3 Essential Tips to Make Your Relationship Last 39 Years

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e frequent sex and security, that’s fine. Don’t let others persuade you what your desire is, or push their perceptions off on you. If you go into a relationship in which you are not going to get what you want most, you’ll be miserable, and it will adversely affect not only you but everyone with whom you’re associated.</p><h2 id="c515">Know what your partner wants most from the relationship</h2><p id="43a4">If your partner wants the same things from the communion, then you may feel you are uncommonly lucky. It doesn’t matter, though. Even if your partner’s expressed wants are the same as yours, his/her subconscious wants may be different.</p><h2 id="71cc">Tip #1 Give your partner what he/she wants.</h2><p id="08ac">If you can’t do this, then your relationship is doomed to fail. Accept that fact and move on.</p><h2 id="b9d5">Tip #2 Express your prime wants to your partner and expect your partner to provide them.</h2><p id="3b76">If you are not getting your prime wants, you’ll be unhappy in the relationship. You’ll feel resentful. You’ll likely search for other venues or companions to provide your top desires.</p><h2 id="68bb">Tip #3 If you and your partner share a bed, bathe before bedtime.</h2><p id="9330">When you bathe before bed, you smell good. Cuddling is better, and other lovely things are likely to happen.</p><h2 id="cbc7">Summary</h2><p id="5169">Marriage, or a life long relationship, is a partnership. You and your partner are joining your resources, emotional, and material. Build the foundation well, so it’s not

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I’ve never contemplated divorce; murder yes, divorce no.

Maybe I have contemplated divorce, but I never got past hiring an attorney.

My wife and I married in the summer of 1980. We’ve had our ups and downs. We’ve had our fights and non-fights. Those of you who have had a significant other for any length of time know what a non-fight is. If you haven’t had a non-fight, you haven’t been together long enough. It’s coming. Then you’ll know what a non-fight is.

Why am I writing this piece? Aside from feeling the need to write and not having done enough writing lately, I was pondering on how many couples don’t make it to 39 years of marriage. So I decided I should offer my tips for maintaining a long marriage.

Decide what your prime, nonnegotiable wants are

The very first thing you need to do is decide for yourself what your prime desires are that you want from the marriage. You need to be selfish. This decision will guide you for the next 30, 40, 50, or 60 years of your life.

If your wants are frequent sex and security, that’s fine. Don’t let others persuade you what your desire is, or push their perceptions off on you. If you go into a relationship in which you are not going to get what you want most, you’ll be miserable, and it will adversely affect not only you but everyone with whom you’re associated.