Woman Rips Into “Trans Child” in Restroom Who’s neither Trans nor Child

This story should be Onion satire, but the mindless hostility trans kids face is real and getting worse

I’m really disappointed with how [the casino] handled this, because even though I ended up not being a trans child, she did think I was one, and she attacked me for it. — Creatingjayrose on TikTok

“I’d like to pee in private! With my women!” shouts a woman at a person she followed into a restroom at the Rampart Casino in Summerlin, Nevada. The person she’s harassing through a closed stall door is a cisgender, adult woman who says she stopped at Rampart because of severe cramps that started while she was out on a drive with her boyfriend.

As she rushed in to find a restroom, the woman spotted her and “stalked” her, later admitting she believed she was following a trans person.

Why? I don’t know.

Creatingjayrose was dressed casually. Nothing about her look shouts trans or queer. She’s a young, pretty woman with carefully styled eyebrows and short-cropped hair. I’d guess her age somewhere north of twenty and south of thirty, and she presents as unremarkable for her generation.

Nevertheless, she got badly harassed through that closed stall door while relieving herself. When she left the stall to wash her hands, the woman confronted her. Aggressively.

But wait, that’s not the worst of it. Keep reading for the truly shocking bit.

Sometimes it takes a picture to drive a point home. Watch this to understand the fear many trans kids and their families live with.

Creatingjayrose recorded the interaction, which you can watch in the video above. There isn’t much to see, but there’s lots to hear, and it’s very ugly.

(Update: The video disappeared from TikTok at about the same time I published this story. You can read this article for close to a full transcript, or watch Creatingjayrose’s updates videos at the links in the header photo.)

I gasped as I watched for the first time, even though I didn’t “get it” right away. What I comprehended at first was bad enough. An angry woman confronts another woman in a public restroom, badgering and threatening her over her perceived gender presentation.

That’s not shocking. It’s sadly ordinary.

Stories about cisgender women being harassed because they “look trans” have become increasingly common since Aimee Toms was aggressively confronted in a Walmart restroom in 2016.

Cisgender women who don’t look “feminine enough” now make headlines fairly regularly when some transphobic bully “clocks” them wrong.

Stories about trans people harassed or beaten for using a public restroom are more common, even though according to Vox, “Multiple investigations have found states and schools that have had legal protections for trans people for years have never linked an instance of sexual assault or harassment in a bathroom to trans-friendly policies.”

In simpler terms: The people in actual danger in public restrooms are trans people, not cisgender women.

Ready for that worst part? Here we go!

When Creatingjayrose finally exits the stall after bracing herself for confrontation, the woman shouts in apparent triumph,

“It’s a child! It’s a boy!”

Then she follows Creatingjayrose to a sink, hectoring her and demanding she reveal her gender identity as she washes her hands.

Creatingjayrose, who later explained that she was very fearful, would not cooperate with the self-appointed gender cop’s interrogation: “I don’t think that’s any of your business,” she says.

“Oh it’s not? So you’re in the ladies’ room where I think I need to identify you.”

Creatingjayrose refused several more demands for personal information, rushing through her hygiene and out to where her boyfriend was waiting, asking him to call security.

So here’s the truly shocking part:

Throughout the interaction, Creatingjayrose spoke in her ordinary woman’s voice … so high-pitched that if she actually had been the boy her bully insisted she was, she could not have been older than 11 or 12.

Clearly pre-pubescent. Clearly a small child.

Her bully grew more hostile and physically aggressive despite thinking she was dealing with a little kid. My parenting hackles rise just thinking about it. How dare anyone treat a child that way! What is wrong with people?

Casino management response highlights a callous disregard for the safety of trans people.

Maybe the worst part of this story is that casino management shrugged the incident off, saying they would not bar the bullying woman from their premises for attacking a person she believed was a child.

Later, Michelle Bacigalupi, vice president and general manager for Rampart Casino, told LGBTQ Nation, “Rampart Casino does not condone this behavior and this situation is not being taken lightly. We are working with local law enforcement and the incident is being actively investigated.”

Creatingjayrose says Bacigalupi is lying.

She says Rampart management dismissed her concerns and refused to bar the bully from the casino. She says they told her they considered the incident to be just a small personal disagreement. They told her they would take no further action unless she got the police involved on her own initiative. She says they told her that if she called the cops, they might or might not escalate things.

I say “highlights” because Rampart management’s calloused reaction is very common, as real trans kids all over the U.S. testify to every day. Want a license to bully without consequence? Go after a trans child. Watch fellow adults cheer you on, make excuses, or sneer at the child in question.

As if Western Civilization might fall if a tiny minority of gender-variant people, children included, are left to pee in peace.

I’m almost upset with myself for writing this column. Can I tell you why?

I have dozens of stories to write about actual transgender children facing far worse bullying. I’d rather tell THEIR stories, as much as I respect and appreciate Creatingjayrose for speaking out.

I DO tell their stories, pretty often. But pretty often, people just shrug, like it’s not important if doesn’t touch them personally.

Here, read about Ash. Read about Tracey. Read about Kody. I spoke to each of them and some of their parents for hours. I wrote about bullying and abuse that makes the restroom harassment in this story look like child’s play.

Kody, for example, is a trans child living with his mom in a homeless shelter because adults treated him with bullying contempt on a sustained and escalating basis … for years.

Kody’s mom packed as many of their belongings as she could fit into her car. Then she spent her last dime to get her kid away from the bullies. Now she and her son are homeless.

According to LGBTQ youth-advocay organization GLSEN, growing hostility toward transgender children shows up in their latest National LGBTQ School Climate Survey. Rates of bullying and violence against LGBTQ students surged last school year, accelerating a trend that began in 2016. For the first time in decades, rates of teachers and other adult staff directing anti-LGBTQ slurs at students rose, and very significantly.

Staff at agencies that support LGBTQ youth have told the Los Angeles Blade that their crisis hotlines are swamped and their resources increasingly strained as they struggle to meet surging demand.

Yesterday, one agency had to add telephone-line capacity because their systems were dropping calls from suicidal queer youth reaching out from conservative states where anti-LGBTQ political messaging is creating even more fear, hostility and bullying.

What is wrong with people?

Trans people exist. They always have. They’re a very small minority of human beings who, anthropologists and sociologists tell us, exist across cultures and as far back into human existence as we can peer.

Trans people are not dangerous. Rates of violence committed by trans people are so low they literally cannot be measured.

Nevertheless, trans people experience violence, hostility, and bullying in staggering numbers, at high rates that are very easy to measure.

When a young woman like Creatingjayrose fears for her personal safety because somebody wrongly identifies her as trans, maybe you can start to see how out of control things really are. When she records the entire interaction and still can’t get justice, the out-of-control nature of the problem crystalizes.

What’s happening to us as a nation and society?When bullying children is acceptable, when rates of such bullying rise dramatically, something is very wrong indeed.

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