Your Sexuality Doesn’t Matter!

Be judged on your personality and the good you do

When I scan X (formerly Twitter) and see so many comments about sexuality, I cannot help but despair.

If a new housemate comes into the Big Brother House, people immediately speculate about his or her love life. When a royal family member goes quiet, people assume he or she is having an affair.

What I don’t see enough of are tweets about their personalities or what they actually achieve.

Instead of jumping to conclusions about private aspects of celebrity lives (or other newsworthy people), why is the press (and society as a whole) not more interested in what good those folk can do?

Judging Someone For Things They Cannot Change

There is an awful lot of judging going on in the world today. Everyone is looked at closely through a lens and sometimes a microscope too.

Yet I fear that people are not seen for what they actually do; for the difference they are making. The goodness in someone is often overlooked while features such as sexuality or religion are frowned upon or gossiped about.

When I wrote this header about things someone cannot change, what I really meant was things they should never have to change.

You can be a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community without it having any bearing on your work. I would argue, it may well enhance your performance, as you will no doubt have been through challenges and could even have fairly adaptive problem-solving skills as a result.

So does being a gay politician make you a better or worse person?

Don’t be silly.

It would be the policies you develop that show what you are made of. For instance, you might:

• Prioritize healthcare reform
• Call out abuse
• Increase public service wages

Let’s look at what people actually do, rather than worrying about their personal lives.

Your personality matters. Let’s judge that. And if it has weaknesses, let’s rally round to support that person and help them deal with their personal demons instead of demonising them.

Final Thoughts

We spend far too much time obsessing over who people might prefer to sleep with. It is not only banal but also none of our business.

Who cares? I don’t.

I would rather know about what good people are doing and whether or not they can do their job properly.

It is absolutely right to judge someone based on their performance. For example, if an actor is not convincing in a role, don’t watch their TV show anymore.

If an ex-Love Island contestant is selling a dangerous type of Botox procedure, unfollow them.

But please stop obsessing over whether or not someone is gay. Stop directing conversations towards aspects of people’s lives which are personal and don’t affect you.

When I say you, I don’t mean YOU, dear reader. This is merely my advice for those who spend their time trashing others for potentially or actually being members of the LGBTQ+ community.

What do you think about the way society judges people these days?