You Can Smile Again

Pain is not forever

The world is probably not the best place to live right now. There is so much heartache and sadness going around and its facing most of us to the point that we have lost all hope. We feel lost and it becomes even scarier when we see other people being all happy and successful especially on the social media.

You got heartbroken last night and this morning you are seeing your friend updating their status into “just got married.” I know its easy to feel like the world is being unfair to us, well the world has always been unfair to everyone its just that not everyone is posting or talking about their disappointments or failures in life. We have created a place on the internet where everything looks perfect and make everyone believe that we are living the best times of our lives.

Its easy to post yourself having dinner at a five-star hotel and say nothing about the past three days that you went without being sure of what to eat. Its easier to talk about your success and never your worries and how much you were anxious about making it in life.

It usually makes us feel like we are doing nothing whenever we meet or see other people that are making actual progress. But we often forget one thing, for a seed to grow into a big tree it has to be buried deep into the ground where nobody sees it and it gets no attention at the time. The seed then dies and when it loses all hope for life the miracle of germination happens and that’s when it comes into the upper ground where everyone sees it and it starts to get a bit of attention. You know the rest.

I want this to be an article of hope to everyone who is going through hard times right now. Be it in relationship, career, family or just life itself. I want to send a message to my fellow hustlers out there that it is going to be fine and you can smile again. I know we have been told these words before but I bet they didn’t come from someone who is actually going through the same struggle as you do.

I have questioned myself and my decisions a thousand times. You want to know why? The answer is simple, life doesn’t come with a manual to navigate through it so everything we do every choice we make is just trial and error. I made some decisions years ago and its only now that I realize they were wrong, but does that help? Because I have already taken a direction that can’t be altered at this point maybe adjusted just a little bit.

I know you have been through that too; I mean who hasn’t? haven’t you ever been in a relationship and start thinking maybe it’s not the right one? Haven’t you ever gotten the job that you have been wanting for so long but when you start working you start feeling like you are not at the right place? I know you are probably questioning yourself right now and maybe you are at a certain point of your life where finding something to make you smile is as hard as finding an oasis in the desert. But I am telling you that you are going to smile again and this time its going to feel different. You know why? Because this time you will know how much important that smile is to you and you are going to feel it from your heart.

We all go through hard times and we find ourselves in places that we don’t even know how or what got us there. That’s just life nobody I repeat nobody knows how to do it. They will tell you the steps or principles to something but believe me they only realized that they were principles after they were successful not before. There is no principle or laws to anything except those of nature. Nature says you can’t harvest before you plant and that will never change, mother nature also says that water flows downhill and not the opposite so it’s up to you to choose how to live with that.

It doesn’t matter how much pain you are going through right now, how much uncertainty is in your life right now, you are going to get through it and you will smile again. That ex that you think you can never move on from? Its just a matter of time and your heart will learn to love again. I know you are probably thinking that its not possible, yes, I understand that because I myself have been there and when the pain is too much for you to handle you just wish for it to disappear sometimes even take your own life. But pain has a funny way of teaching us lessons and it is through that same pain that we find healing.

You can smile again not because I feel sorry for you but because you deserve it. Yes, you deserve those answers to your questions, you deserve that happy and stable relationship, you deserve to be called handsome and beautiful again because you are. Because you are fearful and wonderfully made.

But that is not going to happen unless you stop treating yourself like you don’t matter. We both know that once someone treats us like a doormat we start feeling and unfortunately acting like one. We start calling ourselves names and point fingers to our image. Its only you who can change that and make yourself worthy of that promotion at work, it is only you that can come with answers of what kind of relationship you want for yourself and eventually it is only you that can decide to smile again because you can. Smile you are worthy of it.