You Can Only Be Blamed For The Situation You Are In

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o protect myself in my own street or home.</p><p id="db39">Every place I worked in, always getting touched or groped. God forbids, you find a good decent person who sees you for the work you do more than a pound of flesh. The women and men around you start to attack. “She must be sleeping with him. Have you seen the looks they exchange?” No, I am not! I am working hard, since working smart is not an option for someone like me.</p><p id="5a03">Should I blame myself that my father thought educating his girls will give them wings and they will try to fly out of his cage. Should I blame the society that gave him the power to build that cage. I see people around me with good-paying jobs and the respect it demands. I work as hard as they do, maybe even harder, putting in more hours but it’s just not that much of a value.</p><p id="b608">Should I blame myself for not getting an education now that I know its value; well, even that seems like a far-fetched dream for someone like me. I can save up a lifetime to afford that paper qualification and still fall short of it.</p><p id="d770">Stop making excuses someone once told me. I would have been if I was sitting on my ass doing nothing. I work 12 hours a day shift when I am not writing, and this by the way is me daydreaming. I read a book recently, by Trevor Noah, and I like the way he puts this situation in words.</p><blockquote id="c5bd"><p>“People love to say, “Give a man a fish, and he’ll eat for a day. Teach a man to fish, and he’ll eat for a lifetime.” What they don’t say is, “And it would be nice if you gave him a f

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ishing rod.” That’s the part of the analogy that’s missing. You need someone from the privileged world to come to you and say, “Okay, here’s what you need, and here’s how it works.” Talent alone will not get you very far. People say, “Oh, that’s a handout.” No. You still have to work to profit from it. But, you don’t stand a chance without it.”</p></blockquote><p id="a93c">What I have learned in these many years of my life is that the TED Talk person is never going to know of the struggles of people like me, even if they try. I don’t blame them anymore or anyone else. It sometimes takes generations to bring about a little change to any situation. Not everyone is going to be a Bill Gates or an Oprah. Bill Gates and Oprah are few rarities here and there. For the rest of us, change begins when we start. For my mother I am that change, that flew out of her little kitchen window to be where I am.</p><p id="fcfd">©2021 TJ</p><div id="ae50" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/a-government-against-its-young-generation-and-diversity-33d4973b0f05"> <div> <div> <h2>A Government Against its Young Generation and Diversity</h2> <div><h3>A lie told often enough becomes a truth — Vladimir Lenin</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*ULGlwPWV9Hphp1lC)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

You Can Only Be Blamed For The Situation You Are In

Yesterday, I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today, I am wise, so, I am changing myself — Rumi

“You can only be blamed for the situation you are in.” Heard that on a TED Talk a while back when I was trying to figure my life out. I believed it back then. Blamed myself for my circumstances and went back to accepting whatever I was trying to change. Years later now, I have come to realise how that talk demotivated me, broke my self-confidence. How privilege that speaker must have been to even think like that. So far off from my reality. My situation.

These talks may be helping millions stuck in their daily rot, but for someone trying to find a footing or even thinking of starting, it just takes away the tiny ray of hope.

I can’t think of blaming my mother who got married at 12 and never had a chance to know there was a world beyond her four kitchen walls. Or even for me, who is trying every day to better adjust myself to this ever-changing world. I don’t have a degree or a white-collar job. What is the option I have out there for me? Trying to protect myself in my own street or home.

Every place I worked in, always getting touched or groped. God forbids, you find a good decent person who sees you for the work you do more than a pound of flesh. The women and men around you start to attack. “She must be sleeping with him. Have you seen the looks they exchange?” No, I am not! I am working hard, since working smart is not an option for someone like me.

Should I blame myself that my father thought educating his girls will give them wings and they will try to fly out of his cage. Should I blame the society that gave him the power to build that cage. I see people around me with good-paying jobs and the respect it demands. I work as hard as they do, maybe even harder, putting in more hours but it’s just not that much of a value.

Should I blame myself for not getting an education now that I know its value; well, even that seems like a far-fetched dream for someone like me. I can save up a lifetime to afford that paper qualification and still fall short of it.

Stop making excuses someone once told me. I would have been if I was sitting on my ass doing nothing. I work 12 hours a day shift when I am not writing, and this by the way is me daydreaming. I read a book recently, by Trevor Noah, and I like the way he puts this situation in words.

“People love to say, “Give a man a fish, and he’ll eat for a day. Teach a man to fish, and he’ll eat for a lifetime.” What they don’t say is, “And it would be nice if you gave him a fishing rod.” That’s the part of the analogy that’s missing. You need someone from the privileged world to come to you and say, “Okay, here’s what you need, and here’s how it works.” Talent alone will not get you very far. People say, “Oh, that’s a handout.” No. You still have to work to profit from it. But, you don’t stand a chance without it.”

What I have learned in these many years of my life is that the TED Talk person is never going to know of the struggles of people like me, even if they try. I don’t blame them anymore or anyone else. It sometimes takes generations to bring about a little change to any situation. Not everyone is going to be a Bill Gates or an Oprah. Bill Gates and Oprah are few rarities here and there. For the rest of us, change begins when we start. For my mother I am that change, that flew out of her little kitchen window to be where I am.