Why Nice Guys Always Come Last

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Nice always come last, and it's no one's fault but their own.

Nice guys” always come last, and it’s because many have a victim and sense of entitlement mentality.

This mentality is highlighted with terms such as “Nice guys finish last and “women only like jerks”, more recently the jerks have been called Chad and Tyrone (Chad for white guys and Tyrone for black guys)

I’m not a fan of nice guys myself and the reason why is that nice guys aren’t that nice, they’re manipulative, condescending and have a victim based mentality.

These so-called nice guys are only nice when they want something, and if they can’t get that something from someone many turn passive-aggressive.

Numerous “nice guys,” think that treating women they like, with kindness and respect, entitles them to a special badge of honour and because of this, they deserve eternal gratitude even if they don’t extend this kindness to other women who they don’t view as attractive.

I’ve seen this happen all too often, with numerous white men who date black women, they feel the woman should feel enamored that a white man took pity on them, and if the woman isn’t grateful, she often gets called all kinds of racist and derogatory names.

The majority of these “nice guys” work hard at their 9-5 jobs, are overweight, have no social life or social skills, yet expect a beautiful woman who is in shape, has hobbies and a bustling social life to like them. Yet these same guys wouldn’t be interested in the female equivalent of themselves.

These are the guys who still cling on to memories of when they were younger, and all the hot girls ignored, them and chased the bad boys, whilst ignoring the fact that they ignored the nice girls who may have been physically underdeveloped themselves.

Then they use this lame excuse to hate all women. This is something I’ve seen numerous black men do with black women.

The point they miss is, that being a good man isn’t something you should do with the expectation of getting a relationship out of it. Sex isn’t something you’re given in exchange for good behaviour.

People date one another because they're attracted to each other. They have sex for the same reasons. Women need sexual tension and sexual tension doesn't happen with inauthentic men. Sexual tension happens when a man is unapologetically being himself.

In a lot of cases, many of these men set unrealistic standards, because one they’re insecure and need a woman, that society considers desirable to boost their fragile ego and two because they’re afraid of getting rejected.

This fear of rejection is how they end up staying at home, watching television or video games which they try to justify by saying “all women are gold diggers”

“All women are gold diggers” is a term you’ll hear a lot from these so-called nice guys, but it’s an excuse for their lack of success with women, whether they’ve suffered from rejection, bad relationships or a constant inability to attract the women they’re interested in.

They think that women don’t want them because of some characteristic, e.g., height, but what they fail to realise is, women, don’t want them because they’re insecure about their height and project it out to the people they interact with.

A lot of these guys have huge chips on their shoulders and are always going on about their failed relationships, rejection and their inability to land the women they’re interested in. It’s never their fault, it’s always the women.

They like to think that they’ve been somehow wronged by these women because, the women don’t want to date them, but the reason these women don’t want to date them is that they’re negative, boring, insecure and have nothing going on for themselves besides their job or playing video games.

Deep down a lot of “nice guys” have self-esteem issues they need to work on, and don’t really like themselves or feel they have qualities that would attract a woman, so they focusing on just being nice to the women they like in the hopes of getting their attention

When many find out that they have self-esteem issues, they still don’t think this should be a barrier to them getting a match and feel that women should love them the way they are, even if they don’t love themselves, when this doesn’t happen they sit around and blame everyone.

In a way it’s understandable, it’s not easy to accept your shortcomings, as this, in turn, means you then have to do some work on yourself which might not be a quick fix, it’s much easier to look at someone else to blame.

What “nice guys” need to do is, put women to the side for a bit and work on themselves as a way of finding out who they are, what they like to do, their beliefs and their opinions, and focus on being the best version of themselves.

Then, positively present themselves to anyone they’re trying to get to know. If some women don’t agree with what they have to say or what they do. That’s life. It’s better to be hated for who you are than loved for whom you’re not. It’s also a lot sexier to women.

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