10 rules of dating.

In the 36 years I have been on this earth, I have learned many life lessons I keep close to me.

Some examples are like how to carry yourself as a man.

How to stand your ground.

And also things you should do and not do when it comes to dating.

So to get to my point, here are 10 things that are not just important for me when it comes to dating, I’m also sharing this because I feel it could be great advice for others also.

So here we go.

One: Respect.

Even if things don’t get serious, you want to have mutual respect for one another. If you don’t, then that’s when the ugly sides of people show because they just look at someone to get sex from, money or whatever the situation is. So respect for one another is first and foremost.

Two: Communication.

I’ve been blessed to be a deep empath person so I can pick up others feelings on things but sometimes I can’t get an accurate read and I’ve noticed in the past that would start arguments over petty stuff. It’s always scary to drop your guard to people but if you want something to blossom, you have to take that chance and open up to the other person. Otherwise things you could discuss with someone you end up bottling up and that’s when the crap hits the fan. So you gotta keep those lines of communication open always.

Three: Being single.

I’ve dealt with women in the past that would say they were “‘single “ but they would be actually “ separated “ or “ going through a divorce “ Basically they just wanted their cake to eat and yours as well.

Just selfish people.

This goes back to number one with respect. Anyone you meet like this get away from. Because they don’t respect themselves,

definitely not their mate,

and they damn sure don’t respect you most important.

So be free of any past ties with an ex before you decide to take on someone new.

Four: Intimacy.

I’m a very passionate type of man and I understand we both might not be in the mood at times with work or children and I’m very understanding of that. But you gotta have that physical connection with someone. It’s not just about the climax, it’s an opportunity to let each other know how much you care for that person and vice versa.

I feel intimacy is like a flower. Give it plenty of water and it will blossom.

Lack of it and it will die. Same as the relationship. So keep that in mind people.

Five: Space.

I feel yes you need to spend quality time with someone always to let them know how much you appreciate them but we all need space.

We need that “ me time “

I feel for self-reflecting and to just be able to breathe at times. I used to work with someone and dated them and would go on breaks with her,

go home with her,

go to sleep with her,

get up with her,

go to work with her,

and rinse and repeat. And she had the nerve to say “ we don’t spend enough time together. “ Guess how that ended?

Yeah.

So give each other space at times.

Six: Ambition.

I’m a person that works two jobs at times and I don’t care how much money you make, one thing I have learned in life at a young age is this:

Money can’t buy love.

But I have seen my fair share of people that just want to use you for financial gain and to me, a woman is way more attractive when they make their money and don’t just depend on you. I’m all about chivalry like opening doors and pulling out a ladies chair and such but don’t always think I have to pay. We can split the bill at times also to save us both money.

So think about those people. Be around someone that wants to reach the stars. Not have you just fund the trip so they can see it.

Seven: Intentions.

This goes back to number two with communication. I know i am not the only one that thought something could grow with someone and they just wanted to “ have fun “ and such. That’s fine. But let that be known from the jump. Don’t lead people on and then ghost them. Shows you are very immature and have some more growing up to do. So tell someone what you want. Saves everyone drama.

We all should respect another’s feelings.

Eight: Drug Issues.

Now look. A lil alcohol and marijuana don’t hurt anyone and I don’t care about that ( unless you're like Kid Cudi and do it “ Day and Night “ and don’t work or anything ) but if its something like meth or crack, I don’t want no parts of that. Now only have I seen how that meth can destroy someone firsthand from living around a lot of meth heads ( don’t get me wrong. Not everyone is like that. I know. But I just don’t want it near me ) but I had someone steal over 300 dollars from me and throw a hotel gangbang party basically over my money. So please if you have issues like that, stay away. Don’t need that drama in my life ever again.

Nine: Crazy Exes.

I don’t even need to explain this one. This a huge red flag everyone. And we live in a very technology-driven world where it’s not hard to find information on someone. So stay away from me. And I suggest to others you adopt the same mindset as well. Don’t matter how attractive they are.

Trust me, you will save yourself heartache on the long run. Believe me, I know. ( Thank god it never got bad. Just was uncomfortable )

And last but definitely not least,

ten is trust.

We all have insecurities. I don’t care what anyone says. We got em. It’s what makes us human. But I’m sure you guys and I have pushed someone away in your life because of past hurts or you were making them pay for past mistakes.

Then you are all alone while you let someone great be a nice catch for someone else. One thing I’ve learned in life is don’t forget those past hurts, but you gotta move on. Put it in the past and look forward to the present and future.

Plus you gotta have faith and trust in that person. If you don’t have that, the relationship will not go anywhere. It will be over before you can even get it off the ground. Not everyone is bad out there.

Remember that.

So open your heart,

take a chance,

and put trust in that person. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world.

Besides, it’s better trying to swing for the fences than not even going up to bat. You will never know unless you try.

And honorable mention: Sense of humor.

I’m serious a lot but I do laugh. You gotta have a sense of humor in this crazy world we live in. It’s a nice way to break the tension and give you that breather to know everything will be alright. Gotta laugh people.

So there you have it.

10 rules of dating.

I hope these tips can be valuable for you guys as well.

So get out there ( When things get better of course )

Meet new people.

And hopefully, you find your special someone that you can grow with.

Good luck.

Thanks for reading.

Take care.

Peace.

Also here is a piece I wrote on 5 ways to treat/ keep a women in your life.