IT TURNS OUT USING SWEAR WORDS CAN HAVE POSITIVE IMPACTS ON YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.

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How does cursing fit in with modern-day parenting?

I’ve been studying how to write better articles by reading more and more. Some writers have a knack for weaving great pieces with killer headlines.

Robert Ralph’s article “You lack intelligence” is an excellent example. He is a brilliant writer! He has an interesting take on swearing, and it was a conversation I couldn’t pass up. Make sure to check it out below.

Cursing is my expression of respect, or more aptly — lack thereof, for a person, place, or situation. It’s interesting to me that its usage is, more likely, a sign of intelligence.

As I was researching how to approach this fascinating subject, I learned that science has found that swearing is a sign of intelligence and emotional well-being.

Expressing our emotions in healthy ways shows growth, experience, and a more robust understanding of vocabulary.

A study by psychologists from Marist College found links between how fluent a person is in English and how fluent they are in swearing.

Swearing Is a Sign of More Intelligence — Not Less — Say, Scientists

What this correlation suggests is that swearing isn’t simply a sign of language poverty, lack of general vocabulary, or low intelligence.

Instead, swearing appears to be a feature of language that an articulate speaker can use in order to communicate with maximum effectiveness. And actually, some uses of swearing go beyond just communication.-article here

I couldn’t agree with Robert Ralph more! Words matter! Absolutely, and we should all pay close attention to our words.

Since reading his article, I have found myself trying to see if I could find better words to use instead. In some places, I have found better terminology; in others, some things remain the same!

So for me, cursing is not something that I avoid; it is something that I embrace and use to convey the depth of my pain, the height of my anger, and the breadth of my fury. When I’m cursing, I don’t lack words. Usually, it is a sign of me wanting to speak as clearly and concisely as possible.

A well-placed “FUCK!” can usually sum up a myriad of problems like dropping a nail, a glass pitcher, or discovering you have a flat tire.

Studies have shown that a good vocabulary is likely an indicator that you have an excellent curse word vocabulary too.

The fact is that the size of your vocabulary of swear words is linked with your overall language, and swearing is linked to the experience and expression of feelings and emotions from the article above here makes total sense.

We’re all a giant hairball of emotions. You may find yourself cursing more, short-tempered, or annoyed lately. It’s not you. We’re watching war raging in Ukraine. The pressure of political unrest worldwide combined with the uncertainty of the financial situations many are still facing because of Covid-19; collectively, it leaves us all emotionally spent.

“People often swear when they are stressed, faced with a challenge, or are otherwise experiencing an increase in the activation of their sympathetic nervous system. When people swear, they experience a slight or significant release in physiological and psychological stress,” Dr. Kyle Zrenchik, PhD, couples and sex therapist and co-founder of All In Therapy, told Healthline.

Swearing Can Be Good for Your Health

“People often swear when they are stressed, faced with a challenge, or are otherwise experiencing an increase in the activation of their sympathetic nervous system. When people swear, they experience a release, either slight or significant, in physiological and psychological stress,” Dr. Kyle Zrenchik, PhD, a couples and sex therapist and co-founder of All In Therapy, told Healthline.

Robert Ralph said; I want to make the record clear, I have never sworn in front of my children and try to be a decent father, but I thought this might be an interesting topic to get feedback on either way.

I do not think that cursing in front of my children makes me an indecent mother. I purposely teach them that cursing is for when you need to convey an emotion that you do not think a better word would work.

However, please know I do not curse at my children. Nope! That is entirely different. I respect them (and myself) too much for that. But I’ll likely hit my “Damn Toe!” before this day is over!

Cursing into the universe and cursing at someone is different.

Listen, being a parent is hard. The stakes are the biggest of any job you will ever have! The very best advice I can give you is be real.

Parenting Pro Tip about cursing:

Let your children see you solving your problems. Let them know when you have your feelings hurt and your processes for mending those booboos. Share with your children when you’re right and wrong and why.

When children are younger, they’re not allowed to curse because it’s about control. It would be best if you learned to be in control of your own body, mind, and mouth. When you’re young, you don’t know the power of words and cannot navigate the nuances of words.

Also, it’s a good point to teach that there are some words we don’t say. Implementing this early is essential. And is more about teaching self-control than the actual words.

Boundaries are vital to healthy growth. Knowing where you cannot go in spoken and written words is as important as knowing how to navigate the physical world.

Acceptable forms of expressing our emotions are essential for children to see modeled. To know that it’s ok to feel these emotions but that there are many ways to appropriately express feelings and cursing shouldn’t be where we start learning how to express emotions.

When you’re older, it’s easier for you to defend your choice of words, their usage, intent, and you can say what you want. I am [at least for the foreseeable future] going to be there to challenge them and raise them to be their best selves.

That is my job as an imperfect example of a human being, dammit.

In closing, know this, parenting is hard! Cursing can be a sign of intelligence and you’re actually doing a really good job at navigating this crazy life! Keep up the good work. You got this!