Women Who Do Not Need A Man Become A “LEFTOVER” Woman
The things the Anti-feminist say when You’re a Badass.
Women in this modern world are doing their damn thing. As an empowered proud woman, I am here for it. Watching the many facets where women are able to conquer and run their own lives is a bliss. Women were not pacing the floors under submission waiting for a man to approve their wants, needs, and opinions. Women are eloquently raising the bar by daily demanding respect in the workplace, freedom of expression with their sexuality and so much more.
“Simply put, feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation and oppression.” -Bell Hooks
Centuries ago, women were not as liberated as women are today but that is because men dominated everything. Women couldn’t vote until the 1920s when the 19th Amendment gave women the rights to vote. Thanks to fierce women such as Susan B. Anthony, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Ida B. Wells and other brave women who were a part of movements to rule out the harsh treatments towards women. Surely in those times, women missed out on education, voting, having a voice about their dreams and aspirations, the bills and anything else concerning the household because nine times out of ten the men were the bread winners and created all the rules.
Overall, women were more dependent than they were independent centuries before now. Certainly, I am sure so many of those women wished they had the freedoms we as women have today. They crossed all of those needed bridges and now we are here today. In the words of Bell Hooks, “Simply put, feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation and oppression.” Her words as many other feminists that I highly respect words always resonate with me because though we have come such a long way as women, we still have so far to land.
Recently when I was on YouTube, I came across the video below that was made four months ago titled, ‘I don’t need a man’ “This is How Independent Women Become Leftover Women”. In the video the guy is belligerently putting down strong women. He states:
· Women who don’t need a man are delusional.
· Women who don’t need a man will become leftover women.
· Only simps are going to deal with the strong independent women.
The feminist within me laughed at his grandiose delusions. But I also noticed that he was mocking someone. I found the original video titled, “How to Be an Independent Woman (You Don’t Need A Man to Be Happy!)”.
After listening to Shelly Mazur video below there is nowhere where she bashes men. If anything, she is encouraging and uplifting women to not depend on men for happiness or materialistic items but rather depend on themselves that way you are not waiting around. Being a strong woman who embodies other strong women, currently single at this moment in life, and constantly deal with the pop question, “why are you single?” quite often, I thought she made some honest points that women need to live by.
In the video YouTuber Shelly Mazur gave four reasons why we do not need men to be happy and basically having a man should be our desire and not trying to fulfill needs. The four points were:
· Make your own money
· Have your own friends
· Have your own life
· Love yourself
These are some great points and usually similar factors I outline when speaking to women from all walks of life. Once again centuries ago women use to have to depend on men for money to get whatever they wanted or needed but we are no longer restricted to that existence which leads a more fulfilling life on our own terms. Also, they were so submissive that they had no choice but to let their husband know about everything they purchase. I’m so ecstatic that women are in a time where they are holding their own weight and going to buy homes, cars, paying for lavish trips, treating themselves in the smallest and greatest ways without having to answer to her partner or anyone else for that matter.
Furthermore, having your own set of friends is vital and prodictive to your relationship. Oftentimes a woman who depend on her man’s friends she’s in for a disaster. Taking my aunt for instance, she use to always go through her husband for validation in every area of her life including friends. When they divorced three years ago those friends divorced her too. This illustration ties into the importance of having your own life. Having your own life while a life with your partner will provide the balance you need. Lastly, love who you are because you bring out your best attributes through self-love. Loving your man first and yourself last will leave you on empty. Also, you are depending on you and only you to fill any voids that may be missing. It may sound cliché but self-love is the best love.
My final question and observation would is, how does a strong independent woman equal a leftover woman? There is no such thing as a leftover woman. If there were then we would defintely have left over men, correct? So many men have become frustrated with the lack of control they no longer possess over women therefore, they result to hissy fits by name calling and emotional abuse. As women we are first human and we have the right to live our lives unapologetically and according to what brings us peace and happiness. Let’s cancel those terms that are usually reserved for women and women only. The manipulation sold to us that we are useless if we are not taken or married by a certain time is one of the biggest frauds ever sold to women.
