selfHelp yourself grow/Self/Money.
Women & Money: The Harsh Reality Of The Gender Pay Gap
I. Motherhood: Women tend to get cheap degrees and jobs.
Motherhood.
My former company owner and boss didn’t talk to me for a week because I called in sick on Monday to stay home with my school-age ill child. Please don’t blame her because Monday was her money-making day, and all my scheduled appointment was canceled, and no money for me. Sad!
Money doesn’t make people happy, but lack of it will surely make some people depressed.
Women & Money
I know a few women who make more money; however, their men colleagues earn more. Once, a hiring executive said 99% of his women candidates always played lowball even after he suggested what the company could afford. Yet, in his experience, these women were more experienced and qualified than male candidates. "It's embarrassing; they are fearful of money," he said.
Nature or Nurture
Is it true many women fear money and are embarrassed to ask for or enjoy it? Are women brainwashed to fear money? Join the conversation below.
Three harsh truths of the gender pay gap:
I. Motherhood: Before smartphones, many women got cheap degrees and jobs.
II. Sexism and a few mentors: Women dislike themselves.
III. Others easily manipulate your time, energy, and money.
I. Motherhood: Many women got cheap degrees and jobs before smartphones.
I'm a woman who likes to discuss women's issues and ways to decrease these problems. In addition, whenever young women ask for suggestions, I always explain the bitter truth about life, not my feelings or how I want others to act.
I did social work, came back, and made less money. My friend went on to get her Ph.D. in social work. Now she makes less than people with MSW and works in a non-profit without an assistant. My other friend did finance and tripled our income, working fewer days on New York's famous street.
Why a cheap degree and an easy job? My personal experience is above.
Before Zoom, mothers preferred to work in places with more freedom and less responsibility because of their children, but unfortunately, this meant less money. Do the math.
Employers, including women, don't like mothers with young children.
For example,
Once, in our morning case conference, my former boss threw a fit when her assistant announced her second pregnancy within two years. She looked shocked and uttered, "Wow." Her face turned red, and she packed her folders and departed the room. You are right: she was a woman with a business to run and expected a profit.
Are you still reading? Bravo.
Social work degree only pays well if you are Suze Orman. Yes, Suze is an investment expert and continues to use social work skills in her money business. Therefore, she is an outlier.
Why are women continuing to get Ph.D. in the areas with less money and work?
I do not know.
I know that mothering, social work and teaching rarely move the needle if you're a single parent with young children. So why are these essential jobs not paying well? Most people don't value these professions and choose not to invest in them or buy top dollars adverts to promote them.
Yes, money is not everything, and the lack of it can make some people angry, resentful, and bitter.
Tips
A woman can choose what she wants: more, less money, or more freedom.
Do what works for you. All women cannot be in one profession, but we can be satisfied with what we do and stop comparing apples and oranges.
Capitalism means you get what you generate in immediate cash, rarely in human investment.
II. Sexism and a few mentors: Women do not like themselves
Women tend to dislike one another, especially the ones with deep pockets. We shared all our emotional troubles and rarely shared financial know-how. If there’s an outlier in the group, others tag her as a money monger.
Also, a typical woman rarely has mentors, heirs, or juniors. Think about that for a second and get yours today.
Men love women in the bedroom and as a baby machine. However, hate them in a profession that makes decent money ( money is power), and too often, men help and prefer to work with each other.
For example,
Many men didn't like President Obama's color or Mr. Trump's meanness, but they voted for their manhood. On the other hand, many women didn't like Secretary Hilary Clinton's womanhood and voted against her. These women tell us, "I don't see gender or color."
Do they see freedom or learn about Afghan women?
Listen.
Many women can make things difficult for one another. Do you know any man who married his best friend's former girlfriend or wife? I know a few women who dated their best friend's boyfriend; one married her best friend's husband. After a few decades, one of these women relocated to the US and needed a place to stay; I turned her down without thinking twice. You be the judge.
What has this got to do with making less money? Toxic friends and nasty divorces can destroy our careers and finances.
The hard truth.
Many women dislike themselves, and it affects how we recommend one another for high-paying jobs. So pay attention and start enjoying yourself and other women.
Remember, we can run the world better if we can run ourselves.
The question is, what can we do?
Tips.
Let's recommend one another to where the money is. No one is perfect, and some women can learn on the job.
Put your money where your mouth is, like yourself. Focus on how to solve women's problems and less on men's privileges.
Men I know do not talk about women because they are too busy talking about themselves and promoting each other. Many only care if you have something to offer them in cash or kind.
Let's talk about money as we talk about sex, cutthroat handbags, hair, men, and children.
Or we stop complaining about others’ drama.
III. Others easily manipulate our time, energy, and money.
Understand this.
Is it nature or nurture? Many women didn’t learn to negotiate with their parents, siblings, and friends. In short, many women lack negotiation skills but are experts in likability skills. But we can learn.
Too often, many women spend their money, time, and energy on every Harry and Helen. Even though Mary makes more, she indirectly makes less with what she has for herself.
Let's take a second to reflect on our womanhood.
A typical woman is emotionally involved more in others than themselves or their investments. Some women are more ready to invest in their boyfriends, sons, brothers, fathers, uncles, and male colleagues than themselves or other women.
Yes, women can be easily manipulated by their men, best friends, and religious leaders. Why? Some women were not taught critical thinking skills, and some chose not to learn from the consistent pattern of toxic behavior of others or theirs.
We can learn negotiation skills as we learn professional skills.
My political analyst friend, Starr, told me her mother's best advice was to study men and pick a few things to make her life simple and fun. I took that advice too.
Once I took my teen son to the store to buy a winter jacket. We walked to the store. He stood still and stared at the young men's department. Then walked straight to the jacket section and returned with a simple black and well-made jacket in a few minutes. "What? Are you done?"
"Yes," he answered and walked to the checkout counter. He didn't waste his time and money buying many jackets he will never wear!
Right there. We can blame nature or nurture!
Second, I hired him when he was thirteen to work for me. He charged me ten times the amount his business-savvy sister, with more experience, charged for the same work.
I was upset and asked him to explain how he came up with the fee. He smirked and explained, "Mrs. E, I treated you as a client, not my mom. I googled the fair price and tripled it because I knew you'd bargain." He was only 13, looked in the eyes, and called me Mrs. E.
There you are, women! Self-reflection works better than talking points.
Last, anyone can be easily manipulated, but more women are. For example, women tend to fall into mega-church leaders and social media manipulation. They waste their time, energy, and money to buy fake Jesus gospels or read stupid essays written by men about women's issues.
You are right, from men's point of view.
Tips.
Learn a few things from men and use them if it works for you to live a healthy life.
Many of us can increase our earnings and investments if we change our relationship with money, improve our thinking skills, and question our selective moral superiority.
Help yourself grow. Thank you for being here.