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n social media as the person “finding themselves.”That’s exactly what the celebrity in question said in response to all of the comments:<blockquote id="1331">“I’m finding myself. It just so happens that I’m under a microscope.”</blockquote>FYI: Finding yourself on social media, of all places, is the worst thing you could do.I don’t understand how we got into this age where EVERYTHING we do needs to be online, including the cringe and weird moments we have. Heck, I know I don’t want my class-clown moments from high school on social media. It’s embarrassing.Is this where we’re going now?We’re “finding ourselves” on social media because we’re young? I for sure didn’t find myself on social media. I found myself within the confines of my college dorm room. The only socials I use consistently are Twitter and this platform and that’s only for work reasons and engaging with cool people.<h2 id="4742">Here’s the best way to find yourself:</h2><ul><li>Be alone for a while — Prevent yourself from making new friends or engaging in new connections (they could be toxic people).</li><li>Sit with your thoughts — Reflect on those cringe and embarrassing moments you’ve had before. Think about mistakes you’ve made in the past. Why did you make those mistakes? What can you do better to improve your mind

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set next time?</li><li>Observe others — Don’t experience things for yourself, observe others. Watch how others carry themselves in public or what they do naturally that could ultimately make you a better person.</li><li>Develop new relationships naturally — Keep your circle small. It’s much better to have a small group of supportive friends than eight-hundred acquaintances. Less acquantainces=less toxic friendships.</li></ul>Social media won’t work.We know how toxic it can be. We know how attention-seeking people can get. We know the number of suicides that have happened because of social media.To act as if social media is some sort of mental/spiritual compass for you to “find yourself” is ridiculous. Any person that genuinely believes that is fooling themselves big time.Social media isn’t a therapist, it’s a bunch of 0s and 1s put together in a code.I hope we, as Gen Z’ers, can get our shit together. I don’t want us to become that generation of kids who use social media as a cornerstone of their everyday lives.Some things are meant to be private — and that’s okay.<blockquote id="3db1"><a href="https://samuraininjawriter.ck.page/0ce45993c1">Get my free writing guide that can teach you how to build a writing habit in 90 days or less here.</a></blockquote></article></body>

Why You Should Never Find Yourself By Using Social Media

Social media isn’t your therapist

“Let her find herself godamnit! She’s not harming anyone. Why is she such a problem to you?”

The blue-check crusaders sprinted into the comment section. Every single one of them said those exact words — and Houston, I think we have a problem.

I’m a part of Gen Z and I love my generation (if I didn’t, that’s like saying I wish I wasn’t born).

But we have a HUGE disconnect when it comes to social media.

Let me backtrack for a second.

The first quote was made because people were “attacking” a 22-year-old celebrity for posting cringe, salacious, and downright awkward content on her Instagram. The people who wanted her to tone it down, including me, were nice about it. We didn’t slut-shame her like so many others do.

But my big problem is the people who excuse weird and gruesome behavior on social media as the person “finding themselves.”

That’s exactly what the celebrity in question said in response to all of the comments:

“I’m finding myself. It just so happens that I’m under a microscope.”

FYI: Finding yourself on social media, of all places, is the worst thing you could do.

I don’t understand how we got into this age where EVERYTHING we do needs to be online, including the cringe and weird moments we have. Heck, I know I don’t want my class-clown moments from high school on social media. It’s embarrassing.

Is this where we’re going now?

We’re “finding ourselves” on social media because we’re young? I for sure didn’t find myself on social media. I found myself within the confines of my college dorm room. The only socials I use consistently are Twitter and this platform and that’s only for work reasons and engaging with cool people.

Here’s the best way to find yourself:

Be alone for a while — Prevent yourself from making new friends or engaging in new connections (they could be toxic people).
Sit with your thoughts — Reflect on those cringe and embarrassing moments you’ve had before. Think about mistakes you’ve made in the past. Why did you make those mistakes? What can you do better to improve your mindset next time?
Observe others — Don’t experience things for yourself, observe others. Watch how others carry themselves in public or what they do naturally that could ultimately make you a better person.
Develop new relationships naturally — Keep your circle small. It’s much better to have a small group of supportive friends than eight-hundred acquaintances. Less acquantainces=less toxic friendships.

Social media won’t work.

We know how toxic it can be. We know how attention-seeking people can get. We know the number of suicides that have happened because of social media.

To act as if social media is some sort of mental/spiritual compass for you to “find yourself” is ridiculous. Any person that genuinely believes that is fooling themselves big time.

Social media isn’t a therapist, it’s a bunch of 0s and 1s put together in a code.

I hope we, as Gen Z’ers, can get our shit together. I don’t want us to become that generation of kids who use social media as a cornerstone of their everyday lives.

Some things are meant to be private — and that’s okay.

Get my free writing guide that can teach you how to build a writing habit in 90 days or less here.