With Whom Can You Count On When Loneliness Come?
That friend that never gonna put you down .
It’s a public holiday today. I am at home during the whole weekend. Everyone is posting pictures of their adventures and hangouts over the past days. Sunny bright weather makes it all better.
I am at home. No money. No friends. Do I really have a single friend?
I was told that I am too closed. I should open myself. I heard it most of my life.
I finally did it. I asked for help and let my problems and fears find their way out of my mouth.
Everyone is gone!
Nowadays we have acquaintances. We click people’s posts and call ourselves friends. Eventually, we will meet and talk, laugh and think : this is a good friend.
What makes a good friend?
- Someone you can share your passions and opinions.
- Someone you trust to tell your crushes, to talk and have fun.
- Someone who cares about you, who knows you so well that you are not afraid to tell your worries and fears even when you are afraid to tell your parents or partner.
- Someone who is on your side, no matter what happens or how you feel and behave.
- Someone who is available for you 24/7
A good friendship is a lifetime relationship. It never gets old. Today is so unique and precious to have such a relationship.
We all look for it! Some times we mislead it by love. Love also implies being a friend.
When I feel lonely, I feel unloved. Have no friends around means that I am not special.
It doesn’t happen all the time. The loneliness comes when I am safe and free to let myself exposed.
If you want to be yourself, you need to face loneliness.
No one feels lonely when we fit in a group of mutual interest. I am popular in my social life as I am showing part of myself who is of the interest of the social group.
Only part of myself is exposed.
The social and private life as it is known. The popular entertainment person who is depressed on its own privacy.
Why is it such a shock to the public? It is impossible to be a character full-time!
Myself for example: efficient focused worker at the company; passionate nature explorer, kind to others, lazy and sad at home.
When my boss needs someone to do the hard job with no complaints, I am reminded. When friends need a companion to explore mountains and sea and also be the driver, nurse and face whatever challenges come, I am recalled. When someone needs to vent, to be pampered or just need someone to ask: ”Hey, how are you?”, I am thought.
When everything is fine, you don’t need that old friend. Specially when that friend showed that he is in trouble or in need of attention. You don’t need someone to disturb the fun and joy of your environment.
I don’t blame. I did that too. I am a human being.
I am trying to be a friend with myself. It is all I can do right now. I know that it is the most valuable friendship I ever have. You want to know why? Because no one has the best interest in me besides myself!
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” — Walter Winchell
It’s a long weekend holiday. I am at home. Alone. No money. No messages popping up on my phone. No Tv. No computer. No Netflix.
I am active in different social groups. I have family living close. If you see my SM profile, you might envy my lifestyle. I have hundreds of ”friends ” on SM.
The loneliness come and go. I sleep to hide from it. I go out for a walk when it’s not strong or when I want to fight it. I write when I need to talk. I read when I need to listen. I eat to distract it.
Soon the holiday is over. Back to the routine: work, sports, healthy meals, supporting comments on SM to friends, journal. The busiest the day, the better. Less time to think and look at myself. When my real self emerges, I am also too tired and fall asleep quickly.
“If you are alone, you belong entirely to yourself. If you are accompanied by even one companion, you belong only half to yourself or even less in proportion to the thoughtlessness of his conduct, and if you have more than one companion, you will fall more deeply into the same plight.” — Leonardo da Vinci
How many people out there are living like me? I know that I am not the only one.