Why You Should Stop Body-Shaming People
Don’t just say foolish stuff and go away because it hurts
I was once a victim of body shaming. I know how much it hurts. Nowadays, it’s so common for people to judge everyone on the basis of their outer body. People say we look for a good heart but that’s not the case in reality.
It’s easy to say that we look for a kind heart but the person always looks at your body and judge. There are very few people who look for a kind heart and not the body. It’s easier to say then act.
I was been bullied for my acne and dark circles by people when I was in high school. As I was a teen and was taking things personally. That was the time when I didn’t love myself. I used to look at myself in mirrors and used to question myself. That period was hard. It may be little for you but it was a big problem for me.
I know how easily people say a few words and go away but they never realized the impact of it. If you are the one going with problems like skin color, height, weight, hair, acne, dark patches, crooked teeth, and whatnot. I want you to say you’re beautiful. Love yourself. Don’t beg people to love you.
I know you have been bullied by your family, friends, partners, or random strangers. I know it feels bad. I know you are hurt and feel unloved. As people think it’s a joke as you never utter something back and just smiled and went.
So, it is for you people. Please, stop it. It hurts. Your little remark will lose their self-confidence and may even cost their lives.
Don’t you think they are aware of what they are going through? There are reasons for people’s scars.
- Heredity problem: Yes, it may be because they have inherited from their genes. Genes don’t think about good or evil. It’s natural. So, stop commenting and think before you speak. Because these are the things they can’t control.
- Health issue: Maybe they are going with some disorder that you don’t know about. They must be knocking on that doctor's door for their treatment and they are already worried in their life. And your ugly little comment will again be another issue of their life.
- Personal Problems: They must be going with some personal issue which they haven’t shared with anyone. There is something that is hindering them to share with people. It’s not easy to say people about problems because then there will be another bullying coming on their way. So, think before you act.
- Life problems: That career issues. That family issues. That unemployment. And many such problems. These are the fishy things which have changed their body. So, know things before you judge.
Body-shaming hasn’t stopped yet. There are people who still say harsh words and go away and people suffer. So, just be kind to people because the world is already in a position of uncertainty. We never know what’s going to happen next with anyone of us.
Help people by saying good words because words have the power to heal the soul.
To the one who thinks they are unloved
Love your body because it’s perfect. You’re the beautiful one it’s society who’s ugly. So, love your scars they are beautiful. They are the ones who made you grow. Your failures made you rise high. Don’t hide it because it’s a sign of confidence.
Let them judge you. Let them criticize. Be cool and smile back because scars will heal you. Your scars will make you stronger and it’s proof that you survived the storm.
No matter you are taller, shorter, thin, fat, or dark. Do what works for you. Don’t just buy beauty products that they recommend but because you want to use it. Don’t just go off to the gym because they shame your body. Go because your heart says and you want to do it.
If it works for you then just go ahead and do it. No matter what people say or whether they like it or not.
You are beautiful. The skin is yours, the body is yours, love your self, love your body, you have the right to do so. Let their words don’t matter because their words are futile though.
“Stop trying to fix your body. It was never broken.”
-Even Ensler
To the now who is going to stop bullying
Next time when you meet people with displaced body say some good affirmations to them. Don’t hurt them. Speak kind words. Your little ray of hope can change their day because all they need is a little care and respect. So, do it and make someone happy.
It’s okay if you have said something to someone before. Knowing your mistakes and accepting your mistakes is the biggest thing. Because people don’t do that easily. It takes a lot of courage. You are not bad if you have already hurt someone. It’s okay. People learn from their mistakes.
So, be a change. Make a change in people’s happiness. You just have to take that one step. A step of love. A step of care. Once you master that you will see the results in your own life. And you will never fail to make someone happy with your words.
So do this next time:
- Don’t feel shame to post a picture on social media if you have your friend who is dark.
- Don’t avoid that person from your group who is always been neglected by others.
- Don’t judge someone because of looks.
- Speak kind words and help them if someone else is bullying them.
- Don’t give remark on their hair colors.
- Don’t laugh at them because of their scars.
- Don’t judge them for their way of dressing.
- And Don’t think that you said it as a joke. Because it may be a joke for you but not for them.
So, let people be happy in their own bodies and in their own life and you be happy with your own. And break the chain of bullying by speaking up when you see all those things happening in your surrounding. Speak up. Let the awareness spread. Don’t think so that one person can’t change because it all starts with one.