I‘m Only Doing What She Told Me

A conversation nearly 20 years ago has kept a marriage strong

It was almost 20 years ago. “I want you to get a girlfriend. I don’t want to know about it. I don’t want my nose rubbed in it. We’re not having this conversation ever again.”

I have faithfully followed my wife’s instructions. Still married 39 years and counting, I am devoted to her. I care for her both in the romantic sense and in the medical sense. My girlfriend knows and understands.

My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in the summer of 2001. She had a mastectomy and chemo treatment. Four years into a five-year treatment plan, we learned the medicine she was taking for the prevention of breast cancer recurrence was the prime suspect in her developing uterine cancer. Whatever sexual intercourse we had at that point died with the second surgery and medicine. It’s been nearly 20 years since we’ve had sex. My girlfriend knows and understands.

These days, two women occupy my mind and heart for affection. First is my wife for whom I enormously care. We share intimate times. She knows I want and need physical love. We sleep nude together, and she strokes me if I ask her to. I don’t often ask her to. She doesn’t like it and gets upset if I don’t come within minutes. As I’ve gotten older, it takes me longer to cum. She gets upset often. She likes cuddling. I hold her close and tell her how much I love her and how good she feels. She likes that. My girlfriend knows and understands.

The second woman that occupies my mind and heart for affection is my girlfriend of nearly 20 years. I know my girlfriend’s work schedule. I meet her at her house several times a week after she gets off work. We mostly sit on the couch, cuddle, and watch TV. Sometimes, we go out to eat or run errands. On her days off, we try to spend the whole day together, often driving or going to the lake. She likes for me to drive her places. On other days, we’ll spend time in bed making love. My wife knows and understands.

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