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ype="7">I deserve to put myself first.</p><h1 id="5b8e">3. It’s a marathon, not a race</h1><p id="9bc6">In the early days of reclaiming my voice, I had so many realizations of where I was being a doormat that it was tempting to try to correct it all overnight.</p><p id="c642">The reality is that these things take time. If someone has crossed one of your boundaries for months or years, <b>it won’t suddenly unravel overnight.</b></p><p id="757c">I like to think of these things as icebergs. You need to chip away at them until the problem one day just melts away. For example:</p><blockquote id="290b"><p>I used to have a really hard time with saying no to an invite. I didn’t want to disappoint the other person. In the beginning, every no I made felt MASSIVE. So I started with the smaller invites with acquaintances and worked my way up to bigger invites with close loved ones.</p></blockquote><blockquote id="9c27"><p>Nowadays, I generally have zero issue expressing that I’m going to pass on an invite.</p></blockquote><h1 id="930e">4. You don’t have to prove anything</h1><p id="ebcd">This is a hard habit to break. Justification.</p><p id="6a7b">I always felt like I had to prove why my boundary was important. I had to give a well-thought-out excuse to decline an invite. I had to provide my laundry list of reasons to get out of doing something I didn’t want to.</p><p id="2008" type="7">You are important. You matter. Your voice, preferences and desires deserve to be heard.</p><p id="bc34">You don’t need to prove your worthiness to anyone. It’s inherent in you.</p><p id="de83"><b>I know this is easier said than done.</b> I especially know it because I spent <i>decades </i>being a doormat who didn’t feel worthy. I tried to do everything perfectly for everyone else to try to prove I was good enough.</p><p id="4a59" type="7">You are enough.</p><h1 id="3213">5. Practice makes perfect</h1><p id="1bae">The internal work is the most important: <b>recognizing your worthiness and that you are enough.</b></p><p id="25cb">As you do this, it will become easier to express what’s important to you.</p><p id="f5d5">To make it practical though, here are my three steps for how to actually express your boundary:</p><p id="dfac"><b>1 Set the stage</b> — give the other person a heads up that you want to discuss what’s going on. It’s best to find the right time, place and mood for this.</p><blockquote id="2d95"><p>“Hey, I want to talk to you about something that happened earlier.”</p></blockquote><p id="9d80"><b>2 Meet halfway</b> —people tend to listen better when they feel they are heard. Before you jump into what’s important to you, lend some understanding to what’s happening for the other person.</p><blockquote id="ef14"><p>“I know you probably feel stressed and overwhelmed right now. I think that’s why you asked me to do ______.” OR “I think that’s why you said ________.”</p></blockquote><p id="bac6">3 <b>Your turn</b> — this is the part where you get to talk about what’s important to you. What was the boundary that was crossed? What do you want to happen differently next time?</p><blockquote id="714e"><p>“Next time, it’s really important to me that we take the time to talk about what needs to happen. It’s not fair for you to yell at me to get it d

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one.”</p></blockquote><h1 id="0524">Final Thoughts</h1><p id="e212">You will make the world a better place by expressing your boundaries.</p><p id="1fab"><b>Why?</b> Because by telling others what’s important to you, you step into your worthiness. You remember that <b>you matter</b> and <b>you are enough</b>.</p><p id="57ea">The more that everyone in the world believes that they are worthy, the better off we will be as a human race.</p><p id="3a3b">With love, Megan</p><p id="e3d0"><i>Are you a woman craving support from other women? I just launched a <b>Free Women’s Circle</b> every other Wednesday virtually on Zoom. Come join us:</i></p><div id="e2f0" class="link-block"> <a href="https://yourmoderncoach.com/circle"> <div> <div> <h2>Join our Free Women’s Circle — Megan Llorente | Your Modern Coach</h2> <div><h3>Feeling overwhelmed or discouraged? Come and share your challenges with other like-minded, down-to-earth and real…</h3></div> <div><p>yourmoderncoach.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*dtSVosZ0QS8fYlQU)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="4a3e"><i>Other stories of mine:</i></p><div id="60c3" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/damnit-i-am-too-sensitive-how-about-you-9d5e467edb2b"> <div> <div> <h2>Damnit, I AM Too Sensitive… How About You?</h2> <div><h3>Taking feedback is hard</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*JjUm7DG8PQKQHtUav4IDiQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="a7e7" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-speak-your-truth-like-a-badass-b-tch-8f46c20bf365"> <div> <div> <h2>How to Speak Your Truth Like a Badass B*tch</h2> <div><h3>It’s time to step into who you truly are</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*r91X3oVkh_5iUjg2bk_I2g.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="149d"><i>Support my writing journey:</i></p><div id="687b" class="link-block"> <a href="https://meganllorente.medium.com/membership"> <div> <div> <h2>Join Medium with my referral link — Megan Llorente</h2> <div><h3>As a Medium member, a portion of your membership fee goes to writers you read, and you get full access to every story…</h3></div> <div><p>meganllorente.medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*IdVMABliAmOKQ4YR)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

World’s First Pregnant Mummy Discovery ‘Shocked’ Scientists

2,000-year-old pregnant Egyptian mummy discovered in Poland.

Source:baguiocityguide.com

Every Egyptian mummy hides several secrets which will remain unsaid, untapped. Covered in bandages, these Egyptian mummies remain mysteries until discovered — and some are more mysterious than the others.

One such mystery is of a mummy held at the National Museum of Warsaw who was found to be 6.5 to 7.5 months pregnant. Let’s dig into the details of the case:

An overwhelming discovery of a pregnant mummy

Source:theguardian.com

An archaeologist of the Warsaw Mummy project found the discovery to be an absolute gold mine. As Dr. Wojciech Ejsmond stated,

It’s like finding a treasure trove while you are picking up mushrooms in a forest.

The entire team was taken aback by the discovery, as the initial research was to find the diseases or causes of deaths of the Egyptian mummies.

Marzena Ożarek-Szilke, another archeologist, commented how they were just wrapping up the research. It was at the last minute when they discovered such peculiarity about the mummy in question. Marzena Ożarek-Szilke said,

We had the last look at the images and noticed a familiar image for parents of three children . . . A tiny foot.

Brimming with insane interest, the team dug into further investigation, finding that the tiny foot belonged to a small fetus.

Before this, archaeologists had never found a pregnant “mummy” — though there have been instances when the burial of pregnant women was found across ancient Egypt.

Details about the pregnant mummy

Source:sciencealert.com |A scan of the pregnant mummy

Archaeologists discovered that the pregnant woman was mummified around the first century B.C. Wrapped in plain-weave fabrics, linen and buried with amulets, the mummified woman reflected that she belonged from a high-status Egyptian family,

Upon getting the 3D scan of the body, the researchers found that the woman had long and curly hair.

Interestingly, the mummy under investigation was initially thought to be of a male priest as the engraving on the coffin reflected it. But it turns out she was a woman who died somewhere aged between 20 and 30 years.

How did she land up in a male priest's coffin?

Source: von.gov.ng | Archeologists peering at the female pregnant mummy.

The question in concern was how did pregnant mummy rest in the coffin engraved with hieroglyphs translated for an Egyptian priest named Hor-Djehuty?

What’s more concerning was the findings of a 1990s radiological examination which previously suggested that the mummy was a man.

The presence of a pregnant mummy inside an Egyptian priest’s coffin suggests a complex history of coffins. In ancient times not only were they reused but also robbed and stolen.

Sadly, such practice was not long carried out — it was a matter of the 18th and 19th centuries. Antiquity dealers used to rob the tombs to collect precious items and replace the bodies.

The mummy of a pregnant woman was a victim of such grave theft. The archeologists proved it by highlighting the damages around the mummy’s neck, which she had incurred when the robber tried to steal her amulets.

Sadly, about 10% of the mummies are found in a “wrong” coffin due to grave robbers’ mischief — an act that distorts historical preservations.

Another puzzling mystery about the child

Source: scmp.com | An x-ray scan of the pregnant mummy.

Upon cracking the mystery of a pregnant mummy, the archeologist uncovered another puzzle — the scans of her body revealed only four mummified organs.

According to the conventional embalming practices, the mummy was embalmed where her lungs, liver, stomach, heart, and intestines were embalmed before getting placed in the abdominal cavity.

The question or better say a ‘puzzle’ manifested when researchers probed that why the ancient embalmers left mummy’s fetus untouched.

Hypothesizing different possibilities of embalmers not removing the fetus, the researchers at the Warsaw Mummy Project reached a conclusion: Ancient Egyptians considered a baby an integral body part of the mother, so it got considered as one unit.

Other researchers settled on several possibilities and stated:

We don’t know why it was left there. Maybe there was a religious reason. Maybe they thought the unborn child didn’t have a soul or that it would be safer in the next world. Or maybe it was because it was very difficult to remove a child at that stage from the womb without causing serious damage.

According to Egyptian traditions naming a child was a vital part of individuality — it was an essential factor of being human. A baby, until not named, didn’t use to get considered something apart from its mother.

What next?

The Warsaw Mummy Project had continued its research, diving into what the pregnant mummy could further reveal about Ancient Egypt’s society — especially prenatal care.

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References:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-9525047/Worlds-PREGNANT-ancient-Egyptian-mummy-discovered.html

https://www.thesun.co.uk/tech/14799118/world-first-pregnant-ancient-egyptian-mummy/

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