Spark of passion
Our Sex Life Was Ignited by Their Failed Relationship
It made me appreciate us more.
Before anyone judges me based on the title of this story, I want to clarify that I never intend to compare my relationship to another or wish anyone harm or negativity. That’s not my style, as it’s not what I’m trying to express.
All couples go through their own issues, some more than others; it’s a part of life. However, the contrast between the unhappy dynamics of others and the positive aspects of our partnership created a sense of contentment within us.
When I heard about the problems this couple was going through, I did everything to make them both feel better — I listened, offered empathy, provided support, encouraged self-help, stayed in touch, and also respected their space. I even suggested they seek professional support, like therapy.
I was in disbelief.
I talked about it with my partner, informing him about what’s been going on since he knows the couple.
I asked him why these things happen, as if he knows the answers to everything or knows how to unlock the reasons behind why people do what they do, including ourselves, because we’re not perfect either.
During that moment of discussion, as we realized that someone’s deep, dark secret had come to light, we both felt a sense of gratitude and relief in our own relationship.
Hearing the disbelief of a shattered relationship that was once a great love evoked strong emotions such as empathy, concern, and a desire to help.
But this had nothing to do with the other couple. Instead, these intensified emotional responses led to an increase in arousal while counting our blessings. I wanted him badly, and he wanted me.
We create moments of spark in our relationship by maintaining open communication with each other, including our fantasies and desires.
There’s nothing wrong with that.
This openness is how we spice things up from time to time. We tell each other what we want more of on a sexual level and don’t judge each other for it.
Hearing things like ‘let’s try this one day’ or ‘let’s try this tonight’ always leads to a more fulfilling and intimate sexual relationship within our own partnership.
As first-time parents to a sixteen-month-old and having days where he’s exhausted from work and I’m touched out by the hectic day, it’s important for us to find ways to keep our sex life alive.
Even if that’s looking into each others eyes saying, ‘thank God that’s not us babe, come here’.
Ultimately, we feel like the luckiest people alive in that moment of connection.
