Working Through Pain and Suffering
The Archangels Offer Love and Guidance
We all experience pain and hardship in many ways, some worse than others. I have had a tendency in the past to push through the pain and bury it, because I didn’t want to feel that way, and I had other things to do! Nobody wants to feel bad! What I’ve learned is that you cannot truly get past the pain and suffering without allowing yourself to feel it. This, obviously, is not pleasant. It is, however, necessary. I asked the Archangels about the best way to process these kinds of feelings, and their answer is below.
Question: Is there a way to process painful memories faster or more effectively?
Answer:
This is such a difficult question to answer, because everyone handles tragedy, hardships, and healing in their own way. It is so difficult to suffer or watch others suffer, for you and for us, as the Angels are all devoted to helping mankind. For us, it is easier, because in most cases, the soul planned the hardships so they could learn and grow, and we are privy to the entire plan, whereas you are not.
Also, because we and souls possess universal knowledge, we can see the universal plan that is furthered and understand how everything eventually serves your best interests. Humans, for the most part, do not have this knowledge or understanding to ease their suffering, which makes it far more difficult to overcome.
What we wish to impart, as difficult as it is, is that you must process pain and suffering, meaning you must allow yourself to feel these things and find a way to release them. We wish we could say there is a shortcut, an easier way to get through the suffering, but it must run its course, so the lessons are learned, and you will never have to reexperience or learn them again. As long as you do not hurt yourself or others, there is no right or wrong way to do this.
We can offer some suggestions and hopefully, comfort. First, healing is prolonged if someone buries their feelings and refuses to deal with them, and many people do this, understandably. No one wants to dwell on emotional pain, but it is necessary to allow yourself to feel it before you can work to release it.
Our channel has learned this. It is her nature to be positive, so she tended to push aside many feelings and didn’t spend time with them, didn’t allow herself to feel them. When a person does this, it may seem to be a good coping mechanism, and it may be necessary in order to bear the weight of suffering for a time. However, until you allow yourself to feel the emotions attached to whatever hardships you have experienced, you are not likely to heal. Memories or actions will continue to be triggered, many times unexpectedly, and the pain and suffering is refreshed each time this happens.
Many spiritual people think that emotions like anger, jealousy, hopelessness, etc. should be avoided, but that is not true when dealing with personal healing, especially due to violence and deceit. It is not only alright to feel these emotions, it is essential to the healing process. Until you feel and acknowledge them, you will not be able to truly release them, even if you want to overcome them.
Many people strive to find forgiveness for their persecutors. We say to you, if someone treats you badly, physically or emotionally, you have every right to be angry, hurt, outraged, or anything else you might feel. It is perfectly justifiable to place blame where it belongs. Rather than pushing these feelings away, try to embrace them as much as possible for as long as you can. You are entitled to these feelings. If it becomes too overwhelming, set them aside temporarily until you are ready to face them again. You are not on any time table. Take as much time as you need.
Give yourself permission to feel what you feel. Praise yourself for facing your pain, as we praise you. It takes courage and strength to do this. After you allow yourself to do this, if possible, start looking for lessons learned or that are in progress. You never have to be grateful to or for the source of your pain or the pain itself. You do not ever have to be glad that you experienced hardship and suffering. Even if you never know the reason behind what happened to you or figure out the lessons you learned, you can choose to release the pain and begin to heal.
Doing this does not excuse whoever or whatever caused your pain. It is a declaration that you experienced it, survived it, you are stronger because of it, and you are not defeated. You did not deserve to suffer, and you are not being punished. Focus on celebrating yourself and loving yourself. It’s not about forgiving whoever is responsible for your suffering.
Forgiveness may never come during this lifetime, and we tell you that is alright. This should not be your priority. Your focus should be on you. It is about accepting yourself with love and without judgment. You don’t ever have to forgive if you find it is impossible to do so, but for your sake, you can and should choose to release the agony it caused and move forward.
It is not easy, but it is necessary. Don’t focus on releasing the emotions, but rather on replacing them with emotions that make you feel better. You can do this. Know that you deserve happiness and love, and give yourself permission to replace dark with light.
You do not have to do this alone. You can ask for help from others and from us, in any form that helps. Know that you will not always be filled with pain. Feel it, then make a conscious choice to release and replace it, and eventually, it will ease. You are not likely to ever be the same person you were before going through hardship, and that is good. It means you have grown, and you are better than you were before.
Final Thoughts
I always thought we were expected to forgive everyone and everything at some point. “Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us” really stuck with me and made me strive to find forgiveness, and there were times I really struggled with this. However, I’ve never been the victim of violence or physical abuse. Mental and emotional abuse, yes, but not physical. If I had a hard time forgiving mental and emotional abuse, I can only imagine how hard it would be to forgive physical abuse or an act of violence.
I was very glad to hear that we aren’t always expected to do that, because that kind of seems impossible when the abuse was intentional and targeted. I should have known God and the Angels would understand us if we can’t do that. They love us unconditionally, and they understand and accept us as we are.
These days I struggle more with someone hurting those I love more than those who try to hurt me. I’m still working on that, as I am very protective of the people I love. Like everyone, I guess I’m a work in progress. I think that’s what we have to remind ourselves of as we struggle with pain and suffering. We’re not going to get fixed overnight, and it’s not ever pleasant to feel angry, sad, or whatever else results from hardship. It can be overwhelming!
Whenever I’m dealing with something like that, the Angels remind me to be kind to myself and to be patient with myself. They tell me to take as much time as I need to deal with things. Some things can’t be rushed, unfortunately. Instead of focusing on how much time it takes to get through something, maybe we should forget about the time and focus on persistence and perseverance, taking breaks when we need to, then getting back to feeling better as best we can.
The Angels tell me many of us, myself included, are being bombarded with memories of things that happened to us a long time ago that we thought we’d already dealt with and put behind us. It’s because of the ascension of Earth and the collective consciousness that this is happening. Instead of thinking of this as dredging up the past or wanting to leave the past in the past, we should look at these memories as an opportunity to heal. We need to get rid of our baggage.
Ask yourself why you’re thinking of something or someone that happened years ago that you haven’t thought about in a long time. Consider whether or not you healed from it or if you buried those feelings and pushed past them. I’ve had to allow myself to go back, embrace the pain, anger, etc., justify those feelings, and finally, release them.
In many ways, I think it’s easier to do that later than at the time when you experienced the hardship, because the emotions are not so front and center in your consciousness. It’s not pleasant, but it is healing. Sometimes I have to reconsider and choose to forgive my own actions and reactions, also. We’re only human! I think the Angels understand us better than we do. We tend to be our own worst critics.
In any case, if you find yourself revisiting hard times, it’s okay and necessary even. Allow yourself to review and feel those times and the emotions that came with them. Your feelings are justified. Forgive if you can, but if you can’t forgive someone, we now know that’s okay. Forgiveness will come eventually, even if we have to wait until we cross back over and our universal knowledge is restored. All we can do is the best we can manage, and we need to be okay with that. Then, we can focus on healing, replacing dark emotions with light, and moving forward. And don’t forget to celebrate yourself and your strength and courage!
Blessings of peace to all of you!
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