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Summary

A dedicated surgeon reflects on the impact of his workaholic lifestyle after a car accident leaves him hospitalized and contemplating the importance of family and personal life over professional achievements.

Abstract

The narrative revolves around a surgeon who, after a life-altering car accident, realizes the sacrifices his family has made due to his demanding career. He recalls missing significant family events for work, causing strain in his marriage and personal relationships. Post-accident, he observes that life, including his professional role, continues without him, leading to a profound reassessment of his priorities. He acknowledges the emotional toll his absence has had on his wife and daughter, the changes in his family dynamics, and the transient nature of workplace relationships. The experience compels him to recognize the value of spending time with loved ones over the pursuit of career success.

Opinions

  • The surgeon believes his work is crucial, yet he acknowledges the resentment it causes within his family.
  • He realizes the importance of being present for family events and the emotional support his wife provides, despite his frequent absences.
  • The surgeon feels a sense of loss and irrelevance in his professional role after being replaced due to his absence.
  • He is appreciative of the few genuine connections, like the security man's gesture and his best friend's consistent communication.
  • The narrative suggests a critique of work-centric cultures that often lead to neglect of personal relationships and well-being.
  • The surgeon's perspective on life and work has shifted, now valuing personal relationships and health more than his career.

Would work go on without you?

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Red lights, *eyes shut*, Red lights, *eyes shut*,

BEEP!, truck, TRUCK!

This was how fast it was for the truck to crash into

my car, or maybe it wasn’t as fast, it’s just how I remember it.

“We need you in the hospital, Doc.”

Those were always the words. The same words that had me leaving my anniversary dinner halfway through to get to OR.

The same words that had me missing my littl Jannah’s recital. Same words had me absent at my best friend’s wedding, and the same words that had me away from home 3 days in a row.

I will lose my wife if I keep going this way, I knew this. I could feel the resentment and anger build up in her every time I mentioned work.

I don’t blame her; she’s been an amazing soul.

I will make it up to all my girls as soon as I get back from work, I just had to see one last patient and I’ll be home, this time I won’t leave so soon.

At least that was what I thought.

Once again I found myself in the ever familiar pale hospital walls, except this time I wasn’t walking in, looking like the smoking hot surgeon I was.

This time I was strapped on the wheel bed, rolled in by the paramedics, my colleagues rushing frantically around me.

Today I wasn’t here to save lives, I was the accident victim, my life needed saving.

“You are very lucky to be alive” I keep hearing from my guests, actually from wifey’s guests, no one would have come to visit me if I hadn’t married a woman like her.

She kept in touch, held the family strings together, while I was always “too busy” to reply a text.

It’s been 6 months since the accident happened, a lot has changed.

I now move around in a wheel chair, I visit a physiotherapist more times than I imagined I’d ever need to.

My colleagues……. Half of my colleagues texted once or twice, maybe thrice.

The other half visited while I was still in the hospital. The security man at the north gate where I always parked my car had sent me some herbs and verses for “quick healing” and to wade off the “spirits”, whatever that means.

I found out that my daughter’s favorite sport is no longer football, and her best friend was now a boy, not pleased.

I was told that my brother had gotten back with his ex-wife.

My best friend, the one whose wedding I “couldn’t” attend, calls me every weekend.

Two new general surgeons were employed a week after I had the accident, my Boss called me once after I got discharged.

I am no longer the head of general surgery, I’ve been successfully replaced.

Work has been going on fine, without me.

We all need to work, even on jobs we don’t really love. But is our work taking away time we should give to the people that are dear and important to us?

Work
Work Life Balance
Family
Profession
Medical
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