Why Men Need To Cry!
The media portrays men as superheroes who go into battle and defeat the bad guy and save the supermodel damsel in distress, but this is an unrealistic approach for the modern man to live up to and it is creating a suppressed society of men that would rather die then express their emotions.
Stoicism is often compared to Masculinity with both being the center of attention when it comes to men suppressing their emotions, but this is not an in-depth understanding of Stoicism and Masculinity. Instead, it is a brief picture being displayed in front of the eyes of anyone who will stop and stare, yet they are missing the truth entirely. Men are treated like toy soldiers designed to fight the battles of cowards who cannot control their egos. They wind up the soldiers and watch them go until they perish into nonexistence, but men are much more than war and silent PTSD.
If you asked people about their views on Stoicism and Masculinity people would describe a man who was strong and fearless who suppressed his emotions and provided for his family. Men are not robots that are capable of defeating mental health through suppression of their emotions although the media would have you believe otherwise. If you have a problem it cannot be solved without finding a solution and trying to suppress your emotions in the hopes that the problem will go away is like putting a plaster on a broken bone and expecting it to heal.
Men are reluctant in most cases to seek medical help for their mental health as it is seen as being weak with some suggesting it is a sign of femininity. The measures men take to feel masculine in the eyes of others is costing them their mental well-being and sanity.
Stoicism teaches you how to control your emotions not to forget they exist, it is about understanding why you feel how you do and controlling the outcome. External circumstances such as not getting a job will create internal stress, but as a Stoic, you understand that you were never truly in control of getting the job. However, knowing you did your best to get it should allow you to feel satisfied regardless of the outcome and this removes the feeling of stress.
Masculinity needs to evolve, I believe Masculinity should be championed and embraced but it needs to be developed into emotional acceptance and understanding and expression should be championed not silenced.
The great Stoic figure Marcus Aurelius would express his emotions in his writing as he wrote messages to himself with no idea that one day it would turn into one of the most helpful books in the world The Meditations.
Women struggle too, but because the media portrays them as being more sensitive and emotional it takes the pressure off them when it comes to sharing their feelings with others. They have women’s nights where they all come together and express how they feel as they pamper themselves and this in itself is a form of therapy. Men tend to meet up to consume large amounts of alcohol which numbs them from their reality, constantly running away from their problems instead of facing them.
Men should feel empowered and Masculine when they cry in front of others, they should feel uplifted when they share their mental health struggles and they should also be championed for their courage.
They should offer their shoulder to others to lean on and encourage each other to open up. The reason why men should cry is because it is healing for their souls. Do not fight battles alone, there are people all around you who will fight them with you. Never feel alone or that you are unwanted because the world would not be the same if you was not in it. Your existence sends ripples through the universe, find your purpose and apply it to saving the world from itself, be the change you wish to see!
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