Why There Is No Blueprint To Being A Man These Days And Why It's Better This Way! Stop Being A Wuss.
To Be A Real Man Requires Self Discovery, Experience And Strength.
The other day, while I was in the chaotic mess that is Twitter, I came across this tweet from a fellow who was mocking another tweet about how you need the Male Blueprint to be a better man. Apparently, looking at this tweet, I noticed that it got a lot of likes.
I began to think, is there really a blueprint to being a man? If there was, I was not given one while I was going and trying to live life and learn as I go. Like everything in life, I thought I had to experience it as there is no manual or instructional book or even a blueprint. I had like most men in my time had to learn the hard way. The scars we carry good and bad we have earned along the years of life we have lived.
You see, growing up our Parents never really coddled us, and we were left to fend for ourselves for the most part at an early age, so you have to understand when we see grown young men falling for this or these types of products aimed at young men it makes stop and realize that we as a society fucked up. Like growing up we did not know how to be men, we looked at the older males in our group and watched what they did, and we took the positive traits and used those to better ourselves. We saw the lives they led, and if they led good lives you learned to do that in your own way, and if you had an older male whose life was in shambles you learned to avoid that type of life and used it as a cautionary tale.
Many of the things I learned as a boy were by watching the older men in the family do their thing. Listened to their philosophy among other things and slowly put things together. As a man there is no blueprint for being a better man, there is no such thing as a Woman craving you just because you show up in the room. Trust me, that does not happen.
I hate that there are people out there who are willing to sell you crap because you feel weak. These people, to be honest, have no care for you only that you buy their course and when you do you find out that it's all bullshit!
To become a man in my mind was and still is an experience. Doing the things that will help you grow. Yes, many of these views have changed, and as a man you have to learn to adapt to your new surroundings, nothing stays the same. There is no blueprint.
If you feel that you are not good at getting women, learn to get better. If you want people to respect you, then learn to respect others as well including Women. If you want to make money and have a business, then you have to learn to do it. All of these things will require that you put your time into it, during that time you will earn scars along the way. You will fall on your face! Then you get back up and try again to figure out another way.
The secret to being a man is to be out there living your best life and not hiding in your basement or behind a computer screen. Put down the phone and have a real conversation with people face to face. Clean yourself up and look good; when you do this, your confidence will rise as well. It's not hard when all you have to do is embrace the suck like they say in the military. Embrace the good and the bad and in the end, when you get in your 50’s you will be comfortable in your skin like I am.
Stop stressing yourself. You are doing fine and give it time. We men all have our faults no matter how “High Value” we think we are. There are always some dents in the armor.
Life is constantly changing and so will you, just be patient.