Will Smith’s Slap Isn’t a Stand-Alone Incident
The widening gap between humans will collapse our civilization unless we do this
About 70% of the headlines I read online are despair porn.
We’re too late, hell is upon us, and the meteorites are coming. We’re screwed.
It’s also a war on the ground. People are blaming, scapegoating or public shaming when they’re not busy cancelling. The new trend is a collective outrage against the newly presented enemy. And everybody else that isn’t joining the hate fest.
It’s utterly disgusting since it’s so 1984 and Lord of the Rings together. A thick grey mist obscures the view of middle-earth while our magicians in power have cast us in a never-ending war with each other.
Blaming others for our own lack of fulfilment is avoiding taking responsibility for our actions.
I do this too.
Why do we see everything as a war against something else? How childish. Wars create more problems, not solutions. And now we have a real war.
The mechanisms that set us up against each other eventually will cause real wars or simply violence between civilians. I mean, not only on a screen.
The smack Will Smith Gave during the Oscars fits perfectly in this line. The decline of good faith communication, plain good old respect, and the increase of the war narrative on all levels of society inevitably lead to more visible violence on the ground.
We’ve come to a point of the normalization of violence in politics and public life. Sadly, these are big red flags of our civilization collapsing.
Still, It’s not too late to oppose the mass exodus of values and good faith
Here’s what to do, and how you can help.
The war against… (fill in the blank)
Stop believing we need a war to solve things. We need to battle something to move forward.
It self-destructs.
A war against climate change is the latest frenzy. Doesn’t help either. Probably it sells clicks since it tabs into emotional anxiety. Media and news have turned into first-grade teachers telling 12-year-old kids, us, how to live. And if we don’t, there’s doom.
A healthy functioning brain will make sense of its own, and give meaning, in the context of knowledge, experience, fact-finding, intelligence, and intuition.
This very crucial ability gets undermined through imposing fear, bullying or intimidation. People give up their critical thinking when they’re continuously slammed in the face with fear headlines and images. They’ll eventually give up, and buy into the story, the meaning, the presented worldview.
Don’t fall for any narrative that feels off. Leave the war narrative altogether, be the wise one.
Start using different words
Since the cartels of powers kind of got us in this mess, the first step to take is to dismantle this constant narrative warfare by using a set of new paradigm words. By doing this you opt out of the paradigm completely. It will feel like exiting a war.
The good news is that you can apply this in your daily life. Here are some examples
We need to battle- Let’s open to understand and learn It’s too late — It’s the beginning Target- Wish Cooperation-Family Colleague-Brother or Sister To increase- To Grow Profit- Gift
Use new paradigm words when you speak to your friends, boss, spouse or online. At first, they will look weary and will misunderstand. This is because you disrupt their worldview. Their new normal.
Do it long enough and you’re actually envisioning and already co-creating a better future without fear.
And you feel much better, positive and pro everything, instead of against.
We need more hugs and cuddles
Three hugs a day keep the doctor away. And public aggression too.
When we hug or cuddle, dopamine and other party stuff are made in our brains. Neurotransmitters make us feel positive, and creative, and see beauty all around us.
Our nervous systems need physical touch to fully relax. To belong, to be rooted in a deep trust that we can fix what was broken. In this expansion state, everything is possible.
In a place of deep human connection there is no room for fear or misplaced violence, this only thrives in the grey mist of isolation
We need to choose open communication, at all times. There’s even a way how to practice this.
Last words to Will
I got you, brother, live must be sometimes tough floating around in VIP-land. Millions of nervous systems around you are at the edge of snapping and yours snapped in front of millions of people. It's simply your way of expressing yourself as an actor.
You’re just a human, and something got you triggered.
I know deep inside that slap has hurt you more than anything else. You must have felt threatened. There was no wisdom in that room to prevent you, no brothers and sisters to stop the show, and do some conflict counselling, since that was needed at that moment.
Now, the world got yet another example of violence and all we want is peace in our hearts, coming together and starting fixing the issues that need mending.
I’m waiting for the moment you give that poor man you slapped a really long hug. In public. I know you must have a great hug since I know you have a great heart.
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