3 Fun Ways To Have Sex When You’re Stressed

Solo sex makes you feel alive.

Stress is a nasty bitch in itself. And with the modern-day hustle wired environment, we can’t escape being stressed once in a while.

Your constant worries wear down your body, leaving you tired and anxious. You may be working harder than ever to make ends meet and make unhealthy choices about eating and exercise, which can make you feel even worse.

For example, if your family is struggling financially or suffering from a serious illness, stress can become chronic. If your family falls short of their monthly income, bills pile up, and you’re close to losing your home to your mortgage deposits, this can leave you stressed for months or even years.

Stress comes in many forms. It can build up gradually over time or appear in an instant and then disappear. When dealing with chronic stress, it is important to implement some long-term stress management practices.

It is not always easy to recognize chronic stress. Because it affects virtually every system in your body and it’s long-lasting. People often get so used to it that they start to feel normal.

Sex can improve mood and combat anxiety by reducing stress signals in the brain. After orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for relaxation and drowsiness.

Caring for your mind and body

Solo sex is something we don’t often talk about, is it? But it has many health benefits, making it an important part of any wellness routine. As a form of self-care is about listening to ourselves, mind and body, and understanding what we want and need.

If you find yourself completely overwhelmed and in dire need of quick ways to decompress from stress, try solo sex!

Spending quality time alone, reconnecting with yourself, while taking care of your physical and emotional needs can be a great way to relieve stress and anxiety. For example, regular masturbation causes the brain to release happy hormones. These include oxytocin, dopamine, prolactin, and endorphins.

These hormones work in several ways, including blocking the action of cortisol — our stress hormone, lowering blood pressure, and generally improving our mood.

Many of us worry that self-care is selfish

We live in a world where our humanity is often challenged and we are seen as selfish if we take time to take care of ourselves. It’s easy to feel guilty when we spend our time relaxing or doing things we love at first, but self-care is an essential part of life. Getting involved in caring for others can lead us to always put ourselves last.

No matter how much you love the people around you, if you don’t take the time to take care of yourself, you can risk feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or damage your overall well-being.

Your “me time” is a luxury

Solo sex is always green and exciting. There aren’t enough words to describe the exhilarating moment of getting intimate with yourself. You can thank dopamine and oxytocin in particular for feeling high spirited and satisfied after sexual activities.

Being single can be boring especially when your tantrums are on and you need something to calm your fire. Solo sex is can do the trick. Sometimes, I seat on my couch fantasizing about different wild and crazy sex positions and fondling myself as I try out each style. It’s amusing as well as refreshing.

Too much stress can feel overwhelming, and it can often sneak up on us. When you’re alone and feel the need to relax your mind and body, below are my top 3 ways to clear your mind and replenish your energy after a hush messy day.

Start with pornography

It has not yet been determined whether pornography is harmful to our health or not. But for me, porn is a lifesaver.

Replenishing my energy after a stressful day is something I take into consideration before going to bed. Some people can find comfort in alcohol. I don’t. The aphrodisiac that you get from alcohol is what I get from watching porn.

There is nothing wrong with seeing people having sex in a video. It is beautiful, erotic, intimate, and arousing. We need to be responsible for our feelings instead of sitting idly by waiting for someone to satisfy our sexual urges.

I’m addicted to porn, S & M, anything hardcore gets the adrenaline pumping through my veins. Watching porn videos does not spread disease, there is no risk of pregnancy, and it does not engage in cruel judgments like slut-shaming.

Take your time to look at different types of porn online. Don’t be put off by content that you may not like on tube sites. There is something for everyone and a quick Google search will provide you with interesting resources to begin exploring your body for what is best for you.

Don’t forget kinky fingering

If you think sex tips only exist for partnered sex, you are definitely in for a shocker. In as much as we avoid discussing masturbation, almost everyone is doing it.

Is it wrong to masturbate? Absolutely not.

It’s a great way to explore your whole body and get in touch with your sexual signal parts. I love sex toys, but there are many avenues for pleasure. Wanting to touch your body with your hands is perfectly natural.

Masturbation makes you feel good, and I’m not just talking about physical pleasure. When your body produces endorphins, you also feel a temporary mood boost. It also helps you prioritize your pleasure and body in a way that will help you to not only orgasm during solo sex, but also in partner sex or relationships.

Sometimes masturbating is as simple as touching yourself, but as with all self-care practices, it can be jazzed up and improved upon. Dry humps, also known as outercourse are great for helping you climax without extra help.

If you are someone who only uses vibrations, try using your fingers for a while. When you get to that euphoric moment, experiment with adding internal toys to the mix. I prefer cucumber or carrot. You can use a shower head which also gives a deeper sensation.

In other words, the more stroking, rubbing, or humping activities that target the clitoris, the better.

Think about anal sex

If you’re curious about the ass stuff, there’s no better way to experiment than doing it on yourself. You can do anything from twirling around your anus with a lubricated finger and then slowly moving forward, or experimenting with butt plugs.

I prefer doing anal sex alone than with a partner. I like to have control over the pace and depth of penetration during anal sex due to the many health risks involved.

Unlike vaginal sex, the satisfaction with anal sex is euphoric. It’s a huge turn on and you will have a better orgasm. It doesn’t hurt. You just have to know how to do it and the right position to do it.

Start with a small plug about the size of your finger. Vibrating plugs can add more sensation than you could manually give yourself, or you can check out a weighted plug to help you feel exotic. Water-based lubricant with lidocaine, is specially formulated for anal sex and can make the experience more comfortable.

I recommend hanging your legs wide or doggy style to fully open your butt. Don’t start thrusting in and out until you have achieved full penetration to avoid pain or tear.

You should give solo sex a try

I know how daunting it sounds to have sex after a crazy day. You spend the whole day tending to one business activity or the other — giving a presentation, replying to hundreds of emails, phone calls and messages. Analyzing one project after another. All you want to do when you get home is shower and dose off.

Unfortunately, that’s not me.

I get grumpy and irritable when I’m tired. I am also much calmer after orgasm and found that it is a great way to stimulate the brain.

In addition to breathing exercises, massages, and meditation, solo sex is another way I relieve stress and stay focused on my work, even though I don’t have a boyfriend to warm my bed when I’m horny and needy.

So the next time someone talks to you about self-care, you should consider increasing your life satisfaction by engaging in hand-to-gland combat.