Why You Need to Clean Your Spiritual Closet
Mental clutter hurts. Here are five steps to help deal with it

Collecting clutter as we pass through life is something that is as natural as breathing. It is something none of us can avoid. Who doesn’t have those once-cherished things that now comfortably occupy space around the home or office? So hard to get rid of them. In fact, many of these things are long-forgotten until we resolve to clear the clutter. We rediscover them and end up going through them all over again and find it hard to let go.
Yes, I am very guilty of this. Sure, I enjoy the process, but at the end of the day, my clutter clearing didn’t see any major results. I did get rid of the dust and after realizing I had wasted hours reviving what I had actually forgotten about — things best left that way — I was forced to move on to more important things that HAD to be done.
The clutter? Still there.
That was no good at all.
And then came the wake-up call, the a-ha! moment. I won’t bore you with the details, but suffice it to say that I decided I would create breathing space. I got down to it with determination and simply resolved to donate or dispose of something every day. I am still a work in progress, and it is taking time, but I know I’ll get there eventually. And it is a great feeling to give away stuff.
Now, that takes care of the physical clutter.
What About the Baggage That We Carry Around in Our Heads?
I am referring to emotional baggage. Even a little is so heavy to bear.
In life, we gather mental clutter that is just as important to clear up. Those memories we store — happy and sad — do require some re-hauling from time to time to allow fresh thoughts in. Why carry around old negative stuff and limit ourselves?
To stay healthy, we need to let go of unhappy experiences, fears, worries, and regrets and claim our focus back. We need to let go of toxic relationships.
Can you imagine the amount of energy and space all this is taking up, stopping you from being your best self?
But Is It Really Possible to Clear Mental Clutter?
Fortunately, yes.
Life is a balance of holding on and letting go
Let’s define clutter as just about anything that interferes with our happiness.
I remember, many years ago, when my mom suggested meditation to get all the mental scrap out of my head, I would find it very hard to practice. As her soothing voice guided me to close my eyes and take a deep breath, all I could think of was that thing that annoyed me or some hurtful thing someone had said or done, not to mention my to-do list playing in a loop inside my head.
Have you felt that way, too?
My mom, being the innovative teacher she was, realized that this wasn’t working for me and taught me to follow the same steps I used in an activity I particularly enjoyed.
Don’t laugh — but from the age of four, I have loved cleaning closets. Just picture me standing in front of a messy closet, hands on my hips, taking stock and deciding on a course of action.
And that’s exactly what I did with mental clutter.
Here are the five steps I follow.
Taking Stock
Now, a cluttered closet is easier to look at and sort out, but looking at what is in the mind is a lot harder. Here are some questions that can help with this:
- Are you in any relationships that are wearing you out?
- Do you have a habit of overthinking about things that keep you from the life you deserve or want?
- Do you feel distracted from being emotionally happy?
- Will this matter a few years from now?
- Is it really clutter or are you just making a big deal out of it?
I know some of these questions are uncomfortable. It helps to sit in a quiet spot and figure out the answers. In fact, try and write it all down.
Segregating
Once you’ve got at least some of the answers, sort them out just as one might do with clothes — socks, shirts, pants, and so on. Except, with the mental stuff, it goes something like this:
- What can I let go of now?
- What feelings can I release?
- What problems can be solved?
- What is acceptable to me?
Add your own questions if you like. If you think you need help, please do reach out to someone you trust.
Strategizing
It is time now to make a plan of action to deal with each of those things. Based on the previous step, make a to-do list. It helps to schedule each item in your calendar.
As an example, to get rid of distractions that eat into your productivity, let’s say e-mail is your demon and messes with your mind. Deal with it by resolving not to keep your mailbox open. Don’t feel obliged to reply to every email the moment it comes in.
Depending on what’s on your list, schedule the task and date to help you resolve it.
Trashing What We Don’t Need
As you resolve each issue, it is time to throw it away — get rid of it. It now belongs in the trash can. Let it go. Do it.
Keeping Off The Clutter
Keeping off mental clutter needs you to work hard, lose it, keep it off. Pretty much like weight loss. Make sure that the mental clutter does not build up again.
- Be alert to the signs of clutter. One obvious indication is when your desk, your home, your space are a mess. This is usually considered a sign of inner imbalance, if only for the simple reason that you can’t find something when you need it and that can be stressful.
- To keep track and stay on track, set aside a few minutes to take stock every day. Write down what is bothering you.
- Try and make it a habit to spot mental clutter and deal with it before it snowballs into a major issue. This will help you focus on the things that really matter. And oh, it helps to cultivate the habit of saying NO.
You know what they say — we become what we think. Why not turn our thoughts into meaningful ones that lead us to where we would rather be? Far better than wallowing in the quicksand of negativity, isn’t it?
You can’t zap mental clutter away — it takes time and effort to clear up that precious space of all the unnecessary stuff that builds up over time. And when there are issues, we have to deal with them to achieve a peaceful state of mind.
To Sum Up
To keep your spiritual closet clean, set aside a few minutes every week to deal with mental clutter.
- Take stock (ask yourself the questions listed above and reflect on the answers)
- Segregate (what can you let go of, resolve, release or accept)
- Strategize (make a plan of action)
- Trash what you don’t need
- Keep the clutter off by being alert to the signs of it building up
We are all so caught up with our routines that we become automatons. We lose sight of the present moment. When that happens, things just pile up into an overwhelming mess, just like that kitchen sink on busy days. Being mindful of mental clutter can help you get there and make space for good things! Because you deserve to be happy.
Vidya Sury, Collecting Smiles ❤ Did you smile today?
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