You’re Not Alone: The Truth About Coping with Sadness

Breaking the Myth of Quick Fixes: is there a magical switch?

It is hard to be grateful for anything when your day is tough or your energy is low or you feel that everyone around you treated you badly.

You find yourself finishing work, exhausted, sitting in bed, and scrolling mindlessly on social media. You don’t see what you scroll, it doesn't even matter.

You feel your life just floating away. You want to do something but it is soo hard. Moving is soo hard. And for what? What could you achieve? What could happen differently? Why force yourself if you will, probably, have no impact? If life would be the same, people would be the same, work would be the same? This idea swirls in your mind and you cannot escape it.

Why even bother?

That is the hardest question! Why even bother? Why invest the effort? Why push yourself? Why try?

Unfortunately, I have nothing!

I can go on and on about how life is worth it for what it is. I can say that if you open yourself you will see the beauty out there. I can try to convince you that it is a choice and you have to choose to be happy. I can tell you how beautiful is nature, the sun, the world, and the people, and that you just have to look for the good parts.

I can tell you the same stuff that everyone tells you. And all that is true…

But I won’t!

I won’t because I know all that and miserable I am still! Blindly looking for the first thing to release me from living, I am still! Numly scrolling just to forget how hard it is, I am still! Time and life passing by, I still let!

And I am still here writing to you something because I want to help you. I want to help you because I know what it feels like. I know how disappointing it is to have had that feeling of joy and fulfillment and happiness, and just lose it. How could I lose it, I don’t know! Probably the same way we all do, it takes work and effort to get it, and it takes work and effort to keep it, and we got tired and we lost focus for just a second, and that was enough!

I am here writing nothing trying to help myself.

I want to write something that will stick, something that, when you feel like this, you can remember and just feel better. I want to give you a switch that you can turn and just make you feel better.

But I don’t have it.

There are no miracles!

There is just patience!

Patience and trust

Trust that it will all be well at some point.

Trust that we will find a way

Trust that we will find the energy

Trust that we will see this through

Trust that this feeling will end and it will be replaced by something better

Trust that someone will open our door and will lighten up our life.

Because there are other days when there is light. When life is wonderful, when people are nice, when the world is filled with smiles.

There are days when the sun is up and everything is beautiful. When music is happy, and movies are inspiring. When thoughts are friendly and you’re filled with love.

There are days when storms look strangely calm, and rain is lovingly refreshing. When you are listened to and when you feel complete.

So yes, I have nothing miraculous for you. I have no magic switch. Just the fact that you are not alone. Everyone feels this way and it will end. Good times are around the corner and there is always someone waiting for you there.

Have patience

Have trust

Be strong