You Need to Get Out of Your Head.

If you want to finally start moving forward and doing the things you said you’d do.

Some people say just do it; all you need to do is take action, but how do you bridge the gap between thinking about it and dreaming about it and physically getting up and starting to do the thing?

I think about this all the time because I went through this.

I joined an MLM (Multilevel marketing company) back in 2019 in the hopes of changing my financial life and future, but after three or four years, I found myself in the exact place I started.

The truth is, it was all my fault.

I hadn’t moved an inch.

I hadn’t taken that business opportunity and done something with it in all that time.

Why? I realized it was because I did not enjoy one bit of it.

If you know anything about MLMs, they’re primarily focused on sales (face-to-face) and recruiting.

Even though I’m perfectly capable of having a conversation one-on-one with anyone, I didn’t like feeling salesy.

The truth was I was not a good salesperson (in the stereotypical sense), but more importantly, I wasn’t good because I wasn’t trying to get good at it; I didn’t like it, so why would I pursue learning a skill I don’t enjoy?

This leads me to lesson number one.

(How can you start taking action consistently?)

Find something you genuinely enjoy doing.

For example, if you consume content consistently, what kind of content is it?

Do you imagine yourself doing it? Have you tried?

This is how I found/started writing.

I found Medium, and I consumed so much content months before I even thought of writing.

I read hundreds of blogs and articles. It wasn’t until I read a book (Untamed by Glennon Doyle) that I got the courage to take a crack at writing myself (publicly).

I had written plenty of personal journal entries back then, but I didn’t think I was cut out for writing or self-publishing.

But after reading that book, something clicked inside me.

I gathered the courage to write my first blog, and the rest is history.

I’ve been on this platform for close to three years, and I’m incredibly grateful for it because I’ve learned invaluable lessons about taking action and remaining consistent.

This is why I can now share the lessons I’ve learned with you.

Onto lesson number two.

It WILL take time.

This is the part that no one likes to hear, but it must be said because too many people expect to find one thing they enjoy and succeed as soon as they start working on it.

That’s not how success works.

For starters, you may not end up with what you started with.

This happened to me when I decided to blog on my own (meaning on my own website).

I was excited about it, but I could not keep up with it because the truth is, I did not enjoy building my site one bit.

After a while, I just gave up on it and shut off my domain.

I’ll probably invest in a website in the future, but now that I know myself better, I know I will pay a web developer to handle all the background stuff.

The point of this is that the journey will not be an uphill slope the entire time.

You’re going to get lost or distracted, fall off course, then come back, then fall off course again, then come back again.

And all of this WILL TAKE TIME.

I’ve been writing on Medium for almost three years, like I said, and I’ve only amassed 400 followers in the time frame because, in the beginning, I was very inconsistent with publishing.

I only got serious in November of last year.

Although I’m not thrilled with the timeline, I wouldn’t change anything that’s happened because, through this journey, I’ve learned the lessons I needed to learn to become disciplined and consistent.

This is why I’ve been able to add another side hustle (YouTube), and so far, I’ve remained consistent with it.

I’m proud of myself for that because a year ago, I wouldn’t have been able to sustain this.

Moral of the story, allow the journey to take its course and stop worrying and thinking that you must meet all your goals or milestones in a specific timeline.

You don’t. Let the journey take its course, and enjoy it!

Lastly, lesson number three.

Keep your dreams/goals/ideas TO YOURSELF.

Share these only with someone you trust and know will not discourage you.

The reality is most people have already given up on building the life of their dreams.

When they hear someone is trying to pursue theirs, unconsciously, they become jealous and bitter and want to shut down your ideas.

This is why thinking, dreaming, planning, and acting in private is important, at least initially.

I’ve been in this very situation before, where I’ve shared dreams of mine in the past, and the only thing I got from the person I was speaking with was discouragement.

I thought this person would be happy for me or at least support me, but they couldn’t do either.

Those experiences were an eye-opener.

When I first started blogging, I told no one about it because I didn’t want anyone to sh*t on my parade.

I wanted to write to my heart’s content, and that was it.

I didn’t need anyone telling me this was a waste of time or not a real career path or whatever mean and discouraging comment they could say.

I wanted to dream, and I wanted to give myself a chance.

Thanks to keeping this private for the first year or so, I was able to continue writing and build discipline and drive, and now here we are, almost three years later, more motivated, inspired, and disciplined than ever.

Moral of the story, keep your dreams, goals, and ideas to yourself in the beginning.

You don’t need anyone shutting you down or telling you you’re incapable before you truly try.

So, to get out of your head and start putting action behind all those ideas and goals you keep dreaming about, one, you need to find something you genuinely enjoy doing that has the potential to make money (like writing); two, don’t fall into the trap of thinking the success will happen overnight or in a short time-frame, and three, keep all those wonderful dreams and ideas you have private (at least in the beginning).

You deserve to give yourself a real chance at building a life you’re happy and content with.