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ype="7">I deserve to put myself first.</p><h1 id="5b8e">3. It’s a marathon, not a race</h1><p id="9bc6">In the early days of reclaiming my voice, I had so many realizations of where I was being a doormat that it was tempting to try to correct it all overnight.</p><p id="c642">The reality is that these things take time. If someone has crossed one of your boundaries for months or years, <b>it won’t suddenly unravel overnight.</b></p><p id="757c">I like to think of these things as icebergs. You need to chip away at them until the problem one day just melts away. For example:</p><blockquote id="290b"><p>I used to have a really hard time with saying no to an invite. I didn’t want to disappoint the other person. In the beginning, every no I made felt MASSIVE. So I started with the smaller invites with acquaintances and worked my way up to bigger invites with close loved ones.</p></blockquote><blockquote id="9c27"><p>Nowadays, I generally have zero issue expressing that I’m going to pass on an invite.</p></blockquote><h1 id="930e">4. You don’t have to prove anything</h1><p id="ebcd">This is a hard habit to break. Justification.</p><p id="6a7b">I always felt like I had to prove why my boundary was important. I had to give a well-thought-out excuse to decline an invite. I had to provide my laundry list of reasons to get out of doing something I didn’t want to.</p><p id="2008" type="7">You are important. You matter. Your voice, preferences and desires deserve to be heard.</p><p id="bc34">You don’t need to prove your worthiness to anyone. It’s inherent in you.</p><p id="de83"><b>I know this is easier said than done.</b> I especially know it because I spent <i>decades </i>being a doormat who didn’t feel worthy. I tried to do everything perfectly for everyone else to try to prove I was good enough.</p><p id="4a59" type="7">You are enough.</p><h1 id="3213">5. Practice makes perfect</h1><p id="1bae">The internal work is the most important: <b>recognizing your worthiness and that you are enough.</b></p><p id="25cb">As you do this, it will become easier to express what’s important to you.</p><p id="f5d5">To make it practical though, here are my three steps for how to actually express your boundary:</p><p id="dfac"><b>1 Set the stage</b> — give the other person a heads up that you want to discuss what’s going on. It’s best to find the right time, place and mood for this.</p><blockquote id="2d95"><p>“Hey, I want to talk to you about something that happened earlier.”</p></blockquote><p id="9d80"><b>2 Meet halfway</b> —people tend to listen better when they feel they are heard. Before you jump into what’s important to you, lend some understanding to what’s happening for the other person.</p><blockquote id="ef14"><p>“I know you probably feel stressed and overwhelmed right now. I think that’s why you asked me to do ______.” OR “I think that’s why you said ________.”</p></blockquote><p id="bac6">3 <b>Your turn</b> — this is the part where you get to talk about what’s important to you. What was the boundary that was crossed? What do you want to happen differently next time?</p><blockquote id="714e"><p>“Next time, it’s really important to me that we take the time to talk about what needs to happen. It’s not fair for you to yell at me to get it d

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one.”</p></blockquote><h1 id="0524">Final Thoughts</h1><p id="e212">You will make the world a better place by expressing your boundaries.</p><p id="1fab"><b>Why?</b> Because by telling others what’s important to you, you step into your worthiness. You remember that <b>you matter</b> and <b>you are enough</b>.</p><p id="57ea">The more that everyone in the world believes that they are worthy, the better off we will be as a human race.</p><p id="3a3b">With love, Megan</p><p id="e3d0"><i>Are you a woman craving support from other women? I just launched a <b>Free Women’s Circle</b> every other Wednesday virtually on Zoom. Come join us:</i></p><div id="e2f0" class="link-block"> <a href="https://yourmoderncoach.com/circle"> <div> <div> <h2>Join our Free Women’s Circle — Megan Llorente | Your Modern Coach</h2> <div><h3>Feeling overwhelmed or discouraged? Come and share your challenges with other like-minded, down-to-earth and real…</h3></div> <div><p>yourmoderncoach.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*dtSVosZ0QS8fYlQU)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="4a3e"><i>Other stories of mine:</i></p><div id="60c3" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/damnit-i-am-too-sensitive-how-about-you-9d5e467edb2b"> <div> <div> <h2>Damnit, I AM Too Sensitive… How About You?</h2> <div><h3>Taking feedback is hard</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*JjUm7DG8PQKQHtUav4IDiQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="a7e7" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-speak-your-truth-like-a-badass-b-tch-8f46c20bf365"> <div> <div> <h2>How to Speak Your Truth Like a Badass B*tch</h2> <div><h3>It’s time to step into who you truly are</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*r91X3oVkh_5iUjg2bk_I2g.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="149d"><i>Support my writing journey:</i></p><div id="687b" class="link-block"> <a href="https://meganllorente.medium.com/membership"> <div> <div> <h2>Join Medium with my referral link — Megan Llorente</h2> <div><h3>As a Medium member, a portion of your membership fee goes to writers you read, and you get full access to every story…</h3></div> <div><p>meganllorente.medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*IdVMABliAmOKQ4YR)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

15 Simple and Easy Guinness World Records Anyone Can Break

Awesomely Doable Guinness World Records

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Have you ever dreamed of seeing your name in the illustrious Guinness World Records? Well, I have! But the thought of scaling Mount Everest or memorizing pi to the thousandth decimal sends shivers down my spine. Those are only meant for superhumans and brainiacs.

So I took it upon myself to research the very simple, wacky, weird, and surprisingly achievable feats every ‘regular’ person like me can conquer that don’t require superhuman strength or decades of dedication.

These Guinness World Records are so awesomely simple that you can break them right from your living room (or maybe your backyard, depending on the record).

Here are 15 of some of the Records that I found that you could potentially break.

1. Most CDs Balanced on One Finger

The current official record is balancing 50 CDs on one finger. The rules state that you may not poke your finger through the holes of any of them; your finger must be flat against the CD.

2. Most T-shirts Put on in One Minute

The current record is putting on 31 T-shirts in one minute. You can use any size, short or long-sleeved, and you may enlist a friend to help you pull them down (though they must be put on one at a time).

3. Most Jell-O Eaten with Chopsticks in One Minute

The current record is eating 3.2 ounces of Jell-O with chopsticks in one minute. Any flavour is allowed, and only one hand may be used while the other is held behind the back.

4. Most Sticky Notes on the Face in One Minute

The current record is sticking 58 sticky notes on the face in one minute. The sticky notes must measure a minimum of 73mm on each side, must be placed there by the individual themself, and must remain attached for a minimum of 10 seconds after the minute is over.

5. Most Cartwheels in 20 Seconds

The current record is doing 20 cartwheels in 20 seconds.

6. Most Tennis Balls Held in One Hand

The current record is holding 26 tennis balls in one hand. The balls must be placed one at a time with the spare hand, and all must remain in place for a minimum of five seconds once the last ball has been put in position.

7. Fastest Time to Place 24 Cans in a Fridge

The current record is placing 24 cans in a fridge in 9.76 seconds. The cans must be intact and unopened, and you must use a commercially available refrigerator.

8. Most Circles Around the Leg with a Basketball in 30 Seconds

The current record is making 68 circles around the leg with a basketball in 30 seconds. You may use a standard-size soccer ball or basketball, and any drops of the ball during the attempt will disqualify you.

9. Fastest Time to Type the Alphabet Backwards on an iPad

The current record is typing the alphabet backwards on an iPad in 2 seconds.

10. Most Socks Put on One Foot in 30 Seconds

The current record is putting 28 socks on one foot in just 30 seconds. You have to put them on one at a time.

11. Tallest Toilet Paper Tower in 30 Seconds

The current record is stacking 28 rolls of toilet paper in 30 seconds. The only rule is that you must only touch one roll at a time.

12. Most Selfies Taken in Under 3 Minutes

The current record is taking 184 selfies in under three minutes.

13. Most Leapfrog Jumps in 30 Seconds

The current record is 32 leapfrog jumps in 30 seconds. You’ll need a partner for this one.

14. Fastest Time to Assemble a Mr. Potato Head Toy

The current record is assembling a Mr. Potato Head toy in 6.62 seconds.

15. Most Times to Jump Into a Pair of Underwear in 30 Seconds

The current record is jumping into a pair of underwear 9 times in 30 seconds.

Remember that all you need to do is follow the rules, record your attempt, upload it to YouTube, and wait for it to be verified.

So why not give it a try? Get out there and break a record (or two)! You might just find yourself in the next edition of the Guinness World Records!

**A jubilant crowd after breaking the Guinness World Records. Image generated by the author using DALL·E 3**