Why to Choose Therapy Over a Lifetime of Misery and Collateral Damage

Reclaiming the magic of your inherent worth

I know. Therapy is expensive. But it’s actually way cheaper than not therapy.

So cheers to all of you who had to buy groceries on a credit card so you had enough cash to pay your therapist because insurance didn’t cover the help you needed most.

I’ve been there.

Sometimes I feel like I wasn’t raised.

I just kept not dying until I became an adult.

One day I realized that, although my parents did the best they could with what they had, it wasn’t f**king good enough to make an emotionally healthy human out of me.

And it would be up to me to find the nurturing guidance, love, and support I didn’t receive.

Healing is hard y’all.

There is nothing pleasant about scrapping and fighting for every shred of human decency and emotional awareness I’ve acquired in life.

Grieving the losses and the things I never had. Sharing my toxic shame openly with other people to get the poison out. Working at self-love and acquiring a faith that is counterintuitive to every one of my survival mechanisms. Vulnerability, rigorous honesty, self-searching, surrender, forgiveness, and crying so hard it felt like my face was gonna explode.

Yeah, healing f**king sucks when you’re doing it.

But a life free from the tyranny of self-loathing and compulsive survival responses lies on the other side of that work.

And it’s a life where your hopes and dreams don’t have to be hopes and dreams anymore.

It’s a life where literally anything is possible.

The type of life that makes you question the use of the word “living” to describe the shit you were doing before you healed.

You inspire me.

So to every one of you who has stepped outside of your survival zone in search of more… to everyone who has realized that they’ve still got more work to do… to each person who is considering their very first tentative step into the unknown… I salute you.

You are the unsung heroes and heroines of human evolution.

You are shouldering the pain of countless future generations who will never have a chance to thank you for your bravery.

It’s possible they will never know what you had to go through to reclaim the inherent worth that was stripped from you before you even knew it was your birthright.

But I see you.

And I am in awe of your courage.

Thank you.

Adam Murauskas is a relationship coach and writer. He and his wife Rebecca quit their day jobs and moved to Panamá in 2019 to pursue passions for helping people heal. Take a free relationship quiz at FixYourPicker.com or see Instagram @fixyourpicker for daily microblogs.