LIFE LESSONS

You Were Born To Succeed — You Just Have To Remember That Again

You will then never give in to the feeling of defeat ever again

Have you ever felt like you’re a failure because things just have not been going the way you want them to? And for some reason, you just seem to be falling over and over again.

If you have, then you’re definitely not alone.

In fact, there are millions of others out there who have felt or are currently feeling the way you did or do at the moment.

I, too, have felt this way many many times, especially when I look at my family and I think that there is just so much more that I could have given them over the years.

Or when I think back about the times I failed at what I was doing or didn’t achieve what I wanted.

I felt broken, I felt sad, I felt ashamed, and I felt like a total failure.

The worst part of that was feeling like I was never going to succeed — ever. And that can really break you.

But one thing my then 9-month-old son did remind me is that I — and everyone else — are destined for success.

At that time, he was just learning how to walk.

He had been crawling since he was about 6 months old and by 7 months, he was standing up and it was time he started learning how to walk.

And boy was it hard.

Day after day, he would try his best to walk.

He would stumble, he would fall, he would sometimes bump his head when he fell, he would cry, he would throw a tantrum, he would fall asleep from that tantrum, and just lie on the floor for a while from having fallen so many times.

But one thing he always did, was get back up and go again.

No matter how many times he failed, he would get back up and try again until finally, he was able to take his first few steps.

A few steps turned into more steps and turned to steady walks, and now at 2 and a half years old, full-on just running around.

Now, you might be thinking, isn’t that what all babies do? Didn’t we all go through the same process as well?

And you’re right.

You did.

I did.

We all did.

As babies, we went through the process of learning how first roll over, crawl, stand, walk, run, jump, etc., to where we are now.

Of course, I fully acknowledge that not everyone has the same experiences, especially those who were born with different abilities.

What our childhood taught us, or rather, can remind us of, is that we’re all fighters. And we’ve all gone through moments where we stumble and fall repeatedly. We went through moments where, as adults now, we would most likely have given up.

But we didn’t.

When we were babies, toddlers, kids, we didn’t give up so easily.

We kept trying, we kept going. No matter how many times we failed, we would always get back up and go again. And we kept going until we finally succeeded in doing what we wanted to do.

We were born winners, to succeed in what we set our minds to.

When we were babies, we never knew the meaning of giving up. We never accepted the act of failure. For some reason, we just felt like we had to keep going until we succeeded.

And we did.

When you think about it, you succeeded in a lot of things when you were little — most probably many of them you don’t even remember because you were too young.

But you did.

You succeeded in many things that you would have failed at initially. You most definitely didn’t succeed immediately when you started to crawl and walk. You would have failed consistently.

And yet, you kept going.

However, as adults, we seem to be faster at giving up when things don’t go the way we want them to, or when we don’t succeed after trying just a few times.

We tend to accept defeat way too easily as adults, whereas, as kids, we would have tried a whole lot more times before even contemplating giving up.

So, when you really think about it, we’ve actually had a really strong winning mindset the moment we were born.

Why can’t we keep having that mindset?

Why can’t we remember just how resilient we used to be?

Now, there is still an art in knowing when to give up or when to pivot when things just keep going the way we don’t want them to, and that comes from the experiences we have throughout our lives.

But that doesn’t mean we give up. It just means that we look for different ways, different routes to the same destination.

Especially if it’s to a dream or a goal that we know we’d regret for the rest of our lives if we don’t give our best in achieving it.

So, if you find yourself falling or failing again, just remember that you’ve actually succeeded in so many things in your life already and that you are more of a fighter than you give yourself credit for.

You’ve gone through setback after setback and came out triumphant each time so there is no reason why you can’t keep doing it.

You were born to succeed.

You just need to remember that.

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