Your Life Will Begin When You Stop Blaming

The power of the mind

Locked inside a mind-prison

She was paralyzed with anxiety, fear, self-loathing and criticism. Her relationships were falling apart, one by one. She always thought it was the other person.

Her attempts at happiness always ended up failing, piling on more reason to be unhappy. She was medicated and diagnosed with no less than 3 mysterious illnesses.

She was locked inside her own mind-prison, not able to break free because of “all these things happening to her.” How can you change outside forces invading your peace?

Everyone else looked at her with knowing glances, but none brave enough to say what needed to be said:

“Stop blaming everyone and everything else for your problems.”

Two crucial choices

When we find ourselves miserable, we have two choices: to blame or take responsibility. Only one of those will solve the problem.

Blaming feels good at the time. If someone or something else is responsible for my icky feelings, then I’m not, and I feel better about that. The problem is, it doesn’t make me better. Because if you believe it’s something or someone out there, causing your problems, you are powerless to change it.

It’s easy to blame parents for “the way I am.” Let’s face it, each of us, if we try, can conjure up things our parents did wrong or didn’t do at all, and blame them for some flaws in our personalities. And to some degree, it’s a fact that we are shaped by our upbringing.

But even those with the hardest of circumstances must make a choice to take charge of their lives now, to channel energy and emotion into who they want to become, instead of being stuck by holding onto a memory they can’t change. They can choose to forgive, if only for themselves, and be free.

I experienced this life-changing moment when I stopped blaming my dad.

The power of the mind is the greatest human force on the planet. It can heal or destroy a person. The mind tells us what we are. We become, literally, what we think about. Let that sink in.

The power of the mind

I can actually make myself sick by telling myself I am sick enough times. Knowing that power then, what if we told ourselves we are well, and alive, and capable and able to be who we want to be?

If you are stuck in life, ask yourself if you’re blaming something or someone for where you are. Then stop. Exercise the power of thought, verbally expressing what you hope to achieve.

Blame is a trap that will enslave you in your misery. It will never help you climb out of the pit of despair or despondency. You must make the conscious decision to end the blame game and take responsibility for your thoughts, your choices and your life.

Ready to live? It’s all in your head.

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