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Narcissists may struggle with intense feelings of regret and sadness when their ex-partners, especially those who were close to their families or had high social status, move on to better experiences and opportunities.

Abstract

The article discusses the emotional impact of breakups on narcissists, highlighting their tendency to realize their mistakes only after their partners have moved on. It suggests that narcissists feel a profound sense of loss and regret, particularly if their exes were important to their family or social circle. Despite efforts to reconcile, narcissists often fail to restore the relationship, leading to a painful reflection on their actions. The article emphasizes that the individuals narcissists regret losing the most are those who are independent, generous, and capable of seeing the best in others. These ex-partners often thrive post-breakup, which exacerbates the narcissist's sense of loss, especially if the ex gains social status.

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  • Narcissists tend to recognize their wrongdoings too late, after their partners have already moved on.
  • The emotional toll of losing a partner can be significant for narcissists, contrary to their typically self-centered nature.
  • Narcissists may experience deep regret, particularly when their ex-partners were well-regarded by their family or succeed in elevating their social status post-breakup.
  • Despite potential reconciliations, relationships with narcissists often revert to problematic patterns seen before the breakup.
  • The person a narcissist regrets losing the most is characterized as independent, forgiving, and optimistic about others' potential.
  • The article implies that the emotional growth and forward progress of the ex-partner serve as a stark contrast to the narcissist's feelings of stagnation and loss.
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Why Narcissists Will Be Stuck On Their Exes

Even people who are very focused on themselves, like narcissists, can feel really sad when they lose someone they loved a lot.

It’s surprising for me to say this. But for them, they usually realize how much they did wrong only after the person they cared about has moved on to better things.

While their ex-partner looks forward to new and happier experiences, the narcissist has to deal with the heaviness of losing them and desperately trying to make things right again.

Even though they try really hard, narcissists often can’t get back what they lost. Just like anyone else, a narcissist can feel really sad, especially if their ex-partner was close to their family. Losing something important can make even the most self-centered person think about their actions.

Sometimes, the narcissist might get another chance to restart the relationship, but it often leads to the same problems as before.

The person who experienced mistreatment from the narcissist might decide they’ve had enough and take control of their life by ending the relationship.

The person the narcissist will regret losing the most is the one who got away. Usually, these individuals are independent and not afraid to move on, leaving the past behind. They are often generous, willing to give second chances, and good at seeing the best in others.

Now, the narcissist can only think about their loss and feel regret silently. The heartache serves as a reminder of what could have been, especially for a narcissist who cares a lot about social status.

If their ex-partner moves up the social ladder after the breakup, it feels like adding salt to the wound for the narcissist.

They are constantly haunted by the realization that they missed out on a great opportunity.

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