You Can Support me with Buy Me A Coffee & Let’s Talk Narcissists

So if you didn’t know, you can support me with buy me a coffee.

I want to thank everyone so far who has sent me lots of love and support through ‘Buy Me A Coffee’.

I would absolutely appreciate and love if you can donate even one coffee, this helps with the overheads of researching and working in this area to provide support to my clients. In some cases I also give free counselling and mentorship to those who are financially disadvantaged.

So, for those who don’t know me (you will shortly), my name is Annette and I am a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Counsellor. I am a sole parent of 2 beautiful kids under 12 and have been running my business for a few years now helping women and men recover from narcissistic abuse.

It’s a fancy name for if you have been duped by a narcissist and they have ruined your life, and you need support moving on as well as setting boundaries due to the crap they have put you through — then I’m here to help!

Have You Been Affected By A Narcissist?

One of the most common questions I get asked is:

“Was the person I was with a Narcissist?”

Chances are if you have fallen down the rabbit hole, done your research and thought that perhaps the person is a narcissist — then you’re not wrong. Remember, there is a difference to someone being a narcissist, and having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I talk about that in my earlier articles.

In life you are going to meet a lot of Narcissists. Trust me, they are EVERYWHERE. They may be in your family, in your schools, in your workplace, in your friendship circles.. also in your churches believe it or not.

There is not a person yet that I havne’t met that hasn’t known a narcissist. Of course, sometimes narcissists can also be complete jerks and then it can be confusing if they are just a jerk.. or a narcissist. But they are pretty simple to spot. At some stage the narcissist in your life will probably wildly discard you, just because they can.

The Narcissist Discard

The Narcissist will probably already be an expert at discarding others. What you might find is that you may see a pattern over the years where the narcissist will ‘get the shits’ at someone for doing or saying something that inherently felt like an insult to them. The victim narcissist will be offended and then instead of talking it out, or speaking to that person — instantly discard them without warning. Leaving you with zero closure on what just happened.

If you are lucky enough, you might find yourself in the warpath of the narcissist discard where you are one of many that they decide to cut off randomly.

I had this happen to me, and it wasn’t pleasant. It left me wondering what on Earth just happened, what did I say or do, and why has this person got such a wild vendetta against me. Some may even call this behaviour borderline personality.

Recovery from the Discard

It can take a while to recover from the discard, because essentialy we are being thrown away for no reason. Sometimes we are thrown aside for someone else, someone newer, or someone who may be more tolerant that enables the narcissists behaviours.

You will see the narcissist having fun, smiling and being friendly with these people — but if you have that pang of jealousy remember this one thing

You were once their friend, close and spent tons of time together — and now you’re not. Just like all the others who they used and discarded.

So this friendship that they have will one day be doomed to fail.

When it comes to the recovery of the discard keep in mind to have these things in place:

1. A good support network. If you don’t have one — get one. This could be joining a facebook group where you can be supported by others.
2. Hit me up and let’s chat. Yes I am here. You can also ask me a question on #askanne by emailing me at [email protected] I will be posting these questions up soon.
3. Look after yourself emotionally. Keep in mind that even if you did something, or said something wrong to the narcissist — how they act and react is out of your control.
4. Journal. If you like to journal, then write it out.
5. Write a letter and burn it. Write a letter to the narcissist, then burn it. Put your feelings in it, tell them how you felt, what they did, how they hurt you, what you wish could have happened.. all of it. Write it all out and then KILL IT WITH FIRE!!!!!!! (The letter not the narc)
6. Last and least.. Exercise. Lots of exercise. Get out in nature, go for a walk, go to the beach, the gym. Do something where you can exert your energy that you are feeling for the narc.

What are some things you have experienced through narcissist discard.

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Remember, don’t forget to submit your questions to [email protected] with the subject line #askanne. I can’t wait to read them.

If you love what I am doing, would like to submit a question and then make a small donation here it would be greatly appreciated on my buy me a coffee account. PS. I love coffee!!! coffee is life.

If you or someone you know needs counselling click here. You can also enquire from overseas and I will do my best to assist you.