10 Things To Consider Before Starting A Relationship

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st friend or anger your parents, it’s not the right time to start a relationship.2. Discuss your relationship with your new friend and determine on what level you want the relationship to involve. If you only want friendship, state so. If you want something more than friendship and want to have possibly love, leading to marriage, be honest. If you only want a physical relationship, state so.3. Consider your new friend’s circle of friends. If your girl or guy hangs out with the rough crowd, drinks a lot, and takes drugs, pass up your friend for someone less troublesome. Be aware that you may find some people are good talkers but have very few things to offer besides sweet talk. In fact, figure out if your new friend has a little black book filled with numbers of other prospects. If this person is always unavailable, you may not be the only one he is dating.4. Figure out how much time you can devote to the relationship. If you have multiple jobs, lots of homework, and other responsibilities, now may not be the time to be with someone new. Get your schoolwork done first because the best education is your own.5. Be wary of online dating. If you found your new friend online, be aware that you may not be the only one he is seeing. People are not always what they seem online. Has any Medium writer been successful with online dating? I would love to know. At the time I wrote this, online dating was fairly new in 2012. Nowadays, everyone is doing it. Still, be vigilant because he/she could be meeting other people at the same time he/she is dating you.6. Read relationship books online or if you have a chance, find some great relationship books at your book store or better yet, download them. You can also find great relationship stories on Medium.7. Your relationship has a better chance of surviving if you have shared interests. If you like movies and he doesn’t, it may make for a boring weekend. If you like poetry and he prefers poker, keep in mind that it is natural for people to have different interests. But if you have more different interests th

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an common interests, keep in mind that you may be in for a short-term relationship. I’ve been with my husband for over 15 years now, and part of our success is that we have common interests.8. Consider how he/she acts towards your friends. If your new guy is too possessive and wants you all to yourself, you may feel trapped. Worst, he may dislike your friends or family. You don’t need to live under such a dark cloud. Find out if he is open and sociable. Don’t live like a monk! Run, if he acts too jealous and possessive!9. Find out if you trust him/her. Trust is the most important thing in the world. If you don’t have trust, you may not find it within your heart to love him/her. With all the online dating, he may be finding someone on the side. Make sure, he’s home when he says he is.10. Love yourself. Make sure that you truly, deeply love, and respect yourself before you go out or involve yourself fully in a new relationship. Because if the going gets rough, you need to fall back on yourself and trust your instincts to jump out of the relationship if the need arises.That’s all I have for you today. Hope you enjoyed my article which I retrieved from my vault of articles written under a younger sun and moon. Please follow me for more stories like this. Follow this fine publication as well.If you need more followers, read this <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-journey-to-700-followers-in-29-days-381df4506350">here.</a> Walking a dog got me into thinking deep thoughts about global<a href="https://readmedium.com/i-learned-a-global-lesson-as-a-dog-walker-with-a-10-gig-d89626e4953d"> inequity.</a> Hope you enjoyed this article and would appreciate a coffee <a href="http://<script type=" text="" javascript"="" src="https://cdnjs.buymeacoffee.com/1.0.0/button.prod.min.js" data-name="bmc-button" data-slug="Cynthiachann" data-color="#FFDD00" data-emoji="" data-font="Cookie" data-text="Buy me a coffee" data-outline-color="#000000" data-font-color="#000000" data-coffee-color="#ffffff">">here.</a>Til next time. Keep on smiling:)</article></body>

My most viewed article as a writer on HubPages

Almost 10 years ago, one of the sites that I wrote for was Hubpages. After many articles and too much moderator interference which took away the joy from writing, I have had enough of this site and forgot about the site. But before I left, I wrote an article that was my most popular article in 2012 with over 3000 views! It is currently archived in Hubpages but I have printed it here with a rebooted version that has a little more feedback from me today. Here it is for your enjoyment. Even though almost a decade has passed, I still stand by what I wrote because I feel it is useful for young or old people considering starting a relationship. I have added a few more words of wisdom.

The last line at the bottom of the page shows my views of 3,111, March 21, 2012.

10 Things To Consider Before Starting A Relationship

If you are new to relationships, you will undoubtedly want to consider a few things before you start seeing one individual for the long or short term. Before you take the plunge, consider a few things.

1. Are you mature enough to handle the ups and downs of a new relationship? Being mature is important because it will enable you to discuss issues before they escalate. If you are able to be calm and are mature, you can discuss things with your new guy or gal that is important to you. Being mature means that you are also independent and are able to form your own opinions and interests. If you are only planning on hitching up with the new girl or guy to get back at your best friend or anger your parents, it’s not the right time to start a relationship.

2. Discuss your relationship with your new friend and determine on what level you want the relationship to involve. If you only want friendship, state so. If you want something more than friendship and want to have possibly love, leading to marriage, be honest. If you only want a physical relationship, state so.

3. Consider your new friend’s circle of friends. If your girl or guy hangs out with the rough crowd, drinks a lot, and takes drugs, pass up your friend for someone less troublesome. Be aware that you may find some people are good talkers but have very few things to offer besides sweet talk. In fact, figure out if your new friend has a little black book filled with numbers of other prospects. If this person is always unavailable, you may not be the only one he is dating.

4. Figure out how much time you can devote to the relationship. If you have multiple jobs, lots of homework, and other responsibilities, now may not be the time to be with someone new. Get your schoolwork done first because the best education is your own.

5. Be wary of online dating. If you found your new friend online, be aware that you may not be the only one he is seeing. People are not always what they seem online. Has any Medium writer been successful with online dating? I would love to know. At the time I wrote this, online dating was fairly new in 2012. Nowadays, everyone is doing it. Still, be vigilant because he/she could be meeting other people at the same time he/she is dating you.

6. Read relationship books online or if you have a chance, find some great relationship books at your book store or better yet, download them. You can also find great relationship stories on Medium.

7. Your relationship has a better chance of surviving if you have shared interests. If you like movies and he doesn’t, it may make for a boring weekend. If you like poetry and he prefers poker, keep in mind that it is natural for people to have different interests. But if you have more different interests than common interests, keep in mind that you may be in for a short-term relationship. I’ve been with my husband for over 15 years now, and part of our success is that we have common interests.

8. Consider how he/she acts towards your friends. If your new guy is too possessive and wants you all to yourself, you may feel trapped. Worst, he may dislike your friends or family. You don’t need to live under such a dark cloud. Find out if he is open and sociable. Don’t live like a monk! Run, if he acts too jealous and possessive!

9. Find out if you trust him/her. Trust is the most important thing in the world. If you don’t have trust, you may not find it within your heart to love him/her. With all the online dating, he may be finding someone on the side. Make sure, he’s home when he says he is.

10. Love yourself. Make sure that you truly, deeply love, and respect yourself before you go out or involve yourself fully in a new relationship. Because if the going gets rough, you need to fall back on yourself and trust your instincts to jump out of the relationship if the need arises.

That’s all I have for you today. Hope you enjoyed my article which I retrieved from my vault of articles written under a younger sun and moon. Please follow me for more stories like this. Follow this fine publication as well.

If you need more followers, read this here. Walking a dog got me into thinking deep thoughts about global inequity. Hope you enjoyed this article and would appreciate a coffee ">here.

Til next time. Keep on smiling:)