The Shocking Reason You’re Seeking Constant Validation
How to Finally Heal
You may need go back to when you was a child, speak to the child in you, the one who has all the wounds, who wanted attention but never got it.
Who wanted comfort but was neglected.
Who wanted love but was either abused or was past on from one family, orphanage or just left alone.
Who wanted answers but got nothing but manipulation. Who wanted to have his or her identity but forced to take someone elses.
Who wanted to feel special but was told they serve only to serve the parent as an emotional need and nothing more than that.
Who wanted friends but found loneliness. Who had many questions but found confusion.
All combined becomes your self image.
Either a person creates a new one which is false, to hide their pain and to become nothing but deceivers to others, using others for attention,
emotionally draining, or seeking attention so much they attract what they fear the most.
When you heal your wounds inside, you will rely less on external validation and seeking attention off others to focus more on real work, productive work than superficial.
If you notice, many write here but many cannot keep up in being consistent. The reason most can, is because they don’t do it for validaton. They do it because they believe in what they do.
They are not all talk about giving like most people who complain all day about how bad the world is and that.
They are consistent and that inner quality drives them even if they got votes or don’t have.
It also helps them to have their own voice, whether brash, bold or wih a fun twist or just logically. They are consistent.
They do it because they love doing what they do.
Makes them happy and feel satisfied in themselves in doing so.
Even if no one gives a shit, they’ll keep wrting anyway.
That also happens in different areas of your life and you find a healthy balance. and you become very productive as well.
You’re energy well spent on doing the real work than seeking external attention and validation to motivate you.
So look where trauma happpened way back, heal those wounds first and then move forward in building your self esteem and your own self image that brings you peace and confidence.
Just know it is not easy because it takes digging deep inside but that is how it begins. That is where the healing starts.
There are lots of books on the subject of self love, healing yourself, self esteem and so on.
Invest in yourself and it will pay you back so much more if…you..apply it. Just don’t be hard on yourself.
It takes time.
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