Summary

The author describes their journey from being an extreme overthinker to embracing reality and improving their mental health by overcoming the habit of overthinking.

Abstract

The article recounts the personal experience of the author, who, after recognizing their extreme overthinking tendencies, decides to live more in reality. The author's transformation begins with an encounter with an even more overthinking friend, which serves as a wake-up call. By observing the negative impact of overthinking on their friend and themselves, the author realizes the importance of being present. They implement strategies to break the cycle of overthinking, such as questioning the triggers of their thoughtful journeys and focusing on the present moment. The author emphasizes the positive changes in their life, including improved focus and mental health, and encourages readers to be conscious of their surroundings and work on self-improvement rather than escaping into fantasy.

Opinions

The author believes that living in reality is more beneficial than being consumed by overthinking and fantasies.
Overthinking is portrayed as a habit that can be overcome with self-awareness and conscious effort.
The author suggests that observing others can provide valuable insights into one's own life and habits.
The article conveys that questioning oneself can be a powerful tool in changing negative behaviors.
The author values the importance of being present and engaged in the current moment over indulging in thoughts about the past or future.
There is an opinion that overthinking can lead to missed opportunities and negatively affect one's mental health.
The author expresses that making a conscious decision to change and actively working towards it can lead to a more fulfilling life.

Why Should You Live in Reality and Leave Your Fantasy Behind?

I must implement the decision, but how?

The idea of living, in reality, seems impossible for many of us [overthinkers] because of the unpredictable life events. We want to live a happy life that is full of fairy tales, and we are the hero of it.

Believe me or not, but I was an extreme overthinker. Living in my dreams makes me feel way good than dealing with daily struggles of life.

I was completely unaware of my overthinking habit until I met my overthinker friend who was like me, but she used to overthink more than me. I can say that she was on an extreme level of overthinking.

Everything changed after that event. I started to question myself as do I want to become like my friend because I was half into overthinker habits like her.

At first, I was amused to have a friend who loves to think, but it suddenly changed everything in me.

Also, I have another habit of observing others. Like what others are doing in their lives, are they happy with what they are doing, their work according to their age that can pretty much tell me a lot about what I should do in my life and what I must avoid? So, I do not end up making the same mistakes as others.

When I started observing my friend, I realized that I must overcome my fantasy world. The idea sparked in my mind when my friend used to zone out while in lectures and group talks. I can see myself in her because it was like a reflection of myself as if I am looking in the mirror.

I knew that whenever I was thinking, I used to stare at things for a long time. Surprisingly, my friend was doing the same, so I knew whenever my friend departs in her thoughtful journey.

Now, I could see that she was missing much in reality because of her overthinking habit, and so was I.

The change started when I realized that there are more advantages to live in reality than to live in your thoughts all the time.

Therefore, I decided to live along with my existence. I had already missed many opportunities and lectures because of my overthinking habit, and I decided that I do not want to miss any more of it.

I must implement the decision, but how? I did not know because we [overthinkers] do not know how suddenly we get lost in our thoughts. So, it was a difficult task to get out of my overthinking habit.

The Tables Turned:

Firstly, I did track down the crucial point of how I always end up in my thoughts.

Whenever I came out of my thoughts, I started questioning myself as to how I ended up here and where did it all start?

Luckily, I found out that whenever I was getting bored or relate to the ongoing lecture or event, I end up thinking about it.

So, the next time I start to fall into my thoughts, I ask myself that is it worth it? Because it might be possible that the other’s person’s story may be more informative than my useless thoughts. So, why not listen to his story.

Honestly, questioning myself helped a lot.

My focus and concentration started to improve as I began to pay close attention to my surroundings. It felt amazing because it was like the world turned upside down.

I was impressed that much was changed, only because I stopped myself from the habit of overthinking. It changed my life, and I love it.

Long story short, I am at that stage of my life where I enjoy my being in the present more than my thoughts. I am happy that I made the right decision about overthinking.

If I look back at my past, I can see how my habit of overthinking was destroying me because it was also affecting my mental health. Gladly, I took the right decision at the right time.

What I want you to get out of my life experience is that you have the power to attain anything in your life only if you have a will for it.

Lastly, be cautious of your present surroundings in life and try to work on yourself to improve your consciousness rather than recreating your imaginary world.