Why Men Choose a Woman with Lower Social Status

It might be due to the Cost/Benefit Ratio

A woman with a particular level of social status would most likely have a certain amount of money.

I am sure you would agree that a woman with that social status has somewhere to live in a part of a town befitting her level of social status.

She would have at least clothes to match that social status and she would have a job that comes with a certain paycheque regularly.

Women do not necessarily wear more expensive clothes because women, just like men differ in their level of Greed-Avoidance within the personality trait of Honesty & Humility. I explained this in my article about toxic personalities (dark tetrad) and how to identify them.

Normal women do not feel the need to have the most expensive clothes since they subconsciously have higher self-esteem.

Stating the problem

Are men dating down in social status or at the same level?

It depends. Just like women. Men care less about that if they are looking for just sex. But if we are talking about building a family then that is a whole different discussion just like it is for a woman.

It would be simple to state that men date horizontally. But then you would miss the risk that comes with that. You see, women do not date down. They date equal or up the social ladder.

Why is this an issue for a man dating at his level you might ask?

The Scenario

Let's say this woman has a job that comes with a certain amount of money each month. The man has an equal job with a paycheque equal to hers. They both have a car each and an apartment each.

So they move in together one day keep the cars and sell one apartment that is in the least desired part of town. Why make it worse when you can be better off?

One day her manager acknowledges she is doing a great job so the manager promotes her to a managerial position. Now that manager role comes with a pay increase. This means that she all of a sudden finds herself in a pickle.

She is as of now dating down the social hierarchy.

She can go against her biology, which I doubt her biology will let her. Or she can start motivating her boyfriend to look for a managerial position or ask his manager for a managerial position where he works.

Sure she will stick around for a while but soon it will start to irritate her that she is above him in the social league. If you are a woman reading this part. Please give me your comment on this so that men who read it will understand you.

You see. Women do not date down. They either date equally or up.

We see this in women studying at university in that they change men every time they get a new degree.

Yes, these women are liberal and the article about censorship is about them.

Point of View — POV

People have a hard time seeing things from other peoples point of view.

Mainly due to their level of openness and cognitive bias. But don’t get me wrong. we still need to be truthful even if gets complicated. Liberal women are high in openness to exploration.

Therefore they have the ability to see things from your point of view as well as theirs.

The truth also hurt in some cases which Paulina Porizkova openly admitted.

I am here to tell you that your very biology is in fact working against you when you formulate your opinions about others and how you perceive the world. These things happens subconsciously and they are put in place for you to stay social since humans are a social species.

Feminism is such an effect to protect women in an increasing more liberal world where access to sex has never been greater.

By finding a common theme. Women can stick together agains the horrors of men in a flat hierarchy to protect themselves. When in fact. Women are the gatekeepers of sex. It should also be mentioned that feminist activism is associated to pathological narcissism according to Krispenz. Their aggressive activism in turn is also correlated with narcissism according to Lambe.

You can’t work agains human biology or Karma and think you will get away with it.

All this faff with pathological aggressive, narcissistic feminism will eventually dissolve due to human biology.

It is as evident as stating that women can’t smell a mans t-shirt to know if he is attractive or not.

Yes, women smell male attractiveness without ever have met the man or seen a picture of him.

Women are amazing that way.

Don’t try and fool a woman with perfume or deodorant. Instead, you should think about cutting down on the “Axe” spray.

Because it will not get you married or laid mate!

Jealousy or Mate Gurading

Both men and women hate jealousy or mate guarding as it is known scientifically.

One reason why we hate jealousy might be due to the very nature of it restricting you. Everyone hates being controlled. It has many names such as authoritarianism, totalitarianism, dictatorship and Swedish Socialism.

Control stems from being neurotic or emotional and it has a 0.3 correlation.

First you get scared. Then angry and then you try and understand through controlling behaviours. We all do it.

When a person is higher in negative emotions than they are extroverted aka happy. We call them insecure. Which is also true about you and me every time we are neurotic.

A womans feritlity and attractivness

According to Martie G. Haselton less attractive women experience jealousy during midcycle while attractive women experience jealousy or mate guarding throughout the whole month.

Why is that?

Why should a man be jealous of his woman if no other man finds her attractive?

There is, simply put, less energy required to protect his investment in choosing her. That is the Cost/Benefit in his choice.

According to Schmitt and his research in over 53 countries. He found that culture(your values in your Insula) and personality regulates mate poaching.

“Mate poaching- romantically attracting someone who is already in a relationship-was most common in Southern Europe, South America, Western Europe, and Eastern Europe and was relatively infrequent in Africa, South/Southeast Asia, and East Asia.”

He further state that men more than women engaged in short-term poaching across all regions. He also goes on to say.

“People who try to steal another’s mate possess similar personality traits across all regions, as do those who frequently receive and succumb to the poaching attempts by others.”

So what he is saying is that men and women who are unfaithful are so due to personality and would by his description have sex with other unfaithful individuals with the same personality.

Add increase in resistent Syphilis as a STD to that equation before you accept or glorify free sex. Yey liberalism. And while you are reading. Let me freak you out even more. Did you know that you can’t protect yourself agains genital herpes? You can’t. No condom will protect you.

As you can see there is a reason why men choose a woman with lower social status all around the world.

The younger version of me discussed this with my friends and we chose accordingly. Because other men will also find your woman just as attractive as you and try and poach her from you which Schmitt confirms.

I do not have enough fingers to count the number of times my girlfriend has told me men approached her in the shopping mall when I am not next to her trying to poach her.

My girlfriend also heard about a man that complained about beautiful women in that they took to much energy. His strategy was to choose a less attractive one.

But to be perfectly honest.

Men that has little to offer women usually say that because they get rejected by beautiful women.

Young men feel the same way when they try and ask out a beautiful woman since he has little to offer her when young. That is why women date a few years older men that had time to gather resources. A car is one such resource which TLC describes well in their song “No Scrub”.

Most women love that tune because it reflects their biology which reflects in the way they think and act.

Men know perfectly well that the cost of choosing to invest in a beautiful woman could come with poor benefits as the cost/benefit ratio indicates.

Imagine marrying a beautiful woman and having two children with her quickly. Then she gets a divorce because she is feed up with you since you lack the ambition to become CEO of a company or be a greedy psychopath in order to increase the social status you have in the neighbourhood you both live in. Of course there is a plethora of different reasons why a woman might want a divorce.

This is but one example regarding social status.

You then are single with two children. The research is very clear that children growing up in divorced families suffer. Not to mention the Cindarella effect where stepfathers treat their partners children poorly.

Do you as a man want to invest in a beautiful woman that then gets poached by a richer man with higher social status so that your two children risk getting discriminated by their stepfather or worse.

Why would you take that risk?

Do you really hate your future children that much?

Choosing a lower social status woman

For a man it is strategically smart to choose wisely and smart men do when given the option.

Because the larger the difference in social status between you as a man and a woman. The more leeway you have as a man. It is pure and simply put intelligent behaviour that a man chooses a lower status woman as a partner from his perspective.

Any man has a responsibility towards his future children to choose wisely.

Then we have pure biology to back it up.

A younger more beautiful woman is more fertile since women do not show fertility as all other mammals do. To maximise the male strategy it is always a better bet to invest in a younger woman to increase the potential for children. Younger women tend not have worked that many years to build a fortune or be married to rich men that they have divorced.

Therefore they are obviously lower in social status but beautiful nonetheless.

Women dating down

Not to say that there are not extrem values in the data.

There are men that get choosen by a higher social status woman that is a celebrity since no man in that social hierarchy finds her attractive. Here is one such list of celebrities to prove that.

Still it does not disprove that men on average choose a lower status woman in relation to himself.

These rich and older women have little to no choice since men date down and not up. Maybe I should ad smart men date down and not horizontally. I am referring to the risk example I wrote about above.

What do you think?

Unfaithful (extra-pair sex)

According to Gangestad the cost for a man when the woman he chose to marry is greater during his partners ovulation every month.

“Results showed that: (i) women reported greater sexual interest in, and fantasy about, non-primary partners near ovulation than during the luteal phase; (ii) women did not report significantly greater sexual interest in, and fantasy about, primary partners near ovulation; (iii) women reported that their primary partners were both more attentive and more proprietary near ovulation.”

So the only bargaining chip a man has is to try and manipulate the game with resources and being jealous(mate guard) to protect his investment.

I can go on forever with scientific facts about why intelligent and normal men date down the social hierarchy.

But that is for another article.

If I may offer some advice

Never start dating a partner without checking if you match each other.

You should both do the https://www.understandmyself.com/ test. You will get a joint answer if you two match or if one or both have the personality of a mate poacher or unfaithful behaviour.

Spare yourself the grief and invest in you and your future partner.

If the one you think you want to date refuses to do the test.

Well maybe that person is not for you and you can happily move on and keep searching. Covert behaviour indicates vulnerable narcissism and insecurity.

Yes, I and my girlfriend have both done the test. 👏👏👏👏👏

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