reminds me of our madder roots in the countryside I grew up. We made Alizarin (red) dye with it.”
It takes the same amount of energy to speak well as to evil. So better waste on something good. Duh!
4. Always be the one to break the ice
Every second is your go-to chance to make friends if you just stop overthinking.
With each passing minute, you boil the awkwardness.
Instead, clutch some classical moves and break the ice. Try talking to new people if you already have enough friendships with other people.
Jordan Peterson says: If you have mastered something, then it’s time to shift where you are less knowledgeable.
So it’s time to butter new friends.
Your old ones are already there. Expand your circle and include people timely.
GinaMaria Jerome, a writer at Readers Digest, suggests better ways to break the ice:
- Give a compliment, followed by a question
- Nail a perfect conversation about the ongoing situation
- Ask them for a favor
- Invite them to an opportunity
- Talk about something in common
With these few tricks, you can easily break the ice. Remember that whenever you take pauses, be the first to break them.
If it is starting to feel awkward, maybe change locations to ask your friend to accompany you to the afternoon art gallery inauguration.
Never be shy to ask.
Bonus point:
My mother always says the delicate person around you is your first cue to land.
I never understood it before, but I do now.
“Talk to the person who isn’t talking to anyone” is the best tip I’ve ever received in my lifetime. Not only does it increase your respect for yourself in the group, but it makes you one hell of a magnetic personality.
With the world tearing apart relations, be the one that brings people together.
Be a binder like a potato.
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