Your Best New Year’s Resolution
The important things in life
What is important in life is you and how you feel.
The important thing is what you do with your opportunities.
We all have different possibilities, we are all different, and we all have different prerequisites. But what we all have in common is that we are human, and as human we have some basic qualities and skills, and we have some talents that we can utilize.
Do you live alone or with others? It’s the same — you are a person in life, a person with opportunities, skills and talent. But what you make of your life means everything; the attitude to life itself, the attitude to yourself and the choices you make all the time.
Often we are governed by the emotions, feelings and impressions that we get from others. Often we feel unfree, often we feel overlooked and underestimated; we are sorry and we can get angry.
In relation to such things we can let ourselves be dominated, we can let ourselves be ruled by human beings who are not good for us. Or we can put our foot down, we can get up, we can take control of our lives. It can easily be about going into yourself and talking some serious words with yourself.
Taking responsibility for yourself and your life can be about getting up slowly and starting to go in the direction you want. And it’s about shaking off everything that lies and weighs you down. It’s about shaking off the yoke on your shoulders, this invisible weight, the load that you do not have to carry on.
What you can say to yourself is that now is the time, now it’s your turn, now you have to prioritize yourself. You should no longer let the things that bother you have so much space anymore. You should not let extraneous thoughts bother you anymore; you must go into yourself, and you must know that you have a liberating power, a strength within yourself.
Rest, retreat
You should think that you should focus on rest, you should focus on retreat, focus on your own best situation in your own development. You should think that it is you who is important, it is you who matters now, it is you who comes before all the other things that you do for others.
And if you recognize yourself in this, if you are a careful person, a person who is reflective, who is easy to tilt out of balance, if you are a person who is easy to influence — then you may be a person who can never get well if you let others control you in your life.
If you are a person that others control and rule with, a person who is dominated by others, then it is important for you to create space. You need to create distance to these people who intentionally or unknowingly dominate you, push you, make you feel small, make you feel unfree.
Imagine that you are going to withdraw a little from the world, go into yourself. Seek rest, seek to shield yourself from the noise out there. You shall search within you; you should search for strength.
Take a walk in beautiful nature.
Think of something that gives you joy.
Read something that you know will lift you up.
Listen to music that gives you good vibes.
Do you live closely with a partner or spouse who is stressing you, who is hovering like a bird of prey over your life and who criticizes you or dominates you — think that this new year will be the year when you carefully get up, carefully feel that you can stand free and rest safely in yourself. Let this be the new good year for you. This will be the year when you get up and stand on your own two feet. Let this be the year when you take care of yourself first and foremost, instead of taking care of the one who will control you, who will suck forces out of you.
Think it’s your turn now.
Think that you should prioritize yourself, you should give your own rest first priority.
Let this be the year when you have the strength and courage to stand in your life, whether now your life will be the same life as before, closely linked to the person you once connected with, or if you choose to break out and stand free.
There is no definitive answer, no other than this:
Find your rest, find your balance, find where you can stand safely.
Find the life attitude you can live in and enjoy; find the life attitude you can grow in or with.
Do you live with someone you know is good for you?
Show that you appreciate it if you feel good about the other person you are with; show that you are grateful that you have what you have with this other person.
Øivind H. Solheim writes fiction, essays and articles aiming to help others understanding life, other humans and themselves. He has published five novels, two non-fiction books and a poetry book.
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