3 Levels of Holiday Stress & How to Let Them Go
- What is your long-held holiday tradition?
- Why do we have more stress during the holiday season?
- How do you decrease or increase your stress levels if you have?
The era of social media can put a lot of stress on some people during Christmas and other holidays. Many people enjoy the end-of-the-year celebration, giving gifts and making merry with their friends and loved ones.
However, making merry and hosting people in your home can be a happy or stressful time.
I used to host many people decades ago and felt terrible remembering those years. Now, I chose to host Christmas with common sense and less stress. Anything in moderation can work for anyone and their loved ones.
Here are three levels of holiday stress and how to let them go:
I. People pleasing = High stress:
Never-ending people-pleasing always doubles our stress levels and can make us sick. Be honest with yourself and the people you want to please.
For example, people buy holiday gifts they can't afford. Or host people they don't like or want in their home or celebrate a long-held tradition they've outgrown.
How to let it go:
Take a moment and think of your happiness or health, what matters, and why you matter. Then, do what gives you peace first before others' drama.
II. Things and people define us=Moderate stress:
What defines your identity?
We can increase our stress level when material things define us or when we permit people to determine who we are. Do you believe what people say about you?
Is what they are saying true or false?
People and things can define me if I let them in my life — no or weak personal boundaries.
People with negative words or lies shouldn't party with you. Let them go.
How to let it go:
The choice is yours; let negative things and people go. We can love these people from a distance and wish them well. Learn more about who you are and what you need for yourself, your loved ones, and your community.
III. Informed choices= Normal stress:
Take your holiday plan and decide what to do or let go. We can say yes or no to ourselves, people, and things.
Think for yourself and make informed decisions based on your core values.
People who usually make choices or solve life problems on their own terms tend to have less stress and peace of mind.
How to let go:
You have the power to live a less stressful life. Do your own thing and live your amazing life.
What is your long-held holiday tradition? Thank you for joining the conversation.
Help yourself grow.
Disclaimer:
This is an opinion piece; suggestions may only work for a few people. Do what works for you and makes you stay alive and happy.
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