Your Dreams May Have Ended Up In The Wrong Hands

It’s highly likely that you won’t change.

If you’ve clicked on this article, I hope it’s because I just pissed you off as opposed to validated an idea that you may have been mulling over in your head.

I don’t like writing things like this, but I also want to tell the truth. The “self-help” industry has a bad rep in some ways. The naysayers often think a lot of the stuff we write or say is just a whole bunch of hoopla.

They aren’t wrong. A lot of people in this industry just tell you anything. I do my best to avoid that by speaking the hard truth.

My stance is that I believe that we are all capable, but that doesn’t mean we will make it. At the same time, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. “Capable” is enough for me. I fundamentally believe if we put in the work necessary, we will get there.

To reach our goals it’s going to take much more than what people are willing to give. You literally have to change as a person. You have to become a much tougher, mentally strong person than you likely are right now.

The more ambitious the dream, the more likely you will fail. That is because the level of change and sacrifice required from you is even greater.

It’s crazy how hard things get when they are left up to us. Changing to become the person you need to be to actualize that precious dream of yours is perhaps the hardest thing in life to do that you can’t get others to do for you. The problem is that the choice is ours. The problem is we have control. It’s a problem that shouldn't be a problem.

It’s crazy how insane our thought process is for this whole dream-chasing thing. The biggest thing the “self-help”, “personal growth” industry got right is that they labeled it as “self” and “personal”. Why? Because no one can get you to change and do what you need to do besides yourself.

It has to be you.

A lot of the articles I write may sound like nonsense because I write as if I can change you for you. Maybe the problem is that you are looking for someone else to change you instead of yourself.

If I could use the words I’m writing to grab your soul and shake it in the right direction, if I could speak and summon change within you, I promise I would. I know I would because even though it’s impossible to flip that switch for you, it doesn’t stop me from trying.

Maybe I can at the least get your hand on the lever, but I can’t pull it for you. We have control, and that’s a problem that shouldn’t be one.

We should have the utmost confidence in ourselves that when recognizing that it’s our choice whether or not we achieve our dreams, we smile, say “roger that”, and pursue the unknown with full force.

Most of our dreams have ended up in the wrong hands because most of us won’t change to actualize them.

Change is possible, change isn’t genetic. It’s not in our DNA. Change comes to those who simply…do it.

I know it’s easier said than done, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it just because saying it is easier.

Look at anything you’ve accomplished in the past. Whenever you accomplished that thing, you were a different person from before that moment. It may not seem like you changed at all, but you did –– you became a person who can, with certainty, do the thing you accomplished that prior to that point you couldn’t do before.

Because so many of us fail, because so many of us let our dreams fall to the wayside, it turns out we were the wrong person for them. Our dreams may have landed in the “potential” hands, the “hopefully they eventually will” hands, but though this may be true, you can bet 90% of the time that they were simply the wrong hands.

I don't say any of this to discourage you. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. I don’t know about you, but I’m not the person who believes those who tell me I can’t do something that I want to do. I’m also not the person who is going to run away just because someone says it's hard. You shouldn’t be either.

Of course, it’s going to be hard. Life is hard! But where would I run to? It’s not like anything else is easier, and if it is, it probably isn’t worth it. If you’re going to be the type of person who runs away from anything hard, then you might as well stop chasing any dream of yours.

I’m not telling you that you can’t do it. I’m reminding you that it’s really really hard; It’s vital that you know this because so many people will avoid telling you. You’ll chase this thing and wonder why you aren’t getting ahead. That’s because it’s super hard. It’s because you haven’t changed to become a person you can trust. You haven’t changed to become that person who can achieve the dream. You haven’t worked hard enough.

You can’t afford to lose faith in yourself. You can’t afford to lie to yourself either.

I’m telling you that your dreams are up to you, and for most people, this is why they fail. You can’t pass your dreams off to someone who can achieve them for you where you still receive the benefits/results/rewards/fulfillment of it. Why would you even want to? Plus, everyone has their own dreams to worry about than deal with yours.

It’s funny, we don’t want to work toward our dreams, but we still want to hold onto them. What good does that do?

Either let go of your dreams or become someone worthy of holding them.