You Are a Strong Black Woman, You’ll Be Fine
Why this saying flatters as well as bothers me
It is interesting to notice how this saying manages to make me feel empowered but at the same time: disturbs me.
The one person saying it is probably well-intended but still..
Why can’t I have the room to just be human, vulnerable me from time to time if I feel like it? Why the pressure?
Yes, I use pressure because that it is how it sometimes feels like. It is as if because I am Black I gotta have that extra strength or something. Maybe I do have it — thank God, maybe I don’t. It’s not because I am a black woman that I have lesser feelings or emotions act less on me or that I don’t go through life challenges or pain that leave me feel like I just want to cry like a baby. Because I do. I do sometimes and I own it. Because on top of being melanin colored externally I am human in essence. And it is the essence that feels, the essence that lives and senses wholly. And that essence has no tag, no color, no shape, it is universal.
So yes, let’s all revisit or re question that: “you are a strong black woman you will be fine”. I am a human being as well as anyone else’s out there: no more no less. Emotions, feelings, pain, life events have no colors, they don’t discriminate. We have that in common, remember?
Crying (from time to time) is good for the soul: it can be comparable to negative energies leaving the body-mind-spirit. — Annick
So cry fellow, if you want to. Don’t hold in, let it all out. You will feel lighter after a nice crying session. And the day after, wake up, stand tall, look up and enjoy the new gift of life you’ve been granted.
Thank you for your precious time. Take good care of yourself. Remember this is your life: live it your way.
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