Why you need to give your children space to explore the world
When your child was just born, you instantly feel the need to take care of your child. The moment my first daughter came on earth, I felt a deep connection with her. I felt the connection with my other two daughters too, but in a different way.
I felt I wanted them to learn to live their life the fullest, but also how to learn from every step they take their road through life.
Step into the world
Every step in your children’s life is important. They need to make a mistake to learn from them. They need to be praised when they did something good. This can be by the fact they figured out the travel route to school, it can be doing groceries on their own, or even better: your child has stood up for the bullied child. The mistakes they learn from can be taking the longest route to school while they could choose the shortest, picking up the most expensive kind of potatoes while the cheapest ones are fine too. These are little examples of exploring the world.
There are many more examples of how your children should explore the world. That could be love. How they choose love? By choosing to let your child have a teenager love. This is their first experience in love. I got a boyfriend when I was 15 years old. I had a great time, but I also knew I had to explore more into love world.
I think it is also important they know about world news too. I always tell important happenings in the world to my children. In their words. They need to know what is happening in the world. So they don’t come to school and they have been told by others.
Overindulgence parenting
A few days I wrote an article on overindulgence parenting. This means you give everything your child asks you to do. From wearing the schoolbags to figuring out the travel route to bringing your child to wherever they need to be and say yes to everything. A parent who is overindulging parenting does this because of unconditional love for their child.
A danger zone into this style of parenting is that your child creates anxiety to do things by themselves. When you don’t say no, your child learn to get everything they want to. When you say no, the child uses their voice too much until you give in as a parent. They know!
This behaviour of your child has lots of consequences for your child. They are spoiled children, they always want to be in the middle of the centre of everyone and everything, they don’t know how to do things when they’re older, they are likely to become narcissists, they don’t have a healthy balance between praise and discipline, they have a lack of responsibilities — at home and somewhere else, they have difficulties when ‘no’ is ‘no’ and they have difficulties with tolerance for back-tack, verbal challenges, and disrespectful behaviour with building assertiveness and independence.
What can we do to let our children explore the world
Well, you don’t have to say no every time of course. But ask them questions. Those questions could be: which bus did you find out? Is this the shortest or the longest trip? Why did you choose this one? What have you organised for your birthday party? How did you do this? How did you find out what to do?
Every phase is not the same and needs some other guides approach. But each phase has its way to ask — on the child’s level — to guide them through life.
You — as the parent — need to set the boundaries for yourself. Me-time is me-time. You need that time. Working at home is working at home and you need to take this time for work. Otherwise, your head will be spinning all the time. And this will be good for your health too.
