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you’re an exhibitionist and your partner isn’t, or doesn’t want you to exhibit yourself online.I’m tempted to say: your body, your choice but clearly, you are feeling conflicted so here are some extra ideas.The first thing you need to do is to separate your needs from your partner’s. From what you’ve shared, his needs are about being conservative and not wanting what you do online to reflect badly on him. You need to ask yourself how important his needs are to you.Once you’ve answered that, a larger and may I suggest more important question is to get clear about why you want to post naked photographs of yourself online. Make a list of the pros and cons of doing so — for example, a con might be you’d face disapproval for family and friends, while a pro could be you would feel liberated. As you are a fan, you might find <a href="https://readmedium.com/may-i-show-you-my-breasts-227bc691dbfb">this article</a> by <a href="https://medium.com/@yaelwolfe">Yael Wolfe</a> helpful.If you’re still unsure after this, an in-depth chat with a therapist might give you more clarity, or if you’d rathe

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r figure it out on your own, there is a great course on DailyOm for creating <a href="https://www.dailyom.com/cgi-bin/courses/courseoverview.cgi?cid=982">Radical</a> Boundaries which I highly recommend. It’s less expensive than seeing a therapist and the exercises can help you create very clear demarcations between your needs and the needs of others.It’s important to remember that once you put your images out there, you no longer have control over who sees them or what is done with them. That’s why revenge porn is such a problem.But if you’ve considered it all and still want to go ahead, might I suggest using a professional photographer so your body is displayed as tastefully as possible?I hope that helps!©️marla bishop 2020Marla Bishop is a relationship coach and writer: On medium.com she is the creator of <a href="https://medium.com/lilith">Lilith</a> and an editor of The <a href="https://medium.com/the-bad-influence">Bad Influence</a>. She lives in London UK with her family. You can follow her <a href="https://linktr.ee/marlab">here</a>.</article></body>

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Dear threesome,

I really hope you can help me. I am in a happy established relationship except my partner is quite conservative. Ever since my idols Ena and Yael have been showing off their bodies on Twitter I have been desperate to join them, but my partner says I mustn’t give in to what he calls ‘rampant exhibitionism’ and is very concerned about what his friends and colleagues might think.

What would you do?

Anon, London

Dear Anon,

I feel your pain. One of the hardest things is getting the right balance between your needs and the needs of those you love.

So your problem is that you’re an exhibitionist and your partner isn’t, or doesn’t want you to exhibit yourself online.

I’m tempted to say: your body, your choice but clearly, you are feeling conflicted so here are some extra ideas.

The first thing you need to do is to separate your needs from your partner’s. From what you’ve shared, his needs are about being conservative and not wanting what you do online to reflect badly on him. You need to ask yourself how important his needs are to you.

Once you’ve answered that, a larger and may I suggest more important question is to get clear about why you want to post naked photographs of yourself online. Make a list of the pros and cons of doing so — for example, a con might be you’d face disapproval for family and friends, while a pro could be you would feel liberated. As you are a fan, you might find this article by Yael Wolfe helpful.

If you’re still unsure after this, an in-depth chat with a therapist might give you more clarity, or if you’d rather figure it out on your own, there is a great course on DailyOm for creating Radical Boundaries which I highly recommend. It’s less expensive than seeing a therapist and the exercises can help you create very clear demarcations between your needs and the needs of others.

It’s important to remember that once you put your images out there, you no longer have control over who sees them or what is done with them. That’s why revenge porn is such a problem.

But if you’ve considered it all and still want to go ahead, might I suggest using a professional photographer so your body is displayed as tastefully as possible?

I hope that helps!

Marla Bishop is a relationship coach and writer: On medium.com she is the creator of Lilith and an editor of The Bad Influence. She lives in London UK with her family. You can follow her here.