Why learning to organise is very important and what to do

Summary

The author, a self-described chaotic individual, emphasizes the importance of organization for personal well-being and setting a positive example for their children, detailing their journey towards a more structured life through therapy and practical tools.

Abstract

The author acknowledges their inherent chaos but recognizes the critical need for organization, especially after becoming a parent. They attribute their previous disorganization to personal issues and negative thoughts that occupied their mind. Through therapy and a conscious effort, the author is learning to establish structure in their life. They aim to provide a stable environment for their children, ensuring a healthier lifestyle and a better future. The author discusses the struggle to find effective organizational methods, highlighting the desire for freedom amidst structure. They suggest that writing and communication are therapeutic and that organizing one's life can lead to happiness and peace of mind. The article concludes with practical advice on using apps for task management, setting achievable daily goals, and incorporating self-care routines to maintain organization.

Opinions

The author believes that personal issues and overthinking the past have hindered their ability to be organized.
They express a strong conviction that children mimic their parents' behaviors, necessitating the establishment of a structured environment.
The author suggests that organizing one's life is not just about productivity but also about achieving mental clarity and happiness.
They advocate for the therapeutic benefits of writing and discussing one's thoughts with trusted individuals.
The author is of the opinion that freedom and structure can coexist, and understanding this balance is key to personal growth.
They recommend specific tools and daily habits, such as planning tasks and self-care activities, to help maintain organization.

I am a very chaotic person. I always have been. And I always will be, I think.

Because of personal issues. I’m in a hard time right now and that makes me a bit scared in life, but I know it also makes me very strong. There are a few tools to get more organised and be more productive, be satisfied to accomplish your goals (which I never had).

Now I have children, the more I realise I have to be organised, give them the structure they need. They do what parents do. They’re a copycat. So, I have to give the right example, isn’t it?

I always knew it, but the practice was much more different. I have had too much negative thought on my mind. I really wanted to be more organised in my life, but I was also into a bubble of how to survive my life. I thought about my past too much. Since a few years, I’m aware of it. And little by little bit I’m picking up the pieces through therapy. Because of the circumstances, I haven’t had space in my mind to have my own structure in ly life. My thoughts and mind were somewhere else. Thoughts in my mind could be: “Why did my classmates bully me? What did I do wrong? Did I had to behave differently?”. All those thoughts were overloading my mind. But I am learning to organise.

Now I want to give more and better structure to my children and myself as well to get a healthier lifestyle, give my daughters a future I never had.

Why is it important to have a structure in life and how to organise?

Before I answer this question I have to say I tried doing lots of things to have a structure in life and to be organised. To this point in my life, nothing worked at all. I tried, I really did. And I wasn’t ready for it I think.

I also want to be free. And at the same time, I don't know what it is to be free. How do you know when you’re free? How does freedom feel like? Little by little I understand. What helps: talking and writing what’s on your mind with whom you trust.

To answer this question…

Organising is important to get structure in your life, your mind and the people around you. When you have your own structure, people around you — in my case my children — will copy what I am doing. Other thing is, you’ll know exactly what, when, where and how to do your things. It also created happiness, thus you’re in peace with your mind. People around you will notice that!

Tools to get organised

There are tools to learn to organise:

use apps on your phone that help you plan your tasks you will actually keep up your tasks

plan and do one task per day

plan one nice thing per day to do for yourself

plan two breaks with tea and/or coffee and your favourite cookie

do the tasks as early as possible to have more time after