3 Signs Your Ego is In The Backseat Where it Belongs Watching Your Back

The ride is much more peaceful and less bumpy

1. There’s Peace Where There Was Strife

When my ego was in the driver's seat calling the shots, I wanted to be somebody so badly. I knew I was special, and it made me prideful. I wanted to be this, and that, and I changed my mind and wanted to be a new thing.

I would always compete with those in the same category and compare myself with others.

I couldn’t stand certain people because of the things they said or did. I saw people believing and worshipping certain things, and I thought, why? I didn't understand it, so I judged their beliefs. I would point it out to them how they were wrong or so lost or whatever crazy talk I came up with.

Thank God for growth. Now I know it was wrong.

I’ve given up the need to be somebody and I'm back to being nothing — a nobody and I really like that. I can be my cool self around people and not feel a need to be anything. It's freeing.

I still know that I'm special and so is everyone else. The tendency to compete with or compare my life with others has disappeared.

People can believe in whatever they want. I’m no God to judge them.

Now I can have deep conversations with people just to know where their minds were at and it’s fascinating to see how people think. I can see why people do the things they do. Even if I can’t understand, I can be civil and respectful.

But this didn’t come naturally. I had to tame my big ego.

My ego was a nuisance and a control freak, but I didn’t need to kill it. No, that would be tragic! The ego is a part of me.

My ego is useful because of its protective nature. It’d do anything to keep me safe, so I found it the perfect place and job to do — the backseat watching my back.

I spoke to my ego nicely and explained certain things that weren't working for me and it was very understanding. It just wanted me safe and happy, so it moved to the back to start its new job.

Then, I invited my higher self — my soul — into the driver's seat.

The soul already knows everything that's going to happen. It is the one that signed all the contracts, so it knows the way. It was only right for it to lead the way.

Ever since my higher self took the wheel and is leading the way, my relationships have improved. I’m learning to be nicer and respectful of people, even those I can’t understand and those with different beliefs than me.

There’s peace where there was strife and the ride is much more peaceful and less bumpy.

2. You’ve Stopped Being a Judgmental Hypocrite

Before the higher self took over, I had serious issues concerning what was right and what was not. I looked at the lives of others and if it wasn't right in my eyes; I felt the need to let them know.

The driver’s seat gave my ego too much power.

I tried to force others to change in passive-aggressive ways. Other times, I was just plain aggressive when I didn't like the things people were talking about or believing in.

I had become a judge, judging the lives and beliefs of others. I thought I was holier than thou but the universe taught me some lessons.

I shouldn't be judging anybody and the life they live. In the same way I judge others, I would be judged.

Why look at the speck of sawdust in someone else’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in my own eye? How could I say to another person, “Hey, let me take the speck out of your eye while there was a plank in mine?”

That's hypocrisy, I learned. I had my own imperfections to work on. Like my big ego!

First, I needed to take the plank out of my own eyes, then I would see clearly to remove the speck out of another person’s eye.

Judging says more about the person doing the judgment than it did the person being judged.

These lessons were enough to humble and bring me to the lowest position.

Now I look at the lives of others with an eye of wonder and not of judgment because nothing is as it seems. It's clear to me now that everyone is doing their best with what they have.

I'm less concerned about who’s awakened and who’s not. Other people’s beliefs aren't my concern. Now, I can focus on myself and on my own journey, knowing that everybody’s journey is different and everybody must be respected no matter what.

I no longer need to judge others and I extend the same grace to myself. I don't judge myself for the things I did when I didn't know any better.

Surprisingly, I'm so much happier than I used to be.

3. You See Things More Clearly Now

Your ego controls your life and judges things the way you do. It controls your thinking patterns and drives you to act. But once you can hold yourself back from acting out on impulse, your ego is doing well in the backseat.

Seeing someone do something you wouldn’t do and still look at them with love and compassion and without judgment shows that you’re evolving.

Once your ego settles in the backseat, your way of observation becomes keen.

You see the way much more clearly. You become more self-aware. You take notice of your mind and how it thinks.

You talk less and you listen more.

Once you start to look at things differently and see that you’re perceiving things in a new light, you know your ego is thriving and doing a great job in the back.

At this point, you can turn your head and give your ego a smile for a job well done.

Note: This article is only meant to provide spiritual guidance and lighthearted content.

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