Why Mature Women Find Masculinity Seductive

Here’s what every man needs to know about it.

I was thirty-five when my friend’s seventeen-year-old son made a ballsy move to hit on me. God bless him. I knew I was the shit the moment he followed me into my bathroom, cooing at me as if I were a teenage girl. At first, I was stunned, but that was quickly replaced by alarm as he went to nuzzle my neck. That was when my elbow connected with his ribs — a reflex reaction, and I spun around to face him.

“What are you doing?”

He went a bit red. “Err… sorry.”

Things got awkward as he realized his efforts to bag himself an older woman had failed epically.

But the odds were never in his favor. He was just a boy.

Still, had he been ten years older, I dare say the outcome would have been the same. I know this because the year before, I dated a twenty-seven-year-old guy.

It was one of the most transitional years of my life because the experience layered critical lessons I’d learned from previous relationships.

Namely, my first marriage.

By then, it was finally dawning on me that men with sexist ideas about masculinity are not only more likely to mistreat and abuse women, but they have little clue how to form and maintain a meaningful connection.

And that’s what mature women need to feel the full power of a man’s seduction — his ability to participate in an intense and soulful collision fully.

Emotional immaturity cannot achieve a soulful connection, and it’s not a quality a woman — mature or otherwise — usually finds seductive. Unless, of course, she matches his lack of emotional intelligence.

Aside from the arousing sex offered by Mr. 27, I soon learned that I had another child on my hands. As a result, I was dealing with unreasonable demands, tantrums, extreme possessiveness, passive-aggressive behavior, constant comparisons to his mother (WTF?), and to top it all off, he was often jealous when I gave attention to my real children.

The signs blazed hotter than my bed.

Yeah. No, thanks.

An iron stomach and a penis that gets hard fast and stays that way long enough to thrust for an extended period fast loses its shiny new toy effect when shaded in toxic-green masculinity.

That’s the thing about mature women. We are generally not into boys.

Or, man-boys.

We prefer positive masculinity.

Positive Masculinity is Seductive.

It’s admirable, charming, refreshing, and mature.

Positive masculinity is the antithesis of toxic masculinity because it pushes back against the unspoken rules that men are “supposed” to follow.

Rules like the secret “guy code” calling men out for behavior that doesn’t match society’s definition of manhood. Practices that reinforce male superiority over women often using intimidation, violence, and forms of abuse to maintain that sense of power.

Again, not seductive.

That’s another thing about mature women. We generally like men with reasonable impulse control and who treat women and girls with the same thoughtfulness they want to be treated.

And it’s not demanding on our part. We know all about toxic masculinity because women experience men as women.

We’ve lived through the emotional blackmail men dish up. Intimidation, psychological manipulation, and sometimes, even violence. Many women experience unfaithfulness, nullification, and polarization by a man at some point — and there’s little doubt each of us has sold out on self-worth in the name of “love.”

But that’s our life lessons.

That’s how we know we much prefer positive masculinity.

Positive masculinity is romantic.

It allows men to experience and explore a fuller range of emotions and share their feelings with a woman.

It opens up the channels of vulnerability and love.

Positive masculinity is not blind with a false sense of ego whereby a man’s hardships are inflicting under the guise of independence and strength.

That’s toxic masculinity.

Toxic masculinity teaches a man not to show weakness. So, it restricts his emotions — characteristics that inevitably keep him in an emotional prison, preventing him from gaining deep insights into himself and his most plunging feelings and forging intimate relationships with women.

Not seductive.

Or connective.

The thing about it is that mature women are not girls anymore. We know who we are and what we want, and we don’t have a lot of patience for bullshit.

The cocky know-it-all guy who acts like he knows the secrets to life holds no interest for us. Nor does the lime-light-seeking egotist whose reputation is more important than experiencing a meaningful life.

No.

We’ve known those men.

We’re familiar with the pain inflicted by men who have sold us out to save their asses. Who’ve mistreated our hearts and destroyed our souls because they didn’t know how to receive deep love.

More life learning.

That’s the beauty of the experience. Understanding what we don’t want clarifies what we do want. In this case, a man who is less selfish and more skilled at open communication, more dedicated to receiving the love of a woman, and of course, more devoted to her pleasure = seductive.

And finally

Whether realized or not, mature women often have a lot to give in the realm of love and connection. While younger ladies are generally still exploring the world through relationships and drama, mature women are more focused on improving their own lives and the lives of their loved ones.

We know where to focus our energy and have a firm idea about the experiences we want to create in life. There will be no guesswork, no attention-seeking games, or over-reactive responses. We feel no need to look for the approval of others because we are more comfortable with who we’ve become and still becoming.

We are woman.

Feminine. Aware. Humble. Modest. Experienced. Soulful. Sensitive. Strong. Warm. Beautifully flawed.

That’s why we appreciate a man who has learned to cry without shame, empathize without judgment, and create instead of destroying.

Not perfect by any means, but someone brave enough to stand in honor of his masculine energy and breathe in our most profound truths alongside us — respectfully, equally.

That’s positive masculinity.

And that, my darling, is seductive.

Grrrr….

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