You And Only You

Summary

The article emphasizes personal responsibility in self-improvement and life changes.

Abstract

The text asserts that while external support and encouragement can be beneficial, the ultimate responsibility for personal growth and happiness lies with the individual. It highlights the importance of recognizing when change is necessary, making the decision to alter one's circumstances, and consistently applying knowledge to effect that change. The author, Nicole Barden, underscores that while others can offer support, the impetus for improvement must come from within.

Opinions

The author believes that personal change is contingent upon the individual's decision to change and their willingness to put in the necessary effort.
Supportive figures can offer encouragement and be present during setbacks but cannot act as a "savior."
One must reach a point of exhaustion with their own excuses or "bullshit" to initiate meaningful change.
The application of existing knowledge is crucial for personal development.
The author positions themselves as a supporter and fan of the reader's journey but reiterates that the reader is ultimately responsible for improving their own life.

Only you can control your life

I cannot be your savior. I cannot help you to be a happier person.

I can offer support and ideas. I will clap when you make progress. Be there when you backslide. I will root for you every step of the way.

However, It is you who has to decide to change. It is you that needs to put in the effort.

It is you that has to grow tired of your own bullshit. So tired that you realize you either change or accept the stink that surrounds you.

It is you that has to choose to apply the knowledge that you already know and do what needs to be done.

I will be your fan, but it is up to you and only you

To improve Your life.

— Nicole Barden 1/23/2021